15 Worst Ways To Break It Off

There are so many wrong ways to break up with a person. Most of the methods are used by cowards. Immature people favor some pretty awful methods, too. Very few people have a legitimate reason to use any one of these methods.

The only mature way to break off a relationship is face to face. You have got to keep your cool about it and act like an adult.

Breaking up does not mean having an argument. It is simply telling someone that the relationship is over, you wish them all the best, and goodbye.

Don't suggest being friends, making the other person suffer through your next relationship. Saying goodbye and making an exit is the kindest, most mature thing you can do.

If your former partner gets upset and starts to make a scene or tries to start an argument, get up and walk away. You said what you needed to say and the other person will have to come to terms with it in his or her own way.

While hard to do, keep your break up positive. Don't sit there and list off all the reasons why you are breaking up with the other person. It will only hurt him more. Keep it short and clean, and move on.

15 Have A Mutual Friend Break The News

You are at a party when all of a sudden your boyfriend's best bud comes up to you and tells you that you are now single. Your boyfriend is calling it quits and he is too scared to tell you himself. That is why he is having a friend do it for him.

How would you feel if this happened to you? No doubt you would want to hunt the bugger down and have a face to face scream match with him.

If you want drama in your life, then by all means, go ahead and get your friend to end the relationship for you. Everyone who finds out about what you did will think you are a jerk.

Breaking up with someone like this is almost as bad as ghosting them. It is mean and totally disrespectful.

Don't expect your ex to be even remotely nice to you after you pull a stunt like this.

14 Through Text Message

Cellphones have brought us yet another crappy way to break up with someone: through a text message!

I can spot the type of person who will break up via text from a mile away. That person has her phone in her hand and is texting on the darn thing nonstop. She lives through her phone and, of course, thinks nothing of breaking up over her phone. It's an extension of her shallow self.

I get the wonder and convenience of the smartphone. I can search for directions, check the stock market, and call up my friends in a single second. What I don't use my phone for is conducting extremely personal business.

Texts can last forever. People can steal your phone and read all your messages. Your phone can be hacked. Your ex can take screenshots of your messages and show them to the world.

Keep your private life private and do the breakup in person.

13 In Public

Let's say you and your soon to be ex are having lunch at a fast food joint. He says something that totally annoys you and you decide to end the madness right there. He reacts badly to it and creates a scene. Everyone is staring at you or worse. Maybe someone has their smartphone pointed at you and plans to post the “funny” scene.

Or pretend that you break up with your boyfriend at the park. He starts yelling and crying. Someone sees the action and pulls out their phone. Again, your breakup could go viral and you could easily lose your job over this.

Keep breakups in private and avoid doing it in a place where someone could film the action to share on social media. You don't want that embarrassment in your life and a public video of your breakup could negatively impact the quality of your life.

12 Right Before Work

Did something bad ever happen to you right before you had to go to work and it screwed up your entire day? Sure, it has happened to all of us and it totally sucked.

Imagine what it would be like if someone you love broke up with you while you were on your commute to work. That would be pretty damn awful, wouldn't it?

If you know that you would hate something done to you, then don't do it to someone else. Never break up with someone right before they go to work.

Work is important. We all have bills to pay. No matter how much he has upset you, be the bigger person and don't risk his job over a breakup.

Instead, wait until he gets home from work and has had a moment to eat and unwind. Then, have a conversation with him and end the relationship.

11 Paper Letter

Breakup letters are something that is done in high school. You and your so-called boyfriend aren't doing so well, so you write him a heartfelt letter and pass it to him in the hallway. Next thing you know, the whole school has read it and you are now being slut-shamed by everyone in the building.

Writing a letter to break up is hardly the adult thing to do when a relationship is over. First of all, you look like a coward for breaking up in a letter. Second, that letter can come back to haunt you one day. Always be careful about what you write and never write anything that could damage your future reputation.

Skip the letter writing and tell it to his face. That way, if he wants to start trouble for you in the future, it comes down to a he said, she said situation. Nothing is in print.

10 On Facebook

How old are you? Twelve?

I have been on Facebook long enough to see just about everything. Some of the hardest things to witness include married couples arguing and people breaking up. They do it in public for everyone to see. It is drama and, quite honestly, it is tacky.

While I can't say that I have never done anything stupid on Facebook (I have), I've learned my lesson and keep my mouth shut on social media. I don't want other people in on my business or to know how I am really feeling.

At all costs, avoid breaking up on Facebook, Twitter, or any form of social media. It makes you look immature and can embarrass the person you are breaking up with. Although, from what I have seen, women seem to go rushing to comfort guys who get broken up with online and the whole situation can become ugly super fast.

9 Over The Phone

I don't care what anyone else says, breaking up with someone over the phone is a crappy thing to do. Sure, it is more personal than breaking up by text messages, but it is still less than classy.

A lot of long distance relationships end over the phone, and that is understandable. If he lives in the next state or on the opposite coast, breaking up in person is next to impossible. The phone is the next best option.

If the two of you live within a two hour drive of each other, then there is no excuse to not break up in person. If you can drive it, you can do it face to face, make your intentions clear, and leave no confusion behind.

