15 Times You Have A Right To Be Pissed Off AF

You love you're your partner and he loves you, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't drive you crazy every once in a while. A relationship isn't just breakfast in bed and morning nooky. While we all love the famed 'honeymoon phase,' a large part of relationships is communicating and dealing with the problems that you and your partner share. While all lovers get into the everyday quarrel about nothing, sometimes they can mask a deeper problem that, if left unchecked, can be explosive.

Nobody likes to instigate conflict but talking about what has upset you doesn't have to end in a fight, and (bonus) it can prevent a future disagreement. You might me surprised how willing he is to make you happy! You and your partner are on the same team after all. Start acting like it and tackle issues together instead of against each other. Then you can get back to all the heat without all the unnecessary drama, or cut your losses and move on to someone who is more suited to you both

15 When he's constantly making a mess in your apartment

Alright we're not saying us girls are perfect, but we never want to feel like your maid, or your mother. Your girlfriend doesn't care if you leave a dirty dish in the sink, or your shirt on my bedroom floor - she needs it to strut around in after all - but when your girlfriend finds your banana peels on the nightstand and has to double flush after you've used the toilet you are going to hear about it. Loudly.

She knows there are things that she does at your place that drives you insane too. Let's air it out. Maybe you can negotiate. You want your bathtub drain free of her rat-tail? That can be arranged. Your girl doesn't want to be a nag, but you leave her no choice when she finds your junk shavings in the bathroom sink.

14 If he keeps in touch with his exes

An Ex is an Ex for a reason. Your girlfriend will say she doesn't care. She cares. You should know it's not 'fine.' Ex-girlfriends that you care enough about to still hang out with are either super cool and you broke up for some logical reason, like you moved to a different city for a job, or they lit your heart on fire and sent the ashes to you in a care package. Your girlfriend doesn't understand why you want to be friends with your Ex. She definitely won't understand that you aren't thinking about sleeping with her every time you talk or meet up for a casual drink after work.

She knows you're in a different point in your life and may genuinely have an innocent relationship with your previous lover. You may not be doing anything wrong but she can never really know that unless she goes full-blown stalker, jealous girlfriend. Unless you have some magic up your sleeve that will neutralize the threat of your Ex in her eyes, she will imagine the worst and it will drive her crazy from the inside out. And then she will drive you crazy.

13 When you catch him flirting with your friends

Yes your girlfriend did say: “I want my friends to like you!” She didn't say: “I want my friends to fall for you.” She knows you are a charming stud with killer game, duh that's why else would she be with you, but you don't need to put the moves on her whole squad. It's a nightmare when your friends don't like your BF, but it's a sh*t-show when you feel like you are in competition with your girls for your BF. And we never want them to take your side when we're in a fight because you've convinced them butter wouldn't melt in your mouth.

It might be harmless, but female friendships can be tricky, fickle little things that you may never understand. No, your girlfriend is not being insecure. Just think how you would feel if she started batting my eyelashes at you're friends at game night.

12 If he tells you how to spend your money

When you do this, you sound like her Dad. You're girlfriend has a Dad and she loves him very much. Dad is allowed to nag her about how she spends her money because he's also the one that will send her something extra on the sly if she's lucky and he's feeling nostalgic. You are NOT allowed.

Your girl knows you are looking out for her, but she's big girl. She pays rent. She has a job. She has a boyfriend who has a job. She knows you care and think that she splurges unnecessarily but stop. It's not cute. It is very condescending to be told that you don't know how to handle your own money. She thinks it's crazy how much you spent on your flat screen TV, sports package, and don't get me started on your video game collection but she doesn't whine about that. Girls' expenses are different than guys. Despite what you think, your girlfriend can budget accordingly. So when you tell her how much she should be spending on her hair it really pisses her off.

11 He treats to you like you are one of the 'Homies'

You are her lover, partner, occasional roommate, and best friend. Yes, she can hang with your Homies. She watches sports with you and your crew, She drinks beer when she decides gluten is not her nemesis, and she's revolutionized your music taste with dope beats. You think she's awesome. Your friends think she's awesome because she can hang. But, read carefully, she is not your Homie. She is your girlfriend. Remember that when you are hanging out.

Ease up on the bathroom humor. Don't get belligerently drunk with her - she cannot support your body weight or break up a fight between you and the bouncer. For the love of god stop picking your nose in front of her, and don't send her photos of your poop. If this is all she sees of you, she will start treating you like one of her Homies. And you don't want that, because that means she's looking for another boyfriend.

10 If he picks fights with your best friend

The last thing your girlfriend wants is to feel like she has to play the referee between you and her Bestie. Yes, they are annoying when we're together. You find them obnoxious. They think they are hilarious. You hate that your girlfriend's best friend knows everything you've ever told her. Trust me, her Bestie is doing you a favor. TMI is not a concept that your girlfriend and her best friend can compute. And you do not want to hear every thought that crosses her brain. She need someone to edit all the crazy from her stream of consciousness before anyone (read: you) hears it.

Knowing that a third party is privy to the ins and outs of our relationship may leave you feeling a bit vulnerable, but there's no need to lash out. Bestie use all his/her Intel for good. It's his/her job. Your girlfriend's Bestie loves her, and wants her to be happy, which is why they've prevented at least half of the arguments I've started with you in my head but has never made it out of my mouth. Do us all a favor and play nice. Boyfriends and Husbands have been known to come and go but Besties stay. Forever.

9 If he has completely stopped taking you on dates

This one may seem obvious but it can really sneak up on you. Your girl doesn't need to be wined and dined every week. A date can be something as simple as a walk in the park, or breakfast in bed. It's not about spending a ton of cash on her all the time; you don't have to buy her affection. All you have to do is make her feel important, that is really all that anyone wants. She's already with you and in love with you. What she wants is for you to want to spend quality time with her and plan something nice for us to do. She wants to be reassured that you are still in love with her. If your girlfriend is always planning the dinners and movie dates, she's going to start thinking she's your concierge or that you don't care enough to woo her now that she's yours.

