15 Tricks To Win Over His Friends

You and your boyfriend are the perfect team. You get along great. You love spending time together. You have your routine down when it comes to hanging on the couch, eating take-out and watching Netflix. You can finish each other's sentences and can almost read each other's minds. You two are so good together!

But what happens when it isn't just the two of you? What happens when other people come around? As much as you love being a two-some, sometimes you have to add a few more to your perfect pair. It's easy when your friends come around because they're your friends. You're great at keeping up witty banter with your girls and still including your man. But what about when his friends come around? His beer binging buddies from college or Pokemon-trading pals from elementary school. How do you fit in with his group? And how do you get them to love you as much as your man does? Clearly, you guys all have something in common - you all think your man is the best. So it shouldn't take long for you all to become great friends, especially if you follow our tricks below:

15 Think Of Them As Your Own Friends

The first trick to fitting in with your man's friends is to stop thinking of them as just your man's friends. You have to think of them as your friends too. It may be a while since you've had to make new friends. And it's definitely harder to become friends with a group that is already friends with each other. But you can do it! Remember, your guy loves you and he loves his friends, so it only makes sense that they will love you too one day soon. So be yourself. Don't put on a fake persona and pretend to be someone you're not in front of these guys. Actually talk to them when you're around the group. Don't ignore them or exclude yourself from the group. It's easy to separate yourself but you'll never make friends with them that way. Push yourself to really try and be with the guys and form friendships of your own.

14 Accept You Won't Be The Main Event

This might be a hard pill to swallow. But you need to accept this: you will not be the main event. You are not going to be the center of attention. I'm sorry. We're sure you're the center of your man's world but that doesn't mean you're God's gift to his friend group. For example, they might talk about something you've never heard of or share an inside joke that only their group knows. They might go on and on about that one teacher they had in the third grade. And all you can do is sit there and smile. Laugh at the jokes you understand and look interested as best you can. Don't make it all about you and demand to have all of the inside jokes explained to you. But if it does get to be hours of sitting through conversations you're not a part of, talk to your boyfriend about it afterward. He may be able to steer the conversation towards something you understand.

13 Strength In Numbers: Invite Other Girlfriends

If hanging with the boys on guys' night is getting to be a bit much, call in the reinforcements. Ask your boyfriend to tell his friends to bring their girlfriends the next time you all hang out. It'll be a lot easier when you're not the only new face, or the only female, of the group. Adding more females to the mix will make it feel more like a group hang out and less like one girlfriend crashing guys' night. Plus, with their girlfriends in attendance, the boys will most likely be on their best behavior. There will be fewer inside jokes and hopefully less belching or other disgusting boy noise. And it'll make it a lot easier to hang out and get to know the group when there are more outsiders around. And you might even make some more awesome girlfriends! This is a grat trick that you really should try!

12 Put Your Phone Away

Now this might be even harder to do than to not make yourself the center of attention. But yes, you should put your phone away. We're not saying to throw it away forever, but give your cell a break. Yes, we know your phone is your security blanket. It's perfectly natural to pull your phone out when you feel uncomfortable. Like when you're at dinner and your man goes to the bathroom leaving you alone at the table. What do you do? You pull out your phone! But, if you do this when you're with a group, it makes you appear closed off and disinterested. No one wants to strike up a conversation with someone on their phone. If you're texting all night, your boyfriend's friends will think you'd rather be anywhere but with them. So feel free to check your phone occasionally and respond to your messages, but don't be on it every second.

11 Invite Them For A Change

Be the one to invite the guys over for a change! Instead of showing up to guys' night or having your boyfriend ask if they can come over, be the one to initiate a hang out with the guys. This is a really good thing and it will show that you are making an effort. Your boyfriend will love that you want to hang out with his friends. And the guys will appreciate you making the effort and contacting them. Maybe you can host a party at your place or invite the guys to join you and your boyfriend for a meal. If you start inviting them, soon enough they'll start inviting you. Then you won't feel like you're always tagging along with your boyfriend and intruding. And your boyfriend won't feel like he's always forcing his friends on you if they're your friends too and you're the one doing the inviting.

10 Don't Be Overly Intimate

This is probably an obvious one but just in case you did not think of it yourself: slow down on the PDA with your guy in front of his guys. Being overly intimate and affectionate with your man makes everyone around you uncomfortable. No one wants to watch a couple make out or be all over each other. So no long lingering kisses. Don't be constantly holding hands or touching each other. And slow it down on the cutesy nicknames. If you usually call your man something embarrassing like "honey bunch" or "sweet buns" consider trading those in for "babe" or, you know, just his actual name. We're not saying you guys can't still act like a couple. No one will get upset about a few quick kisses or a sweet arm around the shoulder. Just don't make it an all night thing where the guys start to get uncomfortable.

9 Don't Bring Up Insider Info

Don't reveal stuff that your boyfriend has told you in private. He may have let you in on some insider gossip between his guys. Or maybe he always rants about one friend who you think is a total idiot. How is he still friends with this guy? But remember that you're only getting one side of the conversation. Your guy sees you as a safe space where he can vent and say whatever he wants. He trusts you. So don't abuse that trust and air any of his dirty laundry in front of his guys. Don't let the guys know that you have the inside scoop on what really went down with Joe and that girl from the bar or that your guy can't stand the way Chris always brings up politics. And definitely, don't throw your guy under the bus for a chance to get in with the guys or to make everyone laugh. Because while they may laugh at your joke for a few seconds, you could make things really awkward for your guy down the line. You'll ruin your trust with him, his friendship with his guys, and your chance to get in good with the group.

