15 Things Women Apparently Find VERY Unattractive In Men

A lot of women have lists about what they find attractive in a guy (good hair, nice smile, certain height, sense of humour, and so on), but what about all the things we hate? What about all those cringe-inducing qualities that we bring up to our girlfriends later when we're rehashing the date with something like, “I can't believe he did that!” Not exactly dating deal-breakers, but there are a lot of things we simply don't find attractive about the opposite sex - and almost all of them are no-brainers that go both ways!

Beyond first impressions and first dates, these unattractive qualities are things we notice about a man ASAP, even if he's just in the same room as us. Even if he's physically gorgeous, any one of these 15 items can have us running for the door because they are that big a turn-off! Some might sound familiar, like bad manners and bad hygiene, but other qualities might surprise you a little until you look at the reasons behind them. For any guys reading this, take note. For the ladies, let us know if any of these unattractive qualities ring true to you - or if you think there's any we've missed!

15 Bad Manners

Obviously, bad manners are unattractive in both men and women, but bad manners definitely rate as a major turnoff for women when it comes to guys, because it's part of the first impression you make. From the regular, run-of-the-mill bad table manners like chewing with your mouth open or texting at the table, to other general bad behaviour moments like being rude to service workers or letting the door slam in your date's face, bad manners are anything but hot and a sure way to destroy your chance at a second date.

Bad manners read as immature and boorish, both of which can move from simply behaviour-related to reflective of you overall personality. It means you don't care about what people think of you or how they deserve to be treated - not exactly a good indicator of potential boyfriend material! If you need to be reminded not to talk with your mouth full or burp in public, you're definitely not scoring any points with the ladies.

14 Complaining

We all have some stuff we don't like, but if a guy is complaining about everything in sight and finding fault where none should be, it's time to kick that dude to the curb. Being a Negative Ned is just not attractive, because no one wants to be around that much negativity all the time. If your date is whining about how so-and-so screwed him over or how everyone is out to get him, it should be clear that the blame lies with him, not these other people.

Another turn-off in the same vein as complaining: whining about an ex-girlfriend. If a guy is going on and on about his “crazy” exes, it's pretty obvious that the common denominator here is him! Pointing to everyone around him as the problem is just a way of deflecting blame from himself, and there's no bigger red flag to let you know that there is something seriously wrong with this dude. Next!

13 Negging / PUA Tactics

Whoever told guys that a good way to get girls was through “negging” needs to be kicked in his special area by women everywhere. “Negging”, if you don't know, is basically when a guy goes out of his way to say something negative about you that's disguised as a compliment, so you defend yourself or think he's simply paying you a playful compliment. It's a manipulative pick-up artist tactic that any women with eyeballs can see as desperate.

It's hugely unattractive to see guys who go out of their ways to pick up women like it's a contest using ill-informed ploys like negging, which really preys on a woman's self-esteem while rendering the guy a grade-A d-bag! No girl with two brain cells to rub together falls for these tactis, and the guys who try to pull them off read as women-hating, “friendzoned” dudes who think they're entitled to our time and attention. #boybye

12 Selfishness

This doesn't just apply to daytime activities, where a guy who thinks only of himself can seem immature, self-absorbed, and shallow - selfishness also applies to the fun stuff that happens in the bedroom. While women sometimes get an unfair reputation for not being as into doing the deed as guys, we're also faulted for not being able to get ourr engine running as quickly, either. But guess what, complaining dudes? Part of this falls to you!

Multiples sources have stated that women find selfishness in the bedroom to be a major turn-off, because the guy seems more about getting his rocks off than ensuring his lady friend has a good time, too. Failing to warm the oven before getting down to business shows that the guy simply isn't that aware of female anatomy and that some, er, natural lubrication may be needed to get things going smoothly. Come on, guys, if you want to cook the pasta, you need to make sure the water's boiling first!

