15 Signs You're Gay AF
Are you gay? Okay, let's warm up a bit. Have you ever experimented with or fantasized about other girls? Don't worry. It's completely normal to have fantasies and want to venture out sometime in your lifetime but how do you know you're just gay AF? We came up with a list of everything you may or may not have personally experienced to help you know for sure. Remember, it's your choice what you do with this information. After all, it's your desires and your body. When I first came out, I realized that I wanted to be accepted without being labeled the girl who is just going through a phase. I hesitated a bit. But that's definitely not the case anymore. Now I fully embrace it and I can honestly vouch for each and every single one of these points. So without further adieu, here are 15 Signs You're Gay AF.
15 You Get Excited Over Girl On Girl Scenes
If you've ever browsed adult sites, you know the feeling that you get from watching two women versus watching a man and woman. Watching two women embrace each other's femininity is pretty refreshing. The male member gets a little old anyway, right? There are various websites that focus on women and not the man controlling or ordering the women to be hot just to appease him. That's kind of problematic if you think about it but I'll try not to go down that rabbit hole. Even if you're not into these types of videos, you may have watched a less x-rated version of your favorite female actress and her same-gendered lover and still got a bit tingly. Either way that you spin it, seeing women embrace each other is a beautiful thing. If you feel like you're really into this, then that could be a surefire sign that you are gay AF and there's really no other way to say it.
14 You Feel Like You're Going Through The Motions With A Man
Have you ever lied in bed and though you've consented to your opposite-gender lover, you still don't feel the way that you know that you should? It happens with a lot of women, believe it or not and either the man isn't tending to your sweet spot or you're probably just not into men, period. Many men can get off by simply penetrating. Easy enough, right? Well, many women can't reach their end without other things. Period. A lot of guys can't understand that and maybe a woman's soft touch is the only thing that can get you there. I know so many women who are intimate with men and feel like they're just not present in the experience and like they're literally just lying there. I learned that's never a good thing and that if you're going to be intimate, you may as well, enjoy yourself, right? Guys, this isn't a one man show so tend to your women and ask questions.
13 Your Eyes Are Drawn To Women
If you see an attractive couple and all you can do is check out the woman, that's a good sign that you're gay AF. This applies to when you watch movies and TV, too. When your eyes naturally move to the woman and not the man, it means that you appreciate her physique and you love to see a woman's body… as in, more than a man. But don't get me wrong, being gay doesn't mean you can't ever think that guys are attractive. But what this does mean is that you would be more interested in pursuing the woman and not the dude. For a lot of women, this concept is really hard to grasp especially if they've only been in relationships with men. But maybe who you find attractive has changed over time. That's not as crazy as you might think. In fact, it happens pretty often. Some women don't even realize when they're checking other women out but it could be a sign that you're more into girls than guys.
12 You Are Really Into Massages
Getting a massage is so relaxing and can help you destress from a long work week. But there's no denying the pleasure that you get from touch. In fact, touch is so important for humans in general that when they receive it (when they have consented, of course), they can't help but love it. There's something uniquely special about a woman's touch. You may have found yourself liking the very act of getting a leg massage enough to send you into a state of bliss… if you know what I mean. You may fantasize about her touch even after you leave and can't seem to get it out of your head for the rest of the day. This may be a sign that you're digging the idea of a woman's touch and wouldn't mind always having it. Try and control the urge to want to book a massage every week because, well, it could get expensive.
11 You Get Excited When A Celeb (Or Anyone) Comes Out
You're part of the fan club that cheers when people come out. You celebrate trans and queer celebrities like no other. You get excited every time a female celebrity comes out publicly because this means you have that much more of a chance of scoring a date or hooking up with them. This may seem far-fetched but a girl can dream, right? You also search movies and music for a scene lyric that just screams "gay." In fact, your celebrity crushes usually have something to do with characters who are androgynous. You can't figure out what to do with the feelings, let alone control your urge to sleep with these celebs. You're crazy about that time when Ruby Rose had a role in Orange is the New Black and you're convinced she's the only one who can be both the most beautiful femme and stud at the exact same time.
10 You Secretly Hope Your Barista Is Flirting With You
Every time that you order a coffee, you can't help but hope to see your favorite barista there. While you aren't quite sure if she's into you, you're captivated by the way she makes your coffee just right. You even pay attention to how she wears her hair or even if she's trying out a new shade of lipstick. If you pick up on any of these things, and if you indulge in some playful eye contact, well, you can probably figure out what's going on here. You usually just order and hope that you have a moment where your eyes lock. Other coffee shops may even have better caffeine but because she's there, you convince yourself that this is the best cafe in town and the only one that you can even think about going to. Yup, you have a bit of a crush and this might be a sign that you are gay AF. You just might not realize it yet.
9 You Scout Out Ladies With Short Fingernails
While you're out and you find a woman attractive, you always end up looking down and seeing what her nails are like. Truth be told, if the girl has short fingernails, it's not a tell-tale sign that she's into women but a girl can wish, right? I know when someone has long fingernails, they can still be into girls but… it doesn't take a genius to figure out why that may not be the best idea. Think about it… We always see scenes in movies where the girls have super long nails and I have to wonder how this is happening and why this is a good idea. It's just crazy. The fact of the matter is that if a girl is open to intimacy with other girls, she will have her nails cut down pretty short, and that's something that you always look out for. Yup, this might be a bigger sign than you even think and it's time to think about what this means.
