15 Signs You're Going To Cheat On Your Boyfriend

Cheating is one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. If you cheat, you're almost definitely choosing to ruin your relationship. There's really no coming back from something like that, and it says a lot about your character. But what if you don't want to cheat, but you're worried you might slip up? How do you prevent your relationship from getting to that point in the first place? Is there a secret to staying in love forever? Well, the first step to being loyal for the long term is to watch out for any early red flags that indicate there might be a problem in the future. You can't control your partner's behavior, but you can definitely control your own. So how do you resist the temptation to cheat when things are going badly? Just watch out for these 15 signs that you might cheat on your boyfriend.

15 You've run out of things to talk about

In the beginning, you and your boyfriend probably talked nonstop. Texting, phone calls, Skype… you two were inseparable. You would never run out of conversation topics, and you would be up all night chatting and giggling. You couldn't imagine a day when you would run out of things to talk about… but it happened. Suddenly, when the two of you are alone, you can't come up with anything to say. You scroll through your phones and stare at them in silence. You feel like you barely even know what you used to talk about how did your conversations last hours into the night without an awkward silence? When you feel like you and your boyfriend have run out of things to talk about, it's a sign that you might go looking for someone else to talk to or do other things with. It's a major warning sign that you might end up cheating on him.

14 You're texting an ex

Usually, after a breakup, your first instinct is to delete your ex's number out of your phone. Unless, of course, you're still a little attached. Then you might just leave it there, never calling or texting… until one night when you feel a little lonely. If you're in a relationship but you occasionally catch yourself texting your ex, it could mean a few things. Maybe you two are just genuinely meant to be friends, and you're not talking for any other reason. Or maybe you're unhappy in your current relationship, and you're seriously missing your past. If this is the case, there's a good chance that you might end up running into your ex's arms when things get rough with your boyfriend. The chances of cheating are pretty high in this scenario, because you already had something special with your ex in the past, and you might end up wanting it back.

13 You get butterflies for someone else

You used to get butterflies when you saw your boyfriend. Maybe it started before you guys were dating when you first noticed him checking you out from across the room. Or maybe you felt it for the first time when he asked you out on a date, or when he texted you to make sure that you got home okay. Either way, you know the feeling your stomach feels all fluttery, your palms are sweaty, your cheeks are flushed, you're a little nervous, and all you know is that you love being around the guy who's making you feel that way. So, what if you start to get that feeling for someone else? Maybe a cute coworker or someone in one of your classes. Well, it means you might be thinking of straying. You need to figure out why you're feeling this way because it indicates a problem in your relationship.

12 You barely talk some days

If you go whole days without talking to your boyfriend, there might be a problem. Sure, maybe you just don't like to be attached to your phone all day-that's totally fair. And everyone needs a day to themselves once in a while. A little alone time can be good for you! But most days, you should WANT to talk to your boyfriend. If you didn't like talking to him, why would you even be dating? Doesn't seem like there would be much of a point then. You shouldn't have to remind yourself to text him, it should just come naturally. After all, who doesn't love a cute good night text every once in a while? Or every night, if you really love the attention. If you can go multiple days without talking to your boyfriend, and it doesn't feel weird, maybe you two are growing apart, and cheating is more likely.

11 You're not making an effort

When you guys first got together, you probably put a lot of effort into your appearance. After all, you wanted to impress your man! That's only natural-even though he probably loved you in sweatpants and no makeup, he definitely appreciated it when you dressed up, too. Every guy loves seeing their girlfriend all fancied up, who wouldn't want to show you off when you're dressed to the nines? But sometimes, you stop making an effort after being together for a while. Oddly enough, that could be a sign that you're about to cheat. Think about it, it's a sign that you don't care what he thinks of your appearance, and that you don't want to look your best for him. But if someone else came along who caught your eye, would you want to impress them? Would you want to dress up and show off again? If the answer is yes, you're headed for trouble.

10 You pick fights

Sometimes when your relationship is about to crash on the rocks, you don't want to be the one to end it. You dread having to actually be the one to say the words, “I think we should break up,” or, “That's it, it's over.” So you try to push your boyfriend to get so fed up that he says it first. You pick fight after fight, hoping that one will finally push him over the edge. But what if he's being stubborn? What if he wants to work things out no matter what? If picking a fight doesn't work, well, you might just decide to go ahead and cheat. If you're constantly picking fights, ask yourself what the end goal is. If you're actually unhappy, you need to just suck it up and be the one to end things. Take responsibility for your own happiness in your own love life.

9 You hide your texts

Even if you and your boyfriend don't have each others' passwords, you should be comfortable with him seeing your phone. We don't mean snooping here it's definitely not okay for your boyfriend to go through your phone without your permission. That would be an invasion of privacy, and it's crossing a line. But if your boyfriend needs to use your phone to call someone or take a photo or check his e-mail, you shouldn't feel worried about him seeing anything that he's not supposed to. You should be able to trust him with your phone if you're not hiding anything. So if you find yourself getting nervous when he needs to borrow your phone, or shielding it from view every time he comes around, you're probably doing something you shouldn't. If you're talking to an ex behind his back, it could definitely be considered emotional cheating, which is not a good thing.

