Am I Texting Too Much? 11 Signs She Thinks You're a Clingy Texter

If you ask, am I texting too much, your girl is probably giving off a vibe. So, back off and you will get the real answer.

There was a time in the not so distant past *at least for some of us*, where there was no such thing as texting. I know, right? I think the world was probably a much kinder, well put together, and sociable place without cellphones… but, I digress. If you ask, am I texting too much, then you already likely know the answer.

There are rules for just about everything, Millennial. So many that it is hard to keep up with them all, especially when texting. You worry if you are too forward, sending the right images, and most of all, you worry about am I texting too much.

Am I texting too much? 11 clues you're really overdoing it

What is the text back rule? The golden rule of texting! Don't ever text twice if you haven't received an answer. Basically, wait to get a text back before you text again. I know… dumb. But, if you play the game, you must play. Here are the ways to answer am I texting too much.

#1 She stopped responding. Okay, this might sound like a Captain Obvious one, but you might not be listening to the Captain. If you even ask, then you probably know the answer in your heart but convincing yourself that it isn't the case. Making up all sorts of reasons why she isn't answering, you probably miss the most obvious one. You text her too much. So, she stopped responding to let you know.

#2 You receive one-word answers. If you used to get large amounts of words back, but now all you get are one-word answers, then you probably text her too much. One word answers out of the blue mean one of two things. She is either busy, or she tries to show you she is too busy for all the texting. Either way, she tells you that you text her too much.

#3 Your blue suddenly turned green. This is an iPhone only answer. If you suddenly go from the blue “iMessage” color to the “green,” you are no longer in my network. Meaning you either got cut from her messages or she is trying to cut back on the number you send. Until you get the blue sign again, it is best to put your phone down and let her be for a while.

#4 Her “read” message is suddenly turned off, and all you get is “delivered.” Sorry all you Android users, this is yet again another iPhone reference. On the iPhone, when someone reads your message, their phone sends you a message that they “read” your text or they keep it as delivered even after they read it.

If you used to get the read and now you get the delivered only, she doesn't want to let you know when she's read the text. Then she knows that you wait for a response. And, she isn't into talking to you all the time. If you get the delivered instead of read, you text too much.

#5 She sends you messages like “Can I call you later?” and then doesn't. If you receive “custom” messages, don't assume she is driving and being safe. If it happens all of a sudden, then she tries to brush you off because you send way too many messages. Those types of automatic messages are meant to say, “back off, not now,” so get them.

#6 There are like five lines of your texting with one line of hers. If you texted her over and over and she only answered once, then you are texting her too much. Although I think the text back rule is stupid, I mean what if you saw something super funny and wanted to share? If you text out of control and she only intermittently answers, then you text her way too much.

#7 You wrote a novel of a text, and her reply is “yep.” Don't send her your life story. Texting is supposed to be spontaneous, fun, and quick. If you want to tell her a funny story more like a novel, either pick up the phone to call her or just wait until you see her next time.

Keep texting to a quick blip, or she is probably not even taking the time to read what you wrote. No one wants a novel unless they buy it at the book store.

#8 She turns her phone off completely. If you are unsure if your texts even go through because there is nothing on the other end, then she likely blocked you or turned her phone off completely.

If you saw the movie Swingers where Mickey calls his girlfriend once, leaves a message then isn't happy with that one. So, he goes back to explain again and again. Before he knows it there are 80 messages. That is what it will be like if you continue to text her if it isn't going through. And, that doesn't say you text too much. To a girl that yells “stalker” when she starts her phone back up again to your two hundred messages.

#9 She waits several days to text you back. If she waits several days to answer you back, then you text too much. Regardless of why she waits so long, being overly anxious and continuing to text when it isn't reciprocated, makes you appear needy and desperate. If she waits, then you wait too.

Sure, I hate games too, but if you don't play the game, then she'll soon be calling you out. [Confession: I'm a boyfriend who's too clingy and needy]

#10 When you are out, you notice that she isn't a texter. If you notice that when you are out with her, her head isn't an extension of her cellphone, she silences it, or doesn't even bother to bring it, first of all good for you, you found someone who isn't shallow.

But, that also means that she is probably not the “texting type,” which means that your relentless text messages are not going to get her to answer, but probably irritate her when she finally gets around to picking her phone up.

#11 She stops using emojis. If there is one thing most girls have in common, it is the love of the emoji. So as not to be misunderstood, we add these annoying little expressions of emotions, so that you know what type of mood we are in.

If she used to send them and suddenly doesn't really care how you read it, you are over-texting. She isn't that into it. Stop.

Dating these days comes with all sorts of rules. If it isn't social media or text messaging, there are all types of terms and unwritten rules to follow that can be, well, exhausting. If you think you might text her too much, then you get a back-off vibe. The best thing to do is to sit tight and go radio silent.

If you think your answer is yes to 'am I texting too much,' pursuing her more or blowing up her cellphone isn't going to get you into her good graces. Let her lead the texting thing. When you figure out what she wants, you'll know better if what you do is right or wrong.