16 Women Confess The Moment They Knew He Moved On

It is one of the most heart-wrenching moments. When you're completely in love with your partner but you know he's moved on. This emotionally destroying moment can happen while you're in a relationship or after you've broken up. Regardless of when it happens it's painful either way, at least most of the time. In particular if you still love him.

I don't know if you saw the movie Closer, with Natalie Portman, Julia Roberts and Jude Law. Well… there's this scene in the film where Dan tells Alice that he fell in love with another woman and Alice replies with these very true and painful words: “Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it", and I don't know when your moment was, but I bet you there was one.”

Unfortunately, we can't control our partner's “moment” when he decides to move on, to give in and let us go. It is utterly and painfully out of our control. But Alice is right, there's always a moment. In this article you'll have access to several interviews with women who could detect that moment and that sealed the fate of their relationship. Some are testimonies from the web, but most are personal interviews where names have been omitted to respect the privacy of these women who preferred to remain anonymous. Except for myself of course.

16 When He Said “I Don't Love You Anymore”

I thought I'd start with my personal story, which only happened a few months ago.

We'd been married for three years. I thought we were happy. We had life problems just like any other couple. But we got along great. He was my best friend, my confidant and at times it felt like he was my therapist. I had felt for a few months that things were not entirely fine between us. I kept asking him if he loved me, because deep down I didn't feel loved. He kept saying “Yes, I love you”.

Until that dreadful day came. We got into a silly argument. He went to the living room and I stayed in our room. I went over to say I was sorry, but he spoke first saying the words that would destroy my heart: “I want a divorce”. “Why?” I asked. “I don't love you anymore”, there was no emotion in his eyes or in his voice. He went on to explain that he had lost his love for me many months ago, but that he was hoping that it could magically appear again. I cried, but he stood there motionless. He had moved on many months ago, but I was just getting the news.

I finally knew that it was over a couple of weeks ago, when I asked him if he wanted to go on with the divorce, to which he replied: “I prefer to be alone than to be with you”. There it was. Brutal, honest, painful, and raw.

15 When His Dyslexia Got Better

“My ex had dyslexia and I was one of the few who supported him and loved him. And when his dyslexia got better he dumped me for a hotter girl. I always knew that it would happen but it still hurts.”

Love makes people supportive. When you really love someone, you're willing to take the good and the bad and do everything within your power to support your partner. What is haunting about this Whisper Confession is that the woman knew deep down that the day would come when he would dump her. Nevertheless, what makes it outstanding is that even if she knew that it would happen, she stood by his side. I guess what caused this woman further pain was that he left her for a more attractive woman. Forgetting the emotional value that she had, maybe the woman she was dumped for was more physically attractive, but what about the support and encouragement she had showed him? Was that unimportant to him? If so, then she's better off without him.

14 When He Got a New Girlfriend and Went On Holiday With Her

“Broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about 4 months ago. Within a month he had a new girlfriend - after saying he didn't have time for one when we broke up - and they've just gone on holiday overseas together. It feels pretty shitty.”

Of course it feels horrible! Three years together and it takes the guy zero time to get back on the horse. And if that were not enough, he takes his new girlfriend on vacation! I think in this situation what hurts the most is that he also lied to his ex. Saying he didn't have time for a girlfriend and then jumping into a new relationship after no time.

Chances are that in this situation he could have lied to his ex and used time as an excuse to let her down easy. Using the whole excuse of “it's not you, it's the situation”. But this lie of course didn't hold up for too long as he was eager to start a new relationship.

13 He Stopped Answering My Calls

“We broke up several times in the course of two years. But we would call and see each other for coffee (post-breakup) and would eventually get back together. But then it came, the final one. When we broke up for what it felt the one millionth time, he said he didn't want to hear from me again, which was what he usually said. But this time he kept his word. I called him several times after a few days, then after a few weeks and then after a few months, but he never picked up and never returned my calls. I knew he had moved on. But it didn't really hit me until he got married 18 months later. He had only known her for three months before they got married. It hurt a lot. Its been 12 years since that, and I no longer wait for his call, because I have moved on as well.

I ran into him in the bank a few months ago, I hadn't seen him since that day. I still got nervous, but he looked fat and that made it better.”

12 He Got Married to His Best Friend

“We had dated for 10 years. We met in university when we were both 19. I wanted to get married after we both graduated, but he wanted to work on his career, so I waited. We were both a few months from turning 30 and his career had finally picked up. He was making a lot of money, so I thought there was nothing keeping us from marriage anymore. I told him it was time to get married, he said he wanted to focus on his career and didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. We broke up. Two months later he started dating his best friend from childhood. They got married straight away. He had moved on even before we broke up, he just made it official when he started dating her or maybe he cheated on me with her. I don't know, I'd rather not think about that because it still destroys me.”

