15 Signs Your Boyfriend Totally Wants Your Friend

We have all experienced a crush on someone that wasn't our boyfriend. Oftentimes, it is his best friend or one of his side friends. We get curious, but we sure as heck are not going to cheat on our man over a crush.

Crushes are a natural part of life. You experience them and so does your man. It is nothing to feel threatened over, especially since at this stage there is nothing physical going on between the two of them.

Should you get angry at him for a crush? Absolutely not. In fact, it is the perfect moment for you to focus on how to make your relationship with your boyfriend even better. Think about it. If he seems attracted to your friend's sense of adventure, then maybe it is time to show him that you are also adventurous and can light his fire at a moment's notice.

On the other hand, if you see that the crush is growing into something more, then it is time to put on the big girl pants and let both your friend and your man go. If they want each other, there is nothing you can do to stop them from testing it out. Back away and move on.

15 He Shows Off His Boyfriend Skills

It is always great when your best friend comes over because your boyfriend suddenly turns into super boyfriend. When your friend's around, he waits on you hand and foot. He is always snuggled right up next to you when she is around and he will get up and make you your favorite drinks at the drop of a pin. He is great when she is around, but it feels like he is showing off.

A lot of things may be happening here. First, he may have a crush on your friend and he is showing her how great of a boyfriend he is. It could also be that he is not interested in her and he is showing her that he is totally devoted to you. Whatever the case is, you should feel fairly safe, even if he is crushing. After all, he is giving you all the attention and not her.

14 He Encourages You To Hang Out With Her

You have been bumming around the house all day, no doubt driving your boyfriend nuts, when he tells you to call up your friend to see if she will come over to hang out with you. That is not such a bad idea, you think to yourself, and you grab your cell phone. But then it hits you. What if he wants her to come over because he wants to see her, too?

When a guy is crushing on his girlfriend's friend, he might want to start seeing more of the friend and use you as an excuse to do it. He might even start pushing for you to call her and invite her over, even when you would rather be alone.

You can take this in one of two ways. You can either be glad that it is just a crush and he isn't seeing her without you present or you can be pissed with him for checking out your friend.

13 He Reads Her Social Media Over Your Shoulder

Whenever you get on the computer or pull out your phone to read your Facebook feed, your man is right there, wanting you to pull up your friend's latest posts. The first few times he did this, you just thought he was being curious. Maybe he was just checking up on you and your friend to make sure the two of you weren't getting into “trouble.” He could also be harboring a mini crush on your friend.

If he is just reading her posts through your account and isn't following her stuff on his own account, then he is keeping his distance. He's not trying to get her attention by liking her posts et cetera. In other words, he is crushing from afar and doesn't want to get any closer than where he is. He is curious about who she is and what she posts, but he will probably get bored with it soon enough.

12 He Suddenly Becomes Her New Best Friend

She wasn't that great of a friend to begin with. In fact, before you were dating your boyfriend, you really didn't see her all that much. Now that your man is about, she is suddenly over all the time.

Part of the reason for this sudden change is that your boyfriend has become besties with her. It could be that he is trying a little too hard to show you that he can be friends with your friends. Maybe he just wants to fit in with your crowd.

He could also be crushing on your friend and, in this case, you do have a reason to worry. If your friend was never a close friend, then it is time to distance her from your relationship. She doesn't need to be over all the time.

Make plans for alone time with your man and draw his attention back into your relationship. If he is unwilling to let his new bestie go, then you need to let him go.

11 He Offers To Hook Her Up With A Friend

Your friend has been moping around and complaining that she doesn't have a boyfriend. Then your boyfriend decides to get involved and get her a date with one of his good buddies.

It seems kind of weird that he is going to all this trouble for your friend, especially since the two of you haven't gone out on a date in awhile, but it is nothing to get worried over.

Sure, your guy might be crushing on her, but he is committed to you. The next best thing for him to do is to hook her up with a friend he trusts.

Does this make your relationship weak? Not at all. In fact, it tells you that maybe there are a few things you could be doing to make your relationship even stronger than it already is. After all, he isn't hooking up with your friend. He is passing her up for you and giving his friend a great opportunity to date your bestie. It is a total win-win.

10 He Smiles A Lot When She's Around

From the moment your friend walks in the door and right up to the moment she walks out, your boyfriend is smiling from ear to ear. The minute she is gone, he seems to slump into some mild form of depression. Does he like her that much that he is unhappy whenever she is not around? Or could the whole thing have been an act and was he just being super polite?

The trick here is to not get jealous. That will only make things worse. Your boyfriend may be genuinely happy to have your friend around and he may even have a little crush on her. For now, that is nothing to worry about.

Instead of focusing on how he feels about your friend, you should start focusing on how the two of you feel about each other. It may be time to work on your relationship with your man and bring the fun back in.

9 He has Phone Conversations With Her

I had a boyfriend who would occasionally talk on the phone to my best friend. I trusted my best friend completely so I never had a reason to question their conversations. Fortunately for me, nothing ever happened. My past boyfriend was just trying to be a friend to her because she was my best friend. I never felt a pang of jealousy the entire time.

Sometimes phone conversations are just for fun or for information. There is nothing wrong with a boyfriend talking on the phone to your friend once in a while, but if it becomes a daily thing, your man may be starting to have more serious feelings for your friend.

Pay close attention. If it seems as though he spends more time communicating with her than with you, you may need to talk to both of them about it. If they have feelings for each other, then you should walk out of their lives. If you are overreacting, they will let you know.

