15 Lame Excuses You're Making For Not Finding Love

When you're single, you hate being asked by friends and family members if you're dating or why you don't have a boyfriend yet. You're always super insecure about your solo status, wondering why people think that dating is so easy these days and why they don't seem to get that it takes a long time to meet someone you even kind of like. Dating is kind of crazy because you put your blood, sweat and tears into it… and have no idea if you're going to get anything in return. It's definitely frustrating and strange and can drive you pretty much insane if you spend too much time thinking about it (which you do because you love to worry). The problem is that sometimes when you claim you're not dating for a variety of supposedly legitimate reasons, you're really just making a whole bunch of excuses. It can be hard to admit this, but it's definitely true.

Read on to find out the 15 lame excuses you're making for not finding love.

15 You're Too Busy

Yeah, of course you're busy. Why? Because everyone is busy. Literally everyone. It's the way that society is these days. We've created this crazy work/life culture that doesn't have a whole lot of balance (and everything is tipped more in the whole "work" direction). But the problem is that you can't be so busy that you never try to find love because that would just be sad. And that's only going to make you super miserable in the long run. The thing is that there are busy people in relationships and there are busy people who are single. You are never really too busy to find love, even if you think that you are. If you're feeling overwhelmed by all your work and personal responsibilities, then it's time to de-stress and figure out a way to manage your life again. Then you can make time for dating because you definitely deserve to find love.

14 You're Working Hard

Since you're so busy, of course you're working hard, too. Those two things definitely tend to go hand in hand. Again, the truth is that you may be working hard, but so are people who are happily coupled up and totally in love. You can't use the lame excuse of working hard for the fact that you're not going on dates or even trying to find love at all. The thing is that when you start going on dates again, the guys that you meet are going to have jobs. Well, hopefully. If they don't, you probably won't even think twice about not going on a second date. The point is that you will be meeting people who work, which makes sense, since everyone works. So this is really not a reason for not dating. It's just another excuse that you are hiding behind. You have to ask yourself what you're really afraid of -- having the chance to meet a great guy? Isn't that what you want?!

13 You Hate Online Dating

This is a pretty common excuse… but it's just that, an excuse, and a pretty awful one at that. That's because no one likes online dating. When people who date this way are successful, it's because they know how to weed through all the profiles and pictures and find the real gems hidden on these websites and apps. Until you can come to terms with the fact that online dating may suck but there are still good guys that you can find this way, you're never going to be happy. Don't let your hatred of online dating and how bad and awkward and weird it can be, stop you from finding your one true love. He is definitely out there and chances are, because it's 2016 and absolutely everyone and their mom is dating this way, you're going to meet him on an app or website. That's just the way that it goes, and if you close yourself off from this, you're going to be sorry.

12 You've Had Tons Of Bad Dates

So has everyone. Really. Ask any happy couple and they are going to each tell you total first date horror stories. Everyone has them, and it's hard to escape this dating world without them. You've probably heard people say that before they met their current significant other, they really thought they would never find love because they just had such crappy dating luck. That can be you too… and it should be, but only if you stop making such crazy lame excuses and actually start working on adding love back into your life. Of course bad dates happen and of course, they don't make you absolutely thrilled. They don't motivate you to keep going. But they should. Because the only way that you're going to find love is if you keep trying, no matter how annoying that might seem to you, and no matter how many bad excuses you want to make.

11 You're Heartbroken

Sometimes it can be tough to move on from someone that you really and truly loved… even if it's been a while. Maybe you're still hung up on a guy that you dated a year or so ago and you can't stop hoping that the two of you are going to get back together. Maybe you're hoping that you and your latest almost relationship can date but for real this time. The truth is that these things are probably never going to happen or they would have by now. It can suck to hear that but it's better to accept the truth, move on, and make yourself happy rather than completely miserable. If you're heartbroken over a guy, it's perfectly logical that you wouldn't want to date anymore, but this just seems like an excuse since you never know who you could meet. The next guy you go out with could put your ex-boyfriend to shame and be a much better match for you.

10 You Believe In Fairy Tales

If you're a hopeless romantic who wants a fairy tale kind of love, then you definitely are making excuses for not finding love. That's because you want to believe that the movies are real instead of fiction and that you will be able to meet your Prince Charming while waiting in line at your local Starbucks. The only problem? This probably (okay, most likely) will never happen to you. You're going to be waiting forever, and you're going to regret not actively dating and trying your best to meet people that you can really connect with. Don't sit back and wait for your life to happen to you -- go out there and make it happen. You can create the change that you want and you can try your best to find dates instead of just hanging around wondering why no one is magically asking you out. You've probably already been told that your fairy tale dreams are unrealistic, and while it may be tough to hear, that's definitely true.

9 You're On A Break

Nope, not like Ross and Rachel were supposedly on a break (although you will never, ever get tired of debating that). You're on a dating break. You're taking a step back from swiping and chatting and trying to see if any guy is worth meeting in person. You're choosing to be happy instead of completely miserable and you're living your life. Which is good, of course. You should be doing those things otherwise, there's no point. But you can't take so many breaks from dating that you never, ever meet anyone and you never go on dates at all. You have to go on a first date eventually if you want to find love so you might as well devote yourself to dating once again and start going out there and trying. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot of things to gain, including love and a great boyfriend, so there's really no reason not to go for it.