11 He Moved Away Without Me

“We had been together for eight years. Living together for six. We were just another ordinary couple. Our relationship had gotten comfortable, our lives had gotten comfortable. I liked it, it was peaceful. But then he started complaining a lot about his job and about life in general. We were only in our early thirties. It wasn't like a mid-life crisis, or maybe it was. I don't know.

I came back from work one day and he had packed his bags. He had quit his job that day and decided he was going to travel the world, WITHOUT ME! I tried reasoning with him, but he said he just needed to find himself. He said he cared about me, but that he needed more from life.

He started a travel blog and I would constantly stalk him, just to know if he was seeing anyone. But it hit me one day. He was in Tonga, and wrote a post about life. He had fallen in love with life again and he had fallen out of love with me. He's been travelling for the past three years and it doesn't seem like he's going to settle down anytime soon.”

10 He Never Replied

“We dated for three years back in the 90s. He was the love of my life but he was married. He said he didn't love his wife but that he would never leave her. Still, I kept hoping that somewhere down the line he would.

I was living in Canada back then, but after having visa problems I moved back to the States. We kept in touch through email and he came to visit me twice, but then I decided to stop because the relationship wasn't going anywhere.

I got married, had children and became a widow a few years ago. A few months ago I stalked him and found his contact on Facebook. I sent him a message to see how he was, he saw my message but never replied. I guess after 23 years he had, inevitably, moved on. I have also, but I can still acknowledge that he was the love of my life, and even if it doesn't hurt anymore, I still do love him deeply and I always will.”

9 When He Kissed Me On The Cheek

“I broke it off because I was confused about my feelings. I asked for some time. At the start, he begged me not to do this and said that he would wait for me for as long as I needed and until I got my head straight. I never imagined he would move on so quickly.

After a few months of barely no contact, we ran into each other at a party. We started talking like friends and I quickly realized that I still had feelings for him. I started feeling the butterflies in my stomach and pretty much just love for him. He was nice, friendly, but he seemed so emotionally detached. At the end of the conversation he said he had moved on and that he wasn't waiting for me anymore, that he had stopped doing so a few months back. He wished me the best and then proceeded with the kiss of death, he gave me a sweet and friendly kiss on the cheek, said goodbye and left the party.

I knew it was over.

I still run into him from time to time and I can genuinely feel his feelings for me have faded. He's always polite and nice, but in such a friendly manner that it kills me inside.”

8 He Left Me For Another Woman

“We had been dating for a year. Enough for me to fall head-over-heels for him. Everything was going smoothly, or at least I thought. Until suddenly he started acting distant, cancelled plans on me and started behaving weird.

This went on for about two months until I decided to confront him. He said he had met someone else and that things were picking up with that woman. More than sad I was angry. He had been cheating on me for about two months and didn't have the guts to tell me until it started “picking up” with this other woman.

One night after taking a detour I saw his car parked outside a house. Anger consumed me on the inside. So I grabbed a plastic bag and looked for dog poo on the street, I found one. Grabbed it with the plastic bag and rubbed it all over his windshield and door handles. I felt better afterwards”.

7 He Stopped REALLY Looking At Me

“It didn't happen suddenly. It happened during months, maybe even years. But I know he stopped trying.

Life took over us. We got married young, in our early twenties. We were married for 17 years. We raised two kids together. When the kids were young it was hard on us, we didn't have as much time together. My body took the toll of having two children inside me. At the start it seemed like he didn't care about the extra skin or the stretch marks. He still saw me with that incandescent stare, like I was the only woman in the world.

Then when the twins became teenagers something changed. I don't know if it was the routine that got a hold of him, or that I inevitably aged. It was not only my body, but the wrinkles on my face as well. I tried looking pretty for him, but he stopped really looking at me. It was like I became one more wall in our house. I hoped he would come around and one day he would magically fall in love with me again. But deep down I knew he didn't care anymore.

He asked for the divorce with this stare in his eyes, like he was tired of looking at my face. There was not a drop of love in him for me. And that was it.”

6 He Cheated and Didn't Even Care He Got Caught

“Maybe if I would have seen regret in his reaction I would have taken him back. But he almost seemed relieved I had caught him.