8 He's Always Offering Food

Guys have a strange habit of trying to feed the people they like. Dads do it to their daughters. Boyfriends strive to make sure their girlfriends have full bellies and they will even try to overfeed the people they are crushing on.

Of course, your guy might be a great cook and honestly enjoys feeding people, including your friend. However, if he is going out of his way to make sure your best friend is fed, there may be some primal feelings going on here.

While trying to feed your girlfriend should not cause an argument, it is just a signal that maybe you should start paying more attention to the way they act around each other. If it appears that they are just being friends, toss away the jealousy. If they are crossing the line with each other, you will need to talk to both of them about their intentions.

7 He Calls Her His “Other Girlfriend”

You, your man, and your friend all went together for a day at the beach. The sun was shining bright, seagulls were everywhere, and the three of you were snacking your way down the boardwalk. It was absolutely great right up until your boyfriend put his arms around both of you and called your friend his other girlfriend. That ruined the rest of your day and you actually felt a bit mad at your friend.

First of all, your man might have just been kidding or he was trying to help your friend not feel like the third wheel. It is possible he may be crushing on your friend, but you can't blame her for it.

Instead of carrying around these hurt feelings, sit down with your man and tell him how it made you feel without yelling at him. Talk it out. If he does have a crush on her, you need to know that he is not going to act on it while the two of you are still together.

6 He Is Frisky After She Leaves

The three of you hung out all day. First your man made hamburgers on the grill and then you all sat about and watched a new comedy released on Netflix. It was a great time and you all felt like you were teenagers in high school again.

After your friend leaves, your man is suddenly all over you. What is this? Did your friend turn him on or was it something else?

Honestly, it might be a combination of everything you did together. First of all, he had a great time. He was in great company and he feels all young again. That means he is feeling frisky and wants to play around with you.

It doesn't matter if he thinks he is secretly crushing on your friend. The good part is that it is all in his head. When it comes to reality, he wants to be with you.

5 He Does Not Approve Of Her Dates

After all this time, your best friend finally has a date. She is excited, you are excited, but your boyfriend seems to be getting weird about the whole thing.

Being a guy, he knows that some guys can be real jerks. He might simply be concerned for your friend in a big brother sort of way or he could be jealous.

It is normal to get jealous about someone who is just getting back into the dating game. It could mean he is crushing on her or it could mean he misses the thrill of a first date.

Instead of worrying over it, plan a special date just for your man. Take him someplace new or take him to his favorite place. Flirt with him and remind him of why he chose you in the first place. In other words, make every date as fun as your first date and he will never want to stray away from the fun, no matter what your friend is doing.

4 He Gets To Know Her Family

Your best friend called you up and invited you to come over to hang out with her and her mom. You are thrilled to join them because her mom is just so awesome. You tell your boyfriend that you will be gone for the day, but to your surprise he wants to come along with you.

How often do you hear of a boyfriend who wants to hang out with the mom of his girlfriend's best friend? Probably never, unless he is really interested in the best friend.

He might just be curious about what you will be doing and maybe he has heard all about how cool your friend's mom is. Perhaps he want to find out for himself. Your man could also be a touch bored and is looking for a bit of entertainment. That is all normal.

But your boyfriend could also be crushing on your friend and trying to worm his way into her family's heart, and that just is not cool.

3 He Looks Through Old Photos Of The Two Of You

Guys are not normally into looking at their girlfriends' photos of her and her best friend, but some are genuinely interested in the lifelong friendship.

If you find out your guy is interested in seeing old photos of you and your friend, it really could be just nothing but mere curiosity. If, however, he enjoys looking at the photos over and over again, start paying attention. Does he like to look at photos of just your best friend or does he like the photos of the two of you together?

Guys are always interested in their partner's childhood friendships. It helps them connect with their girlfriends. But if your guy is going gaga at the photos of just your friend, he may be harboring a crush on your best friend.

Crushes are okay and nothing to worry over. In fact, he may have a few guy friends you think are cute and you wouldn't mind seeing best pal photos of them either. It doesn't mean you are going to hop into bed with them.

2 He Accidentally Called You By Her Name

Ugh. Of all the names he could call you by accident, he actually called you by your best friend's name. Now, it could have been a total accident. If the three of you were hanging out together all day and he was thinking of something she said, he might accidently blurt out her name. It would not mean that he wants to jump into bed with her.

On the other hand, if he has done it more than once, then he has got your best friend on his brain a little too much.

You could always get him back by calling him the name of his best friend or his older brother, but that is kind of petty. Instead, pay more attention to how he acts around your best friend and decide if there is actually a real problem here. It could just be a silly crush that he will never act on or it could be something more.

1 He Jokingly Asks The Most Inappropriate Question

The two of you might be hanging out, having a few drinks, or you and your boyfriend might just be joking around with each other to pass the time away. In either case, he will suddenly bring up a threesome. Of course, he will make it sound like he is completely joking or he will pass it off as him being drunk. In either case he will be looking for a reaction from you.

You will probably be shocked to hear him bring it up, but you and I already know that this is one of those top guy fantasies. I mean, what guy doesn't think about his girlfriend and her best friend joining him for some bedroom fun?

Should you freak out? Probably not, but you do need to give him a firm answer on the subject. If it is a no, tell him right now that you would not feel comfortable doing that so he knows not to bring it up again.