8 Signs He's Over His Ex & 7 Signs He's Not

Whether you're aware or not, relationships play a major toll on your overall mood and energy levels. When things are good, you radiate with love and increase your spirit levels at the same time. When things take a turn in a more negative direction, everything seems glum and the energy starts flowing against you as opposed to with you. Relationships take work and can be a beautiful thing when executed properly day by day.

At the same time, breaks up take a decent amount of work as well. Getting over someone is an obstacle on its own and can take months to fully close all wounds. Actions and thoughts are crucial when it comes to getting over a former loved one.

In this article, we'll take a look at both sides pertaining to a guy and his feelings after a relationship. On one hand, we'll document the things he does when he's not over his prior relationship. On the flip side, we're also going to take a look at ways that proves he's finally over it and ready to love someone else again. Those signs determine that he's officially over his ex. Enjoy this article as we take a look at both sides of the coin!

15 Over Her: Happy For His Ex

Happiness is truly the key when moving on from a previous relationship. Although it might seem impossible at first, radiating with joy can help you move on much quicker than you ever anticipated.

One way this can be apparent is when a guy goes from anger to appreciation, when looking back at the time spent with his ex. Instead of looking at the bad times, you must look at all the good lessons you took from the relationship and use it to your advantage in the future. Show gratitude to the universe for what you experienced and move on with a sense of joy. In doing so, a huge testament that you've moved on is feeling happy that your ex found love again. Taking the bitter approach only proves that you're still hung up on her. Being happy that she moved on instead shows he's matured and no longer at that place anymore. If he's happy for her, he's moved on.

14 Not: Uses Spiteful Logic

His buddy informs him she's with another guy, his response “I'm not worried about her, I've got chicks left and right.” We apologize for the Jersey Shore lingo but I think you get the point of the convo. A guy will seriously show his colors when approached with such a topic. Those that truly have moved on are going to respond like the previous entry by being happy for his ex, while those who aren't, are going to turn spiteful trying to one up their partner every chance they get.

This can lead to ill-willed relationships just to prove a point. It can also cause a grand scheme of overall negativity as the dude starts living for all the wrong reasons trying to outdo his ex any chance he gets. All this means is that he hasn't moved on and doesn't want her to move on either. All this will do is prolong the fact that his relationship is done. Whether he realizes it or not, by using such logic he's just hanging on to prove a point.

13 Over Her: Burns Bridges

This truly is one of the biggest hurdles to climb when you really want to move on. Arguably, this is the most crucial way to tell if he's really moved on or not.

Burning the bridges between a guy and his ex basically requires him to break all forms of communication. So whether that be, deleting her on Facebook or any form of social media, deleting her texts and phone number or even telling her to stop texting or calling, these steps can have a huge impact on a guy finally moving on.

Burning the bridges can allow someone to avoid that inevitable relapse feeling that so many people get. It can be easily triggered by the simplest things like seeing a picture of their ex out or them “calling you by accident”. Burning bridges jumps over these hurdles and allows a guy to move on freely without the added distractions.

12 Not: They're Still Friends

Ending a relationship can be one of the most difficult things one has to face in their lives. Subconsciously, whether you're aware or not, some tend to look for any easy way out to facilitate the blow. One of those ways, is by staying friends, a solution that almost never works unless the pair have really moved on for good.

Staying friends and communicating regularly means a guy is pretty much not over her. This can mean that a guy just wants to hang on for a little longer and possibly help to re-create the spark once again. Staying friends can only complicate things and tinker with emotions. The ultimate outcome is often a negative one which consists of one person heartbroken while the other moves on. In order to really progress, a possible friendship can occur, but that needs to happen years after. If a relationship ends, it's time to turn a new page and avoid any type of friendly relationship with your ex.

11 Over Her: Doesn't Bring Her Up Anymore

Life is governed through what you think about. Thoughts become things. So, the more you think about someone, the more their name manages to come up more times than not. No, this is not a coincidence, but rather, your thoughts manifesting themselves in everyday life. Don't underestimate the power of the universe, it's always watching.

When a guy is still hung up on his ex, their name seems to pop with just about everywhere whether it be with friends or even family. This is a true representation that a guy isn't over his ex and that she still lingers in his thoughts.

A big telling factor that he's finally over her is when those topics of conversation suddenly disappear. This means, a guy is finally focused on other things as his bodily energy begins to harness other types of conversation topics. When he truly stops bringing her up or those around him avoid the discussion, it's truly a great sign he's moved on and ready to focus on other things.

10 Not: Constantly Bashing Her

It seems like a cliché because of so many Hollywood films pounding away at that concept pertaining to a break up but it's in fact a pretty big step to take when moving on. Hanging on to things from a prior relationship only means that the guy is still holding on to hope. All that does is create an even bigger force-field of negativity reminding you of what you had and that it's all lost.

Instead, throwing away those things shows you are finally ready to move on and taking the necessary steps. Sure a guy might have some set-backs but doing so just proves that's he's willing to at least try to move on. Throwing away those precious memories offers a fresh start and more than anything a clean slate, something everyone desperately needs following a failed relationship. Like burning bridges, throwing away the memories is another crucial step in a guy allowing himself the possibility to fully move on with the obvious setbacks out of the way.

8 Not: Doesn't Throw Away The Memories

Packing all of those precious memories from a prior relationship neatly into a box is one thing, but actually throwing them out is another. Although some don't realize the profound impact of this, it can in fact prove that a guy is still not over his ex. Most people do box away all the reminders and goods, but it truly all depends what happens after that. When you moved on, you'll be able to throw away those things without looking back. That proves, you're ready and willing to put the relationship behind you. On the flip side, it can also mean you are not.

