15 Types Of Men To Avoid This Year
Dating, relationships, love. It's pretty crazy how complicated and confusing this stuff can be. You would think that we could learn our lessons once and for all and then move on to the next thing. But sometimes we have to cycle through things multiple times before we reach a point where we really understand that it's time to change. This year, let's hope that we can learn lessons faster and honor ourselves more in the process. There's really no greater time than the present, right? That means recognizing that what you don't want is as important as what you do want. And you should definitely understand that you should make choices that work for you no matter what anyone else thinks about it. In order to do that, we have to be mindful about the types of guys that we don't need to hang out with. Here are 15 types of men that you should definitely avoid this year.
15 Anyone Who Doesn't Make You Feel Like The Best Girl In The World
It might be a lot to ask… but you should be asking for a lot because you deserve a lot. We need to stop settling for guys that make us feel only okay when there are guys out there that want to treat us like we're the most amazing creatures that ever walked the face of the earth. You know the difference when you feel like that about a guy or when you don't, and you can probably recognize why you'd be more inclined to make the guy happy who you truly adore. Same goes for them. It will save everyone a lot of trouble in the long run if you can figure this out earlier on. Becuase the truth is if that feeling doesn't exist in a relationship then it's a lot more likely to fail for a variety of reasons, and we might as well start relationships that have some chance of survival. If you can avoid men who don't make you feel amazing, then you're going to be off to a good start.
14 Men Who Are Halfway Into You
Everyone is dealing with different things in life at all times, and that means that a lot of us might want some different things from other people. But if you're trying to date, please make it a point to avoid the men who will only halfway commit. You know the ones. They make an effort to keep you around… but they will never call you their girlfriend. Forget it. It doesn't mean that guy is a bad guy necessarily, but he's making it clear that he doesn't think you're the only one for him. At least not right now. And if you feel like he could be your guy, then why on earth would you want to waste your time with him? When you hang out with him all the time and even sleep with him, that doesn't mean that he's necessarily yours. If you want a relationship, then that means that you absolutely deserve a relationship. Wait for someone who actually is worthy of the commitment that you have to offer.
13 Men Who Don't Support Women's Rights
They exist. Yes, really. It's shocking to even think about but there are actually men out there who don't think that women's rights are as important as the rest of us do. Maybe they're just a little naive or maybe they're just arrogant. Who knows. But he'd have to be living under a rock to not know that there's a lot going on in terms of women's rights and as a woman, you'd hope that the guys you're dating would be as supportive as possible. Sexism really makes no sense at all since men love women and they also wouldn't be here without women, but for some reason, that isn't enough for some guys to really own the fact that women are awesome. Oh well, their loss. The future of the world needs happy and supportive people of every gender so it's best to support people who are supportive of that fact.
12 Men Who "Neg"
"Negging" is this weird strategy that involves putting people down to undermine their confidence in a way that you actually get their approval. If that sounds icky that's because it is, plain and simple. Some men use this as a flirting method. The concept is that if a guy throws a woman off her guard she might become more vulnerable to his advances. It's a trick and it's definitely not a nice one. You've probably experienced this yourself. It sometimes happens at a bar. A good example is a guy complimenting you and then half taking it back. So he would say something like, "You're really beautiful… but you'd probably be more attractive if you weren't dying your hair." Or he would say something just totally weird. When you start to pay more attention to this, it becomes easier to shut it down. The practice is absolutely absurd whether it's intentional or not. No one needs to be accepting a date from that guy.
11 Men Who Make You Feel Fat/Ugly/Etc.
Not every guy is going to think you are the hottest girl in the world, and that is fine. But you do need to make sure that you are spending time with people who like the way that you look or at least keep their negative opinions to themselves. Sigh. Realistically, people might always have their opinions about the way that you look, but you probably do not go around harassing your friends about the way they look. If you do, of course, then you should not be doing this. It can really damage that old self-esteem to be with a guy who says things like "Babe, don't eat that" because he thinks you need to lose weight. Sometimes you might actually need to lose weight but it should always be on your terms and with the healthiest intentions. You should not feel the pressure to fit into someone else's idea of what is beautiful.
10 The Men Who Make You Cry A Lot
It doesn't matter what he's doing to make you cry. If you're spending your time doing a lot more crying with one guy than you usually do, then it's not a great sign. Who needs it? There are usually a few different reasons why this happens. Sometimes people just get involved with guys who are really not nice to them and have a hard time seeing that the behavior is just not good. Then there are also the situations where the guy's intentions are confusing or hot and cold which can make things really complicated. On the one hand, you might be closer to those guys than others and have some really high moments with them. But then when you get confused again, it can be heartbreaking when you're still just plain confused about where you stand with someone. In retrospect, we can usually see when we overstayed in a relationship, so let's try and pinpoint that a bit earlier and move on.
9 The Men Who Want You To Ditch Your Friends
Some people think that when they're in a relationship, they don't need the rest of the people that they had in their life before that. Sometimes this is a bit of an obsessive quality and sometimes it's an effort to try to isolate a relationship in order to stay in control. It's never a good idea to give up too much of your life when you start anything new whether it's a job, a man, or even a new friendship. Adding to our lives is great, but we don't want to edit out too much unless the things that we're editing out are definitely not good for us. It can be kind of hard to manage having a lot of people in our lives at once so naturally at times we're more likely to spend more time with some over others. But no guy should actively be trying to get you away from your friends if you still like them. Sometimes the boyfriend and the friends don't become the besties of our dreams, but they can still appreciate each other's existence.