8 You're Tired

Of course, you're tired. Any single woman who has been dating for a while is super tired. It's just the way that it goes. But honestly, you have to get past that and try your best to keep dating because the prize at the end is so worth it. You will definitely hate missing out on meeting the love of your entire life just because you're sick and tired of playing the dating game. The thing is that you don't have to play. You can be yourself and ignore any guys who try to ignore you over text or not admit how they really feel about you. You don't have to accept that crappy behavior just because it's such a big part of how people date in this day and age. You can absolutely rise above it. Once you take control of your dating life and make it the way that you want it, you're not going to have any excuses left for not dating.

7 You're Too Picky

If you're so picky that you think you can't possibly date because you would hate every guy that you meet, you probably know deep down that isn't the best way to go. First of all, you're totally depressing yourself, and second of all, you're being kind of unfair. Have you meet every single guy in your city? No, probably not. Okay, definitely not. So you can't really make that kind of judgment call. You have no idea who you could meet and you might like a whole lot more guys than you really think. Being picky is not a legit thing and it's just not a good excuse. It might actually be the most lame excuse for not dating that you could honestly and possibly have. After all, no one is perfect, so why are you expecting the guys that you go out with to be? It's a bit unfair, right? Would you really want guys to feel that way about you?

6 You Want To Focus On Other Things

It makes sense that when you're actively dating, that kind of consumes your whole world. You think about your upcoming first date all the time and it makes you so nervous, it's hard to focus on what you have to do that day (like your actual job… ) You wonder if this guy is going to text you after and ask you on a second date. You wonder if you will ever find someone that you like, let alone have the potential to actually love. You just have a whole bunch of crazy thoughts in your head all the time. When you're not dating, you have a pretty blissful life. You can do what you want, when you want, and not worry about making a good first impression on a total stranger. It's just really great. But the problem is that when you do this too often, you never want to date, and that's not a good idea if you want to have a boyfriend sometime soon. You can absolutely still date while focusing on other things.

5 You Feel Burnt Out

There's no burn out like a dating burn out. It's even worse than when you feel exhausted because of your career and because you're working like a crazy person recently. That's definitely because while you can reap the rewards of working hard in terms of money or personal satisfaction or feeling like you have a purpose every day, dating is a whole other story. It's hard to feel like you're getting somewhere for your time and effort when you can't get any dates for a few weeks at a time, or when you go on the worst dates ever and wonder why this is happening to you. You wonder why you have to put in so much time and get nothing out of it. But the thing is that eventually, you really will get something out of it -- you will have a relationship. That's won't happen if you just give up on dating once and for all.

4 You Feel Sorry For Yourself

When you start going down the super negative road of feeling sorry for yourself because of your bad dating luck and history, then you're in a really bad state of mind. It's so easy to do this… and it's so important to get out of this headspace. You are totally normal for feeling this way, and yet you really don't have to. That's because every person who is single, whether male or female, is dealing with bad dates and all the crappy things that go along with them these days. You don't need to feel sorry for yourself and at the end of the day, that's really just yet another reason for you to not date. Think about dating differently and start reframing this in your mind. You are absolutely an awesome person who is worthy of finding someone to love and who can love you. Stop feeling so down in the dumps and start enjoying the process of dating again.

3 You Are Too Negative

It's easy enough to feel negative about this whole dating thing. You can't believe how hard it is to meet someone. You can't believe how many bad dates you have to go on to finally get to a good first date. You just can't believe any of it, and sometimes, you just can't even with the entire deal. But being way too negative is essentially yet another lame excuse for why you're not dating. You don't have to be this way. You don't have to date this way. You're just choosing to. It's like anting else in your life -- dating can suck or it can be awesome, it's all about how you frame it in your mind, and how positive or negative you are. Think about how you want to live your life: with a happy outlook or feeling miserable all the time? Chances are, you're going to choose to be positive, so you should definitely date that way and start getting back out there again. You really have no reason not to do that.

2 You Don't See A Point

When you tell people that you don't see a point to trying to date, you're selling yourself short… and you're selling the whole dating process short, too. You know that it's possible to fall in love and be in a relationship, right? You see relationships all around you. Why would you think that you would never get that for yourself and your own life? You're not any worse than any of these people. In fact, you are a really amazing person, and you will totally find a boyfriend if you just keep going. You only fail when you stop trying. Remember the advice that you always got in school: if you don't try, you never know, and if you don't do your best, you are basically a loser no matter what. Okay, maybe they didn't put it quite like that, but that was really the general idea. When you feel there's no point to dating, remember that there is, and you absolutely need to keep trying.

1 You Don't Want To Date

When you tell yourself that you don't want to date, you're really scared of opening yourself up to someone. You don't want to be vulnerable. You don't want to show your emotions. You don't want to get hurt again because you have been in the past. But you really do want to date… because at the end of the day, like anyone else in this world, you really do want to fall in love. You want to have a special someone who thinks you are special, too. You want to live your life with someone amazing by your side, and you want to help each other through the high moments of this life and the low, awful, terrible times, too. You really do want to date, you're just telling yourself that you don't. It's definitely time to break down your walls, get rid of your lame excuses, and start dating once again. You won't regret it once you fall in love.