8 You open up to other guys

So, if you're having trouble talking to your boyfriend, who do you talk to? Well, it might be your best friends, your siblings, or your parents. But some girls won't turn to those people. Instead, they'll turn to another guy. And once that happens, cheating becomes more likely than ever before. If you're opening up about your feelings to another guy because you feel like your boyfriend isn't listening, you're probably about to slip up in a big way. This is basically the early beginnings of emotional cheating, and this could easily turn into physical cheating in a short time. When you start to share your emotions with another guy before you share them with your boyfriend, you're choosing him over the guy that you're actually dating. And when you choose someone else over your boyfriend, it is really only a matter of time before you end cheating for real.

7 You miss being single

Sure, you're totally happy in your relationship, right? Yeah, definitely. Except for when you and your boyfriend fight, when you feel lonely, when you talk to other guys because you feel like he doesn't listen… well, when all that's going on, you might actually start to miss being single. And if you miss being single, what are the chances that you won't start acting like you're single? Pretty slim. If you're already in the mindset of a single person, it's only a matter of time before you catch someone's eye and hook up with them behind your boyfriend's back. If you catch yourself missing the days when you were single, you need to reflect on whether or not you really want to be in a relationship right now at all. Chances are, you don't want to date anyone. Instead, you might just be feeling a little scared of being all alone.

6 You feel bored

The early days of a relationship are so exciting. All you want to do is be around each other. You hang out all the time and plan cute dates. You stay up all night talking. You want to spend every minute together and learn everything about each other. There's just nothing better than those first moments that you realize you're in love. But what happens over time? What happens when that initial excitement begins to fade away? What are you left with then? Well, it's not always good. Sometimes even the couples that appear to be the strongest lose that spark after a while, and they end up breaking up. If you're feeling bored, you could easily be tempted to cheat. The idea of being with someone else can seem super exciting if you're in a boring relationship. But at that point, it's better to just break up with the guy.

5 You would rather hang out with other people

It's clear that one major reason people cheat is because of boredom. After you've been together for a while, your relationship just might not give you that rush it used to. In fact, you might find it more fun to hang out with other people. In the beginning, you probably couldn't think of anything better than hanging out with your boyfriend. In fact, you probably chose him over your friends a few times, even though they got a little annoyed at you for it. But you don't regret it because you loved spending time with him so much. If you reach a point in your relationship where you have more fun hanging out with new people, then you need to be careful because one of those “new people” might end up being a guy that you cheat on your boyfriend with. If he gets suspicious of your new friends, this might be why.

4 You're going out a lot

When you get into a relationship, you usually don't go out to parties as much. There's nothing better than cuddling up with each other, making popcorn, and picking a movie on Netflix. Who needs a gross, sweaty party with drunk people falling all over each other when you can enjoy each other's company in the comfort of your own home? But if things are hitting a rough patch in your relationship, going out might sound a lot more appealing. Drinking might help take your mind off things, and getting out of your house and hanging out with different people can also distract you from the problems in your relationship. But when you mix relationship problems with alcohol and a crowded party, all you're doing is increasing your odds of cheating. If you've had a few too many and meet someone cute, you're a lot more likely to cheat on your boyfriend.

3 You don't feel physically attracted to him

In the early days of a relationship, you can't keep your hands off each other. In fact, you probably couldn't believe that you could kiss your boyfriend any time you wanted! Every kiss felt better than the last, and every moment was super romantic. You couldn't believe you had landed such an adorable guy and you felt like the luckiest girl on the planet. And he probably felt the exact same way about you. But what if a few months to a year have gone by and that initial crazy physical attraction has started to fade? What if you don't get butterflies in your stomach at the idea of kissing him anymore? What if you barely feel anything when he reaches out to hold your hand? Well, you'll probably chase after someone else to get that old feeling back. Physical attraction is addicting, and you might end up making a few bad decisions.

2 You want to be independent

When you get into a relationship, it can be nice to feel like there's someone who truly cares about you no matter what. This person promises they will always be by your side. They will be your shoulder to cry on. They will be there to catch you whenever you fall. You can call him anytime, and you know he will pick up the phone, no questions asked. Crying at 3 am? Failed a major exam? Got passed up for a job you really wanted? No matter what the problem is, you know your boyfriend will be there to listen. It can feel amazing to have someone who you know will always have your back, but for some people, it can also feel restricting. If you're craving your independence and you feel like you don't have it in your relationship, there's a good chance you'll cheat in an attempt to break free.

1 You flirt with other guys

This is definitely the final nail in the coffin. If you're flirting with other guys, it's a pretty big red flag that you're going to cheat. Think about it, it's blatantly disrespectful to your boyfriend because you're making an effort to impress other guys and get them to like you. It's also a sign from you to other guys that even though you're in a relationship, you would probably be open to hooking up with someone else. And once you make a conscious attempt to flirt with someone else even though you're in a relationship, you're admitting something to yourself. You're admitting that you're looking for someone else, and that the idea of being with someone new is exciting. Plus, don't lie, you probably get a little rush out of doing something you just know is totally wrong. It might be exciting in the moment, but it will never be worth it.