10 Ways to Cheer Your Girl Up When She's Down
No idea what to do when your girl's sulking and feeling down? Here are some things you can do to turn her frown upside down!
No relationship is smooth sailing 100% of the time. There will always be a couple of ruts that will come by without warning. One of the reasons why this happens is if one of the partners becomes moody, and starts bringing negative energy into the relationship.
In this situation, it can feel like there is a Harry Potter Dementor sucking the fun out of your bond. Another reason this can be happening is when your relationship is going through a big change, such as a change in your living conditions, jobs or even a major life event.
Sometimes, the culprit lies in the hormones. Specifically, your girl's hormones during a particularly trying time of the month. In this case, your best bet is to just brace yourself and look forward to the day when the hormones are no longer raging.
Nobody wants a sulky girlfriend. But at the same time, it can be tricky to reverse the situation. Sometimes people just get stuck in rough spots in life, whatever the reason may be. You don't want to become her therapist, but you also want to get some of the life and energy back in your relationship.
How to cheer your girl up when she's feeling down
Luckily, there are a number of easy strategies that you can employ to help you turn your girlfriend from a sulk machine into a cheerful charmer.
#1 Give her small surprises. At first, small surprises may not seem like they are very significant. However, they can actually go a long way when it comes to making her feel better. A surprise shows that you were thinking about her during the day, and that you care enough about her to get her a gift to make her feel good. This little boost of self-esteem and show of affection may help to lift her from her mood.
Some examples of things that you could use for small surprises are chocolate bars, roses, a cute little trinket or even her favorite snack. Anything that you think she will like will probably work.
#2 Give her a massage. Perhaps the reason why your girlfriend is so moody is because she is just really stressed out. In this situation, a long massage may really help to de-stress her. Massages are great for relaxation. If you are good enough, you can literally work the tension out of her muscles.
She will probably be very grateful for this, and it will probably put her in a better mood. And who knows, with the sensual contact a massage gives, she might be in the mood to return the favor in the bedroom!
#3 Take her on a special date. Taking your girlfriend to a really fancy restaurant can help to make her feel special and cared for. Maybe all she needs is a good wining and dining. Some great quality food and drink may just lift her spirits. Most women love any excuse to get all dressed up to go out, and simply having a reason to look great can be enough to cheer her up.
#4 Let her talk about what's on her mind. You may be opening a can of worms, but doing this could help her get out a lot of her frustration. She may just have a bunch of pent up emotional energy that needs to be expressed. You don't need to solve all her problems for her. All you need to do is to listen and be understanding.
Helpful hint - If you make her listen to your problems without returning the favor, this could be the source of the whole problem. Relationships are give and take, not take and take.
#5 Watch girly movies and TV shows with her. It may be difficult for men to understand, but romantic comedies and series like “Sex and the City” can have a nurturing effect on the female soul. So, if you watch them with her, you are really sailing with the wind at your back. This way she not only gets to bond with you, but the mysterious powers of her entertainment of choice can uplift her at the same time. It's a good one-two punch.
#6 Cuddle with her. As much as most girls normally love and need cuddling, when they are feeling down about something, their craving for it can go way up. Hugs, after all, are a great remedy for a ton of stuff like negative emotions, stress, and even tiredness. Give her one long cuddle session, and the spring in her step should be back in no time.
#7 Do things she likes that you normally wouldn't do with her. What's that one thing that your girlfriend always asks you to do with her, but you hardly ever get around to do? It could be going shopping during a Forever 21 sale or picking out a new shade of lipstick or even hiking through the woods despite you being a homebody.
Going out of your way to accompany her to an activity she likes will really show her that you care more about spending quality time with her than staying within the confines of your comfort zone. It's sure to bring a smile to her face, and she'll remember the gesture in the future.
#8 Try to make her laugh. Over the course of your relationship, you may have learned some things that really make your girlfriend laugh. It could be your impression of her sister or a funny story that doesn't get old or even an inside joke that you've always found amusing. Whatever it is, there are probably at least a couple of gems.
Pulling these out unexpectedly can entertain her and make her laugh even if she is feeling down. Once she starts laughing, who knows, maybe that's just the first step to getting her back to smiling damsel status.
#9 Be very physically affectionate with her. If you can hold her hand or kiss her more than usual when she's down, it may help her to get through it quicker. Physical affection can definitely help provide emotional support and it may be exactly what she needs.
#10 Cook her a nice meal. Spending hours preparing a lovely meal is just another way to show her that you care about her and that she means a lot to you. Also, if you are good at all at cooking, the good food will help her to feel nourished as well.
#11 Travel somewhere with her. Sometimes, it really is nice to just get away from it all for a while. Even if you can just take a day trip somewhere nearby, this can be very beneficial. It's almost like giving yourself a mini vacation. You see some new sights and spend quality time together, all within the comfort of a new and exciting venue.
#12 Help her with some cleaning. Although you may dread this option, there's a chance that she could really appreciate it. Especially if you live together, and she does most of the cleaning, then this can really go a long way. A few hours' worth of scrubbing the bathroom floor may pay dividends for weeks or even months to come.
If your partner has been in a bad mood for a while, it can really put a damper on the relationship. After all, when most people enter relationships, they are looking for excitement, positive energy, and fun, not sadness.
Getting through a tough time is a measurement of the strength of your relationship. Though a sulky girlfriend may not seem like such a huge deal, being able to get her out of an emotional rut can be the sign she needs to know that you're a keeper!