8 Androgyny Is Hot
You're crazy about women who can be the boy and the girl at any given time. This is really handy because it means that you have a wide range of preferences. Think about a girl in sweatpants or a beanie and sneakers. You find women attractive when they look pretty boyish and you think this is the hottest thing around. You may have even tried out a few looks for yourself and felt empowered in one way or another. I know clothes mean nothing for some but for others, they tell a story that we're open, untraditional… and, well… gay. Think about the last time you went to a bar or a grocery store and saw a woman pose as masculine or gender non-conforming. What did you feel? If you were into it, then that's all that you need to know, and it's time to think long and hard about who you are and what you're really into.
7 Tumblr Gets You Off
We've all seen the soft "industry" type posts that are openly available on Tumblr. This means gifs that send our feelings spiraling out of control. Don't worry, you're not alone if you've ever stumbled on this site and then did some investigative research after the fact. It's hot, period. Imagine the hottest clips in your favorite erotic films or trashy films and you've got Tumblr. The lesbian clips are the ones you're most fond of and you can't help but sort of picture yourself on the receiving (or giving) end of that scenario. Tumblr is also super great with visuals, they know exactly how to trigger us in all the right ways. You can't really figure out how you continue to stumble upon girl on a girl clips on Tumblr so you're convinced everyone with an account is either fluid or gay. You also show your friends and they either judge or are down for the cause. Regardless, you're satisfied and can appreciate any girl who's unapologetic about their body.
6 Your Gaydar Is On Point
You're walking down the street and can tell your curious friend what the deal is about everyone that you see without any hesitation. Gaydar happens to be one of the greater qualities of people who are queer and yes, it's pretty damn handy especially if you don't know if a girl is into you or really into you. You constantly read into everything from music lyrics to hand gestures to the way someone licks their lips. You are the one friend in the group that just knows when a girl is gay. You're like Hitch for queer people. It's kind of magical. You may have even had gay guy friends and been able to pick it out. If you're someone with a closeted friend, you pick them out before they come out and when they decide to finally do, you'll be the first to say "I knew it!". You pride yourself on this magical ability and you even embrace it.
5 Girls With No Make-Up Are Attractive To You
When you see a woman not wearing any makeup at all, you find it super hot and you love that she still looks flawless. She doesn't get why you find her attractive without wearing all that foundation and blush and stuff, but you can see her expressions and you can appreciate her freckles and even the bags under her eyes because that's her and you're into her. You can definitely tell if you're digging a girl if she's not wearing anything special and you still find her totally and completely beautiful. You can't explain why but you'd rather see her in her most comfortable sweatpants and messy bun than in the most trendy and fashionable outfit. Nothing wrong with that, of course. To each their own. You just happen to be into girls who don't need all that stuff to look good and that's a sign that you could be into girls, too.
4 Beer Is Your Jam
Your friends are toting cocktails at your favorite bar but you prefer beer because after all, why pay for juice when you can have an ice cold IPA? You don't need anything fruity in your cup to enjoy your drink and you take pride in that. You know the difference between an IPA and a stout and you get super excited when someone asks you if you know what type of beer something is. You can't get enough of it and no one really understands how you can drink it. More than likely, you're the only girl at the table with a beer besides a few bro friends who may be there. The truth is that your drink preference might have a lot to say about your preference in terms of who you're really attracted to and who you really want to date. You may not realize it but it's honestly something that you should start noticing.
3 You Find A Reason For Physical Contact
You always find a way to wrap your arm around her neck for hugs or get extra close when usually people like to have their personal space. You give extended hugs because you want the other girl to really feel your presence. One arm hugs are for people that you don't really care about, after all. If you're especially into touch, you'll want them to hold you tighter and closer so they get the hint. You have no qualms about showing your affection for your female friends, either. You prefer to look someone in the eye during conversations and hang-outs instead of always staring at your phone. You always want to give another girl your undivided attention and you always hope that she will return the favor. And of course, you find a reason to get cuddly and snuggly during movies. Are you sure you don't know what's going on here?!
2 You Aren't Catty With Women
You avoid cat fights and you're usually the peacekeeper with friends. You can't understand why people are petty half the time and you do your best not to pick a side. You may also dislike seeing women being condescending or putting each other down. It's rude, first of all, but you can also realize that this is unnecessary mean girl behavior. Instead, you tell your hottest friends they are beautiful and if you have enemies, which you probably have little, you keep your distance and keep it moving or you can simply shake their hand and not have to give each other the stare down. You also can't stand when your friend shames other women. You make it your duty to always let them know that a woman can be and wear whatever she wants just like a man can. You even challenge the player-praising complex where men are rewarded for lewd behavior while woman are crucified by not only men but their female counterparts.
1 You Compliment Girls More Than Social Norms
We all understand the old "nice hair" or "cute dress" jam but what happens when all you want to do is tell the woman she's just drop dead gorgeous and you'd love to take her out sometime? This should be a red flag that you're gay AF. I personally know girls who wait for compliments to test the person's interest level and usually, they are accurate about whether this person is gay or not. It's all about how you say something, right? If you say "your hair is cute" versus "I really like your earrings or necklace" it's sometimes a little bit more personal. This girl excites you in general. This is how you know that this is probably more than just a compliment and that you really just want to find a way to approach her on a one on one level without having to deal with her friends. Yup, if you can relate to this and any other sign here, you are gay AF and that's the honest truth.