How? Well getting rid of those things is an admirable step but it must have closure. Simply packing it away in a storage room or under your bed is basically saying you're not fully ready to throw those things away, hence you haven't moved on just yet. When he's unwilling to actually throw it out, it just shows he truly isn't quite done yet.

7 Over Her: Starts Telling People He's Single Again

Now for this to truly show he's moved on, it must not happen out of spite and instead naturally. This tends to take some time especially in terms of long-term relationships. Once a true break up happens, the last thing you're thinking about is hooking up with someone else. For some, this takes weeks to get over and maybe even months. After all the dust finally settles, showing his willingness to get back out there and find love again is a true turning point in showing that he's moved on. Remember, when you break up with someone it's because you're searching for something else, and declaring yourself single is a good step in following that very path.

On the contrary, being unwilling to declare that you're single only shows that you haven't quite moved on. In some instances, a guy might be waiting for his ex to enter a relationship first which gives him a greater sense of closure. In all honesty, this should not be done and can only lead to a negative outcome. You must take advantage of your own emotions and put less of a focus on your ex and more of an emphasis on your feelings.

6 Not: Lives For Nostalgia

Nostalgia: A wishful desire to return in thought or in fact to a former time in one's life; a sentiment yearning for the happiness of a former place or time (dictionary.com).

Nostalgia is certainly something great and a feeling we love to re-live whether it be going back to an old place or listening to a song you heard back in the day. These moments offer us a chilling sentiment. However, in most cases we aren't constantly banking on nostalgia and instead looking ahead to the future and the greatness that lies ahead. In a relationship, when a guy hasn't moved on, he fails to get passed this point and continues to reminisce on the good times, constantly bringing up old memories you had together.

This type of problem can worsen when a guy is dating someone else. To get that nostalgic feeling back, a person might bring their new partner to those same places in order to get that nostalgic feeling once again. The sad truth, this happens more times than you'd think when couples are trying to move on.

The true key for such a situation, turn the page and start fresh.

5 Over Her: Jumps Into Another Relationship

This doesn't necessarily mean he's completely moved on but it's a good way of showing that he is open to exploring new horizons and possibly a future with someone else. For that, this can be a huge factor indicating he's moved on.

For this to successfully carry over, a guy must enter a relationship willing to officially turn the page. If that doesn't happen, happiness is going to forever seem like a distant dream. When he's finally willing to lay his prior relationship to bed, a new coupling can prove to be the final dagger in showing he's moved on. With time, the things that once bothered him are going to eventually diminish and he'll be able to be happy once again. After all isn't that the goal in life, simply to experience joy and happiness on a day to day basis. Finding a new partner can certainly put a guy on that path and furthermore proves that he's over his last relationship.

4 Not: Puts Himself In Situations To See Her

If a guy always seems to end up at the same place as his ex then there is a little more than just a coincidence going on. This can happen consciously or subconsciously. Consciously, he remains friends with the same group thus will be invited to the same places. This will only makes things harder when it comes to moving on. Subconsciously, it can also play a role. The more you think about someone, the more they seem to come up in your life. As we discussed earlier, thoughts become things. When the intent is to see someone, it somehow manages to manifest itself one way or another. Coincidence, we think not.

Still, seeing an ex just shows that there might be some unfinished business. It can also prolong the process of moving on. If a guy truly intends to grow, he'll do his best to avoid running into his ex. If he doesn't take those steps, he's still into her.

3 Over Her: Radiates With Positive Energy

A great part about the functional quality of energy in life is that you can feel it. When someone talks or even just moves, you can feel their energy, whether it be positive or negative. For most people, following a break up, those energy levels are shot way down. Rightfully so, it takes time to heal and get back up to feeling good again when such a situation occurs.

With that said, once he's truly moved on you can feel it based on his actions and words alone. It's like this euphoric sensation you can just sense. When people are feeling good it has a bigger effect on you then you may realize. The impact is certainly profound and can prove to be one of the major tipping points in seeing if a guy has truly moved on.

The final point which we'll discuss goes hand-in-hand with this topic of positive energy.

2 Not: Still Reaches Out

Even if it seems like the most innocent text message, the fact that he's reaching out proves there's still something going on with his emotions. Just the fact that he thought about contacting his ex proves there's some sort of unfinished business going on.

Without a guy even realizing it, his inner emotions might be looking for any type of way to contact an ex. Whether that be something she forgot at his house or something that reminded him of her, these little things can be something a guy looks for as a way to reach out and once again talk to their former mates. Usually, this means they miss them and the door isn't fully closed yet.

Doing so can just start a whole new spiral of emotions which generally leads down the same negative path. When he's truly willing to get over her, these precautions will not be taken any longer. If they are however, he's probably still dwelling on the relationship.

1 Over Her: Seems Like Himself Again

Linking to our point of positive energy, a guy truly is over her once he can be himself again. When break ups happen, the sad reality is that a lot of people lose their way. Whether it be due to a lack of self-esteem or a negative mind-set, these factors cause a person to lose sight of exactly who they are and what they represent.

Thankfully, that feeling doesn't last forever. Time does in fact heal wounds and once a guy is fully over the hill of his failed relationship, he'll start acting like himself again. Actions and body language is one of the most crucial components in assessing if a guy has truly moved on or still seems to be stuck in the same place he just can't get out of. If he seems to be radiating with joy and acting like his cool self again, that's a big way to determine that he's moved on and is no longer feeling sorry for himself.