8 The Men Who Can't Communicate
It is incredibly hard to have relationships with people who can't communicate… or at least it's hard to have meaningful and insightful relationships with these types of people. Guys who can't communicate aren't always great at fulfilling our needs, and they aren't always great at explaining why. This usually ends up creating more problems than it's worth. We end up spending a ton of time trying to decode someone's behaviors and even when we do we might be wrong and jumping to irrelevant conclusions. It's just not fair in a dating situation, and it's really not that hard to be straightforward with people about what you're feeling. Let's stop spending time with the guys who leave us guessing all day long and reward the ones who say what they want and also mean what they say. It's really refreshing to find people who can communicate with us consistently and effectively.
7 The Men Who Don't Answer Texts Or Talk on The Phone
There are a few people out there who just really don't use their phones much, but they're few and far between. Most people are on their phones all day long and are just choosing when to respond and to whom. Even the busiest people have time to respond to the people who matter. Don't you text your besties all day long and get responses no matter what is happening? You shouldn't be left hanging by a guy for hours on end whether you're asking a question or just saying hi. If you matter to him, he's going to respond because he knows you're waiting on a response. Also, guys should be able to talk on the phone from time to time whether that's just for logistic reasons or because you feel like talking on the phone. Unless he has like severe social anxiety or something, he can probably work it out and answer the phone.
6 The Men Who Don't Support Your Dreams
This one is tricky because it's not like he's necessarily saying to you "give up on your dreams." But even if it's just kind of implied when he talks to you, then that's not great. Way too often, the implication is either that you should give up on your dreams so that he has more time for his or that he doesn't believe in you. Neither of those are going to fly. In some circumstances, we do have to make sacrifices for other people, but it should never be totally at your expense. Imagine if some guy convinced you to give up something that you love and then you guys broke up and then you were just even further behind on your own life. That would not be fun. Sometimes people don't encourage our dreams by just not being supportive of them, and usually, we tend to distance ourselves from those types of people. Like if your mom didn't approve of your career choice, maybe you wouldn't tell her every detail. So why would you choose to be with a totally unsupportive and negative guy?
5 The Men That You Want To Walk All Over
Whoops. Sometimes we go for guys that seem nice but end up being total pushovers, and if you're a strong willed woman, this might turn into you walking all over the guy. But that also might mean that for some reason you don't actually respect the guy. For both of your sakes, it's best to avoid situations where you feel like you want to control the other person because eventually, it's definitely going to backfire. We're better off in situations with people where we're more evenly suited for a healthy give and take. It might be easier to be with someone who can't tell you what to do, but it's a lot better with someone there's a bit of check and balance in place. We don't need to assert our dominance at all times to prove that we're powerful women. We should be able to lead by being confident but kind to other people without overstepping their boundaries or letting them overstep ours.
4 The Men Who Lie
Lying can sort of fall into the bad communicating category but it also deserves its own. People lie for a variety of reasons, but the weird thing is that we often know that it's happening (at least if we listen to our gut). If you feel like you can't trust someone and find yourself on high alert looking for signs and clues that something is amiss. then it just might be. You don't even necessarily need to stay to find out what it is if you feel that strongly about it. Sometimes the lies are small and aren't creating a massive problem. But if someone is lying about small stuff, it's a good clue that something else is going on. They might not be trying to lie to you but there's definitely something wrong. If you know a guy is a liar or you just suspect that he is and aren't able to trust him, then you should move on. It's hard enough to figure out what they're talking about even when they think they're speaking the truth.
3 The Men Who Don't Want The Same Things As You
When marriage isn't on the horizon, people might be more likely to date people who they don't share goals and values with since it might not matter too much down the line. But you really don't want to get into a relationship with someone who doesn't like the idea of marriage and children if you do. Or vice versa. There are enough things to work out in relationships without having disagreements about really important things that could potentially alter your entire life. If you want to have children you should find someone who also does otherwise the torment that could go down might drive you crazy. If you dream of a life on the road you might not do well with a guy who barely likes to leave the house. Sometimes people change for people that they love but sometimes they don't, and some of these differences are can be real deal breakers if you're set on experiencing certain things.
2 The Men That You Swore You Would Stay Away From
There are some circumstances where it makes sense to give it another go with an ex or something since timing and life can get complicated. Yes, some people do deserve second chances. But then there are those guys who you know without a doubt that you shouldn't be spending time with and you do it anyway and end up torturing yourself. If you've gone through it with someone and declared that they have absolutely no place in your life, then maybe you shouldn't let them back into your life. We all have our slip ups but eventually enough is enough and we've got to move on. This year let's try and avoid those people who we're certain to find trouble with so that we can make some room for the people who might not cause us trouble! Don't forget that there are guys out there who can be totally exciting without ruining your life at the same time.
1 The Men You Feel Obligated To Be With
There are plenty of things that we feel obligated to do in life and our romantic relationships should never be part of that. We should date someone because we feel obligated to. You might feel obligated to hang out with your cousin because she's family but then you get to head home and forget about it. Not so much in a relationship. Sometimes we feel obligated to be with people because we're scared to be alone, scared to hurt them, scared of what they'll do if we tried to leave. Any way you break it down it goes back to fear and fear shouldn't be running the show. When it is we're literally allowing an intimidation factor to make our decisions and that means that we're making less of them out of love and hope. It can sometimes take a bit of time to sort through those feelings, but overall if someone doesn't add to your life you always have the option of not allowing them to be there. Seriously, avoid all these types of guys and you just might find true love in 2017. Worth a shot, right?