When you break up over the phone, the other person can't read your body language. They can't tell just how serious you are, and they may be unwilling to let you go completely because of the uncertainty.

8 Right After Doing It

Let's say that you have been wanting to break off the relationship for quite some time. You have school and work to deal with, and you feel that being in a relationship is just taking up too much of the time you need to study and get ahead. The only thing is, the sex is great.

You stop over at his place, determined to end things, when next you are in bed with him. One last time, is your reasoning.

After it's done, you try and calmly end the relationship with him and then wonder why he is angry and upset with you.

You just slept with the guy and used him. If anything, you should have ended the relationship first and then asked if the two of you could be friends with benefits. He may or may not have gone for it, but it would be way better than blatantly using him for one last plunk.

7 At A Party

Of all the places to break off a relationship, doing it at a party has to be the least strategic move you could make in your dating career. If you think it is going to be a quiet breakup, think again.

Women who get a breakup at a party will either start crying or yelling, making the other person look like a total poop head. If a guy's girlfriend breaks up with him at a party, he will tell everyone all your dirtiest secrets and then get really drunk.

The last thing anyone want is extra drama in their lives and having a bunch of other people involved in their breakup.

Break up a day after a party to keep other people out of your business. If there is someone at the party that you like, he can wait until after you end the relationship with your current boyfriend.

6 Sticky Note

It happened to a friend of mine. She thought the relationship with her then boyfriend was going along just fine until one morning she hears him quietly leave her apartment. She got up to check the lock and found a sticky note on the door reading, “It's over. Don't call me. We're done.”

According to her, she had no idea that he wasn't into the relationship and he gave no clues that he was going to break up with her the night before.

Instead of talking to her, he took the cowardly way out. He obviously didn't have the balls to act like an adult and talk the situation through.

Leaving a sticky note behind, ending the relationship, makes you look like you belong back in middle school. You look juvenile and your actions are extremely hurtful to the other person.

If a relationship is over, then say it and get it over with.

5 The Breakup Song

Here is one for the high school crowd. If you are going to break up with someone, use your words and not a song. When you break up with someone by sending them the lyrics or video of a breakup song, you will more than likely confuse the other person.

For example, my ex sent me the video to a popular song. I watched it and thought, “Okay. I already know this song. Why did he send it?” I messaged him back, but no answer. It dawned on me that he might have done the breakup song trick, so I had to go read the lyrics, which turned out to be so obscure that I still wasn't certain what was going on.

Avoid breaking up with songs. It only creates confusion and, honestly, makes the other person think that you are a total twat.

4 April Fools

Never, ever break up with someone right before or on a holiday. It is the crappiest thing to do. If you are thinking of breaking up with someone two weeks before the holiday, then go for it. They can return your gifts and make new holiday plans.

Also, never break up on April Fools' Day. The person you are breaking up with will not know if you are serious or not. It is a cruel, manipulative way to hurt another person and shows just how immature you really are.

If you feel that the relationship is over, do the breakup two days before or two days after April Fools' Day. You don't play jokes with people's hearts. When a relationship is over, it's over. Don't give the other person the false hope that it might be a joke and that you will come back the next day.

3 Email The Bad News

You honestly are not enjoying the relationship anymore. You feel like you are both polar opposites and instead of being attracted to each other, you are in a constant struggle with him. You want to break up, but you are too scared to do it to his face because you feel like it will just turn into an ugly argument. Your solution is to email him a long letter on why you are ending the relationship with him.

Stop yourself right now and think. If your soon to be ex is violent in any way, then you can walk away and not bother with him ever again. But if you are just worried about him disagreeing with the breakup, you should still do it face to face.

Long, emotional emails can come back to haunt you. It is better to say your piece and move on, rather than leaving behind something that could be shared with the public and used to embarrass you.

2 Hooking Up With Someone Else

You do not do the break up thing very well. Instead, you go running to a new mate and never tell the former one that it is over. Then your new ex finds out through friends or your Facebook page that you are suddenly dating another guy. How crappy!

I have seen a lot of guys walk away from a girlfriend and go straight into another woman's arms without going through the actual breakup first. They are called cheaters.

It is the same when a woman does this. She is basically cheating on boyfriend number one because she never went through the breakup process.

In the dating world, you do not want to get a reputation as a cheater. It automatically eliminates all the good guys from the dating pool. Instead, go through the breakup process and then move on to whoever has caught your eye. This way to won't get a cheater reputation.

1 Ghosting

The only thing new about ghosting is the term. When you ghost someone, you drop out of their life completely. You either change your phone number or block the other person's number. You disappear from the other person's social media and you stop going to the places where you and that other person hung out.

Ghosting another person means you drop off the face of the earth and become a ghost in their memory.

Ghosting is the most cowardly way to break up with another person. You show them that you are weak, too weak to break off the relationship in a one to one setting. You look like a total jerk, leaving the other person to worry about you and think that something bad might have happened to you.

There also comes that awkward moment when you bump into that person you hurt. What do you say, then? Or do you just keep running?