8 Pay Attention

That's right. The key to get in good with your boyfriend's friends is to pay attention. Listen up! It may seem like a group of guys are the most unfocused group on the planet but it does pay to give them some attention. So when the group starts talking, listen. Pay attention and ask questions. Laugh at the jokes that are funny or one up the jokes that aren't so hilarious. Bring up things that you guys talked about the last time you hung out to show that you were paying attention. These people are important to your boyfriend and so they should be important to you. So when Scott comes over, ask how his girlfriend is doing and if he's enjoying his new job. When he talks about going back to school, ask what courses he's looking at. When it comes to fitting in, it pays to pay attention.

7 Bake Your Way In

Sure, it's a cliche. But it's a cliche for a reason. The way to a man's heart is truly through his stomach. No group of warm-blooded men is going to pass up a plate of freshly baked cookies or some pizza straight from the oven. No one passes up delicious free food! It's a great way to start winning the group over. This is a great technique if cooking or baking is your strength. But what if you're a terrible baker and burn everything you cook? Don't worry! The guys will be just as impressed if you open a box of cookies or order pizza. We're not saying you have to always buy or cook food to get the guys to like you, but it's a good way to start. It's a nice little treat, especially if your boyfriend is hanging with his guys and you want to say hi without getting in the way. Who wouldn't love a plate of nachos during an all-out video game marathon? They'll be dying to stay friends with the girl who brings treats and keeps the video gaming going.

6 Be Spontaneous

If your boyfriend's friends invite you to come hang out with them, you're doing something right! They obviously like you enough to invite you along with them. So don't waste your good in with the guys. Don't turn down the invite just because you don't have a full face of makeup on or because you weren't planning on going out. Be spontaneous and say yes! If the guys text to say they're at the pub across from your apartment, make the effort to put pants back on and go with your boyfriend. Of course, you don't have to say yes every single time. If you already have plans or really don't feel like socializing, you can absolutely say no. Or if they're inviting you to do something stupid, you can pass. Just don't be the girl who always turns down invites or else they'll stop inviting you. So the occasional push outside your comfort zone for the sake of friendship is a good idea.

5 Have Fun, But Not Too Much!

Absolutely have fun with the guys. Your boyfriend and his friends will love if you're the kind of girl who can play video games with them, order a beer at the bar or laugh at a dumb joke on TV. So definitely have fun! The guys will be super impressed if you can throw down a few shots with them. But you know what's not impressive? If you're the girl who starts dancing at the bar, crying in the back booth or throwing up in the bathroom. Tonight is not the night to be a messy drunk. Don't be the sloppy girl that all the guys have to take care of. No one wants to hold your hair while you puke or carry you home from the bar. You're an adult, so know your limits. You're there to have fun and hang out, not finish off an entire bottle of anything.

4 Be Friendly, But Not Too Friendly!

Of course, be your sweet and kind self when you're with your boyfriend's friends. You should always be nice to people. And we've already told you it's a good idea to pay attention to them, ask questions and laugh at their jokes. But don't take it too far. There's a difference between being a friend and being a flirt. If you don't have too many straight male friends, this can be a tough difference to find. As a rule, you probably don't want to be engaging in too much physical contact. Maybe a quick hug to everyone when you're coming or going, but no need for cheek kisses or any lingering touches. Make sure to spread your attention around; don't spend all night talking to one of his friends and ignoring everyone else. You're only dating one of these guys and it should be obvious which one. Don't give your guy any reason to be nervous or doubt your intentions.

3 Don't Be Mean To Your Man

Generally speaking, you shouldn't be mean to the person you're dating. Sure, maybe you tease each other and poke fun every now and then. And you probably have fights where you say things you didn't really mean to say. But you shouldn't be outright evil to your man. And you especially shouldn't be evil to him in front of his friends. You might not intend to do it, but it's easy to slip into a mean pattern if you see all the guys ragging on each other. You know your guy best so odds are you have some great material. But don't embarrass him. Sure, the rest of the guys might laugh but is that worth making your boyfriend feel bad? Another embarrassing thing to avoid is nagging your boyfriend. Just like you don't want to be the mean girlfriend who makes nasty jokes, you also don't want to be the nagging mom who orders your boyfriend around.

2 Give Great Girl Advice

One of the best parts about having you around when the guys all hang out is getting that great girl advice. Especially if you are one of the few ladies invited to hang out with the guys, your take on matters will be very important. Use your skills to help solve love problems, tackle fashion questions or even try your hand at matchmaking. Odds are your man has some single friends who would love to be hooked up with some of your single friends. Being the resident girl advice giver is a nice spot to slide into. You get to use the knowledge and wisdom you have been building up your entire life for the greater good. Plus, if the guys are opening up to you and following your advice, you are so in! They would not start chatting about their problems with just anyone. And you will become such an asset they will always want you around!

1 Don't Always Be Around

It may sound strange, but one way to get in good with your boyfriend's friends is to actually not be around… at least not all the time. Of course, you should make an effort to hang out with his friends, attend group events and invite them over. But it's okay to take a break. In fact, it's actually for the best. You don't want the guys to get sick of you, right? Let your boyfriend spend some time with his friends alone. Suggest they go out for a guys night, no girlfriends allowed, or give him the apartment for a night to host the guys at your place. The guys might love you, but they also love hanging with just the guys every now and then. So give them some space and let them be gross, play video games, order lots of greasy food and yell about what might or might not have happened at last night's hockey game. Plus, with your man busy, you've got the night free to go and hang with your girlfriends!