I was going to go away for the weekend, but I lost my flight. I got home and saw a car parked in our driveway. I thought it was one of his friends. I opened the door and walked to the kitchen, hoping to see them watching the game or something. But there he was, banging some woman against the fridge. He stared at me, not with surprise or regret, but with boredom and relief. Like I had ruined his weekend, when he had just ruined my life.

He never apologised, he never regretted it, we fought and he turned everything on me. How I never did anything for him and that it was my fault he needed to find comfort outside our relationship. He left that night. But he didn't seem sad, he seemed happy.”

5 He Kissed My Best Friend In Front of Me

“We had broken up two years back, but I thought there was still something between us and we had remained friends. Not constant friends but causal friends.

I ran into him in the club once and we started dancing and hanging out, but in a friendly manner.

But then my best friend started to hang out too much with him. I tried to seem casual and not jealous about it. But then he seemed more into her than me. He started ignoring me and just gave attention to her, so I backed off and let them hangout. I saw them laughing together, dancing closer together and being too much into each other. Then suddenly they started a hard-core make-out session on the dance floor.

And there I was, just staring at them. I think in that moment they both moved on from me. Needless to say, my best friend and I never spoke to each other again.

I later found out through mutual friends that they had started dating soon after that night.”

4 He Seemed Genuinely Happy

“We had one of those tumultuous relationships. We loved each other deeply, but there was also a lot of drama. We were sometimes toxic for each other, simply because we both had a very strong character, which made it hard to meet half way.

We broke up in the rush of a moment and tried getting back together several times, but when he wanted I didn't want to and when I wanted he didn't want to. Sometimes I think that it was our pride that kept us apart.

I eventually let him go and moved on with my life. But he always found a way to be a part of it. Like dropping by my art gallery constantly to look at new paintings and stuff like that. But then months went by and he stopped pursuing me. I called him and texted him and he wouldn't return by phone calls. I then saw on Instagram photos of him with this girl. He seemed genuinely happy and in love.”

3 He Got Tired of Waiting For Me To Change

“I had a gambling addiction to slot machines. I spent all my money on them. I went to therapy a few times and would quit for periods of time. My addiction put a huge strain on our marriage, and to be honest I thought he would never leave me. He supported me for years.

I took him for granted and I took the love we had for granted. But in the last years of our marriage my addiction got out of control even further. He begged me to stop, but I didn't care. I thought he would just eventually get used to my addiction and learn to live with it. But then the day came. We got into a huge argument and he said he wanted a divorce. We had been married for 32 years.

I didn't care at the time. I swore he would come back to me. I didn't even put up a fight at the start. He left our home and yet I didn't believe it was for real. But then after a few months the divorce papers came and then it was when it hit me. He was for real and not just playing around to make me quit gambling.

I begged him, I swore I would quit, I went to meetings, got myself in therapy and I quit! But it was too late. He said the day he walked out on me and I didn't try to stop him, that was the moment he finally moved on.”

2 His Expression Became Cold

“Now that I look back I shouldn't have told him anything. But I wanted to be honest. I regretted doing it. It was just a one-night-stand. It truly meant nothing and so I thought it wouldn't mean much to him. But it did. It meant trust, it meant loyalty, it meant commitment and it meant our relationship.

I know it hurt him beyond words and that's why he never looked back again. The moment I told him his face dropped to the floor and then his expression became cold and distant. I knew in that moment I had lost him for good. I begged, I cried and I told him I would never do it again. But my pleas were ignored. He wanted nothing to do with me. I begged him for months until he blocked my calls, blocked me from social media, and never spoke to me again.

I didn't know that side of him. To be honest… I never thought he would be so rigid. His reaction took me by surprise. No one likes being cheated on, but he truly wouldn't give me a second chance. I would have changed and I never would have done it again. Never will do it again.”

1 He Loved the Booze More Than Me

“I knew he was an alcoholic when I met him, and I married him anyway. He would go on drinking binges for months at a time and then he would quit for a few years. We had a daughter and two miscarriages. He always threw himself into the booze during hard times. But I loved him beyond words. He wasn't violent or abusive, we was a calm drinker. Just drunk and distant.

When my daughter turned 11 I realized this was no life for her. He had been drunk for six months straight. I told him he needed to choose, us or the booze. He chose the booze. I thought that after a few months on his own he would change his mind and come back to us. But he didn't.

As it turns out life with a wife and daughter was too much responsibility for him and it made him feel imprisoned. He never came back. I think I knew he had moved on when he moved in with some friends and I heard he was partying all night long with hookers and drugs as well.

I'm glad we got out.”