11 Clinginess

It's one thing to have a guy fawn all over you, but it's quite another when he simply won't leave you alone. Girls often get the blame for taking things too quickly, but guys can be just as guilty when it comes to locking things down and making it serious.

It's sweet when a guy lets you know he's thinking about you, but it's less sweet (and borderline stalker behaviour) when a guy is calling and texting you multiple times once you're out of his sight. Making your girl your number one job might sound romantic and devoted in theory, but in reality it seems like you have no life and are the kind of guy who ends up on America's Most Wanted lists. We have our own lives and things to do, so making yours all about us doesn't make us feel wanted or valued - it makes us feel like we need to change our phone number and the locks on our doors.

10 Gym Obsession

Look, we all appreciate a ripped body with abs that could grate cheese, but when a guy only talks about how much he can bench at the gym or how he has to have a meal with a certain amount of protein, our interest switches right off. We get it, you like the gym! Now shut up about it! Guys who blab on and on about hitting the gym - only to take a bunch of mirror selfies when the get there - are the equivalent of girls who won't stop talking about their new clean-eating diet: it's boring, and it makes you sound like you're a terrible person to be around. Health is great and all, but when it makes up the bulk of your conversations, we're gonna pass. Plus, guys who are obsessed with cutting and bulking make us feel insecure about ourselves and how you're judging our bodies (and we do that enough on our own), which means we won't feel comfortable around you, so this just ain't gonna happen.

9 Major Gaming

Unless you identify as a gamer girl or a bit of a video game geek, you might not agree with this one, but a lot of women find guys who play video games to be completely unattractive. Probably due in part to the fact that it's associated with kids and lends a bit of immaturity and a juvenile aura to it, but video gaming is not usually a quality that women identify as a turn-on. Guys who spend too much time glued to their screens seem like bad communicators and unmotivated, because they'd rather talk to their buddies online or the fictional characters in their games instead of real people, like us.

There's just something about a grown man holding a video game controller that simply doesn't make us want to drop our panties, even though you'd think all that thumb action could be worth something. If the old (ill-informed) saying is “boys will be boys”, then you can bet those boys will have video games.

8 No Culture

As we grow up, we take on different interests and pursuits in music, movies, TV, books, art, food, whatever. Part of the fun of growing up is that we have no restrictions on these things, so we can sample to our hearts' content.

That's why it can be a major turn-off when we see guys who are quite happy to be stuck in their cultural rut and consider everything outside of it to be “weird”. We like to try new things and usually want to share them with someone else, which is why a lot of women find it unattractive when a guy shoots down an idea that's outside of his comfort zone before he's even tried it. Sure, it can be fun to persuade someone into finally trying something new, but if your dude is shooting down your invitations left and right in favour of old reliable pizza and a football game, then it's safe to say you've probably outgrown him and it's time to move on up!

7 Bad Hygiene

If first impressions are everything, then it's definitely not a good idea to show up to a date looking (and smelling) like you crawled out of a garbage can. Bad hygiene is hugely unattractive to any woman, because it means you don't take any pride in or care of yourself - so you probably won't take any pride in or care of her. Unbrushed and unflossed teeth, no deodorant, unwashed bodies and hair, bad skin - these may sound superficial, but they are an assault on all the senses. If we want to get in some kissing action, we're definitely not going to be doing it with a guy whose breath reeks from across the table! Having respect for yourself is necessary in order for others to respect you, and if a guy isn't going to put forth the minimal effort required to keep himself looking and smelling good, why should we put forth the minimal effort of calling him up again?

6 Self-Obsession

On the flip side of bad hygiene we have self-obsession, where your self-respect and self-care goes a little too far to the point where we think you'd rather be on a date with yourself, since you love you so much. No woman wants to be involved with a guy who takes more time getting ready than she does (even if we do appreciate the result), because all that primping and preening reads as overtly feminine to us, which, in the biological cavewoman sense, simply isn't attractive. We're supposed to be the ones making ourselves pretty, you're supposed to shower, shave, comb, and be done.