8 He's late to important events

Being consistently late is not cute. Don't be that boyfriend. It's one thing to be late when you meet your girlfriend, but when you two have rsvp'd to an event for: work, family, or whatever, there is an expectation that you will show up together. She knows that you have to work late sometimes but if you know you are going to be embarrassingly late just tell her you can't go. Chances are she probably doesn't mind attending an event alone if you think can't make it. She does mind making excuses for you. Repeatedly. Imagine how many people that have attended the event that you are late for. And now imagine them all asking your girlfriend where you are. She has to tell them that you are on your way, but you aren't, and watch them look at her with pity. It makes my stomach turn just thinking about it.

7 He tunes you out when you are talking to him

This is maybe the most annoying thing that guys do. When you tune us out, we know this is being done because you assume we have nothing good to say. Does this mean that you think we aren't smart enough to hold a conversation. Or is it that you think we are too opinionated? Either way, it is very rude and demeaning. If we weren't saying something important we wouldn't be annoyed that you weren't listening. Despite what you might think, your girl is not just talking to hear the sound of her own voice. She is trying to communicate with you. Just because you are used to the sound of her voice by now does not mean that you can dismiss her as white noise. Not only is it rude and insensitive, but also you are missing out on vital information that most likely pertains to you.

6 He has double standards about how you can both act

Whether your beau is old fashioned or not this doesn't really fly. Being chivalrous does not mean that you get to dictate how your girlfriend acts and what she does. This kind of sexist behavior is not cute and is relationship kryptonite. If you get to go on boys nights with your friends, your girlfriend is allowed to have ladies nights. Don't tell her that she can't have male friends, when you can spend time with whomever you want, whenever you want. Don't think that you can get away with office flirting and then freak out when someone checks your girl out on the street. She cannot control other people's actions anymore than you can control hers.

Remember that trust is the foundation of a relationship. If you trusted your girlfriend, maybe there wouldn't be a list a mile long of what she can and can't do. And the next time you tell her she can't do something, you should make damn sure you aren't doing it too.

5 He's gotten complacent

You're complacent at work, in the bedroom, and with the relationship. There's nothing wrong with being comfortable. Comfort is great. You girlfriend wants you to be happy. There is a distinct difference between being comfortable and being complacent. Sorry to say it but latter is boring. Being lazy is infectious. It attacks you from every angle and then it affects those around you. Drive is sexy. Change your scenery to get some perspective on your everyday mundane. Go on a spontaneous getaway. Surprise her with a gift to spice up the boudoir. Take initiative at work and put yourself up for that promotion. Your girlfriend wants you to be inspired and grow so that you can build your life together. When you get lazy, she will get restless.

4 He can't be serious when you need him to be

It's no secret that every girl likes to laugh and you girlfriend is no exception. She laughs at your jokes, at stand up, and she even laughs at her self. Sometimes we all need a little comic relief and especially when things are tense. The problem isn't that your girl can't take a joke, it's that you don't always have the right timing for said joke. Granted it may not be the right time for you to hear what she has to say, say that instead of making a joke. She will feel like you are laughing at her or that you don't take her seriously.

Chances are she has been thinking about having this conversation with you for some time. Don't just dismiss her. Take some time and think about what she has said before putting your foot in your mouth. A girl needs to know that you can be serious when she needs you to be so that she can feel safe with you and secure in the relationship.

3 He undermines you

During a discussion with your lover, no matter how heated, it does not do well to brush your girlfriend off. Let her finish her thought and consider what she is saying. She has waited for you to passionately state your point, and outline the many examples that explain why you (think you) are right, and now it is her turn. You are her partner and should care about her opinions and beliefs. You can't do that if you don't let the girl speak. Don't cut her off - it screams of the entitlement you may not even know you are flexing. You girl get's cut off enough at work, or really in any scenario, and it will be refreshing change for her if it doesn't happen with the guy she's dating too. Its pretty much part of the job description as loving and doting boyfriend to support and stimulate your girl emotionally, intellectually, and physically. If she can do all that for you, you can do it too.

2 If he ignores you when you're out in a group

So you have invited your girlfriend out to a work function or happy hour with your friends. You've introduced her to everyone and she's getting along fine. She is an adult and can handle new people. Sure, she can probably charm a crowd with the toss of her hair. That doesn't mean you can just leave her to fend for herself for the whole affair. If you were going to do that, you need not have invited her. A really simple way to do that is to cast a glance in her direction every now and again. Catch her eye. If she is engaged, bring another drink over to her. Be subtle when you are checking in with her. Don't hold her hand the whole evening, she just wants to know that you are still there and haven't forgotten about her.

1 He isn't there for you when you need him the most

Guys, guys, guys. Why is it so scary for you to provide emotional support at the opportune moment? You've put the work in to make her yours. You love having her around - she makes you laugh, she laughs at your jokes, she gets along with your friends, your mum likes her. Don't throw it away by cowering when she needs you. It's very hard for a relationship to come back from that because your girlfriend will think that she cannot trust you, that you don't care enough about her to be there for you, and ultimately that the relationship is not serious. And just to reassure you, taking your relationship seriously enough to support your partner does not mean she is asking for a ring tomorrow.

So next time you find yourself wanting to start a relationship with a girl you think is awesome, ask yourself beforehand whether you can show up for her when she needs you. If the answer is yes - congratulations you are ready for a relationship. If the answer is no - maybe you aren't as into her as you think, or you need a little more time to grow.