If a dude has a wardrobe more extensive than ours, it doesn't give us jealousy, it has us thinking WTF. Self-obsession can also seem like veiled insecurity, and when a guy is checking out his reflection more than he's checking out us, we're gonna bail on the whole situation - fast.

5 Mama's Boy

Sure, it seems sweet when a man loves and appreciates his mother, but being a mama's boy is a whole other thing. (And weirdly, something some men are proud of.) Being close to your mom because she raised you and you value her opinion is great, but when your mom is dictating your adult life and infringing on your personal and professional relationships, you should probably cut the cord!

If a guy is acting like Seymour Skinner in The Simpsons - the ultimate mama's boy if there ever was one - then he'll probably end up with only one woman for the rest of his life: his mother. Mama's boys seem to be content to be taken care of by the woman who knows him best, and it's usually at the expense of everything else that comes with adulthood, like independence. A guy who can't take care of himself is extremely unattractive and nothing describes a mama's boy better.

4 Cheapness

We're grown-up ladies with grown-up responsibilities, so we're by no means asking for you to go crazy with lavish gifts and expensive dinners, but when a guy is really pinching his pennies, we might think that he'll be just as stingy with his affections. Great dates don't have to cost money, but when money is the only thing on a guy's mind (and coming out of his mouth), it can really turn us off of him altogether.

Cheapness can also work hand in hand with bad manners, especially in regards to the treatment of service workers. A dude who's a bad tipper is often pointed to as being unattractive, because there's a lack of compassion there for someone who is simply doing their job. Scrimping can definitely be beneficial in the long run, but keeping those purse strings tied too tightly might mean that nothing else is opening up, either.

3 No Motivation

Call it a millennial affliction, but laziness and a lack of motivation are one of the top three things women identify as being unattractive in men. Sitting on your butt all day isn't a job (unless you work from home or are a professional couch-tester or something), and a lack of motivation to change your situation can really upend the balance in a relationship. Not having plans for the future or personal goals can be a big turn-off, because it means you're not thinking ahead or working towards anything. While you don't have to have your whole life figured out yet (and really, who does?), having no passion or strong interests beyond sitting on the couch and watching TV is simply not sexy. Sure, laziness can be endearing, but when you make it your full-time (unpaid) job, don't be surprised when us grown-a** women drop you for the career we've had our eye on (and have been working towards) for ages.

2 Misogyny

In this political climate, we're definitely finding out which guys are woke to today's sexism and which guys are still totally, ignorantly asleep. Misogyny comes in a lot of forms, and none of them are sexy. Feeling entitled towards a woman because you're a “nice guy” is not attractive to anyone; saying a woman can't do something because she's a girl with - gasp - girl parts makes you look more like an idiot than an intellect; and mansplaining what we already know is definitely not a way to score a date. It's 2017, dudes! Being a friend and ally for those who make up more than half the global population is probably a good thing if you want to get by in this world, and actually supporting women beyond what it means for your own sexual conquests can definitely earn you a lot of respect. On the other hand, if you're still a member of the Misogynist Men's Club, there's the door!

1 Arrogance

And the number one thing women find unattractive in men is… arrogance! We all like a little bit of confidence in a man, because it's that self-assuredness that is attractive and radiates charisma. If, however, that confidence moves to cockiness and arrogance, then sorry, fellas, but we're out.

Going out with a guy only to have it turn into a monologue or interview about himself is no one's idea of a good time (except maybe his), and will definitely have us looking for an excuse to end the date early. If a guy wants to have a conversation with himself, here's a mirror. Confidence is a wonderful thing, but when a guy begins to think that's he's God's gift to women - and it shows - he can turn really ugly really fast. Hate to break it to you, dude, but you're not as awesome as you think you are! Arrogance is, without a doubt, the least attractive thing women almost unanimously agree on when it comes to guys. #themoreyouknow