15 Types Of Men You Meet In Your 20s

Here's the scenario: You are older and finally ready to start dating. So maybe you jump on the internet and try out a few dating sites to get you started. You go on a few first dates, none of them seem to be a good fit. No big deal. You keep going on first dates but eventually you start to realize that there is something similar about the men you've been seeing. You might start to blame yourself for being a bad judge of character. But don't… At least not yet. We know it's not time to blame yourself because there are, in fact, things in common with the men you dated. And this is why: there is a standard fifteen different types of men you will meet in your twenties. You have likely recycled a few men of the same type and that's why they felt so familiar.

In general, no matter where you're from, men always seem to fit into these 15 categories. You know this if you have lived in the same town for awhile, ever went to college, or have been dating for some time. It's easy to get discouraged when you are dating and always seem to recycle the same type of men. You're probably thinking that there have to be some exceptions out there, right? Maybe… But they are likely taken.

15 The "I Still Live At Home" Type

You might think that this type of man only exists in your early twenties. But you'd be wrong. Your entire twenties will be riddled with men that still live at home. This may be one of the hardest things to deal with when dating someone for a number of reasons (more on that in a minute). Often, when you ask them about it, they say things like, "It's to save money" or "I'm never home anyways so it doesn't bother me."

Here's what's wrong with that: If you're living at home to save money, great. But for one, if you have a job and you're still living at home, mooching off your parents, that shows that you are inconsiderate and lack enough responsibility to care for yourself. (PS- What are you saving for?) And for two, if you are living at home and don't have a job, you are a loser. There is no reason why you shouldn't have job when most teenagers are working. Furthermore, never being home is just an excuse to get out of being responsible for yourself. So you're never home? Well you're also never going to get lucky living at home.

14 The Vain Type

This type of man might not stand out to you, or perhaps it doesn't bother you that much. You know those men that always seems to look good, never have a hair out of place, always taking selfies or fixing his outfit? Now, there is nothing wrong with caring about your appearance-- no, in fact, we support it! The particularly vain man will not only care about his appearance but he will notice yours as well. He might not judge you or say anything about it, but he will definitely notice. Have you ever been on a date where you felt like you constantly needed to adjust your outfit or that you weren't eating proper enough? That's because you were on a date with an appearance-centered man. Appearance goes beyond outfit and hair, however. This man is conscientious about everything he does.

Here's what may be wrong with that: You cannot always be expected to look and behave your best-- it's way to much work! And it also is likely that the vain man actually has self-esteem issues and tries to counteract it by becoming obsessed with appearance. We all have insecurities, sure, but a man that believes his looks will solve all his problems probably lacks the emotional maturity you are looking for.

13 The "Man's Man" Type

You know the men that seem to like you but would rather spend time with his guys? How about the date that always seemed to circle back to some story about him and his friends? These guys are what we call a "man's man." Their lives are centered around what the 'boys' are doing. They enjoy girls, and surely love to get a little action, but can never seem to sacrifice time with the 'guys' to get some.

Here's what may be wrong with that: A man's man might be a totally cool, well functioning man. He might even be emotionally mature and have good priorities… But he's a man's man. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's just hard (or nearly impossible) to get him care and focus on you enough to actually date him seriously. So, while he might seem like a great guy (and probably is one), he's not an easy one to date… At least not yet.

12 The Unemployed Type

This man is pretty self-explanatory. A lot of men in their twenties find themselves unemployed (and seem to be okay with it). They might claim that they "work in the summers" and make enough money that they don't have to work the rest of the year. These men seem unmotivated to change anything, don't value time, and are lazy.

Here's what's wrong with that: Even if a man works over the summer and make a lot of money they still need to work the rest of the year. Why? For one, what else are they doing in their time off? For two, not working throughout the year shows naiveté and immaturity. What happens if they have unexpected bills, what if they run out of money, what if the economy tanks? Once you hit a certain age, it's a right of passage. You have to be able to take to care of and support yourself. It doesn't matter what your job is, you just need to be able to show that you have some sense of responsibility. And meeting a man that lacks those capabilities is a huge-turn off.

11 The Adventurous Type

Your twenties are riddled with thrill-seeking, adventurous men "living it up" while they're young. And look you can't blame them because we are part of the YOLO generation that believes because you only live once then you should make the most out of your life while you can. These type of men are also pretty self-explanatory and easy to spot. They spend all of their free time finding new adventures and being active.

Here is what may be wrong with that: There is nothing particularly 'wrong' with these type of men. I mean who doesn't want to be with a guy who is full of life and will show you different things you thought you would never do. But, they are hard to nail down because of their free spirit and don't prefer the less exciting things in relationships like watching movies. However, if you can relate to this, then the adventurous man might be your type!

10 The Obsessed With Working Out Type

These are the types of men that you begin to see more and more around these days. Everyone suddenly has become so obsessed with their bodies that they feel the need to live and breathe working out and staying fit. These type of men spend 95% of their time working out, talking about working out and drinking protein drinks. We all love a fit man, but these type of men take it to the next level. They are obsessed with working out and documenting their trips to the gym. When you ask these type of men what they're doing they say "At the gym, going to the gym, or doing a post-work out work out."

Here's what's wrong with that: It's annoying. If you've ever met someone like this then you know. Being in shape is great, but no woman wants to talk about a man's work out routine on a date. Or ever, really.

9 The "All Business" Type

Usually dressed to the nines, this man is all business. Have you met a man that is ultra-invested in his career? Like it's the most important thing to them? He might not talk about business all the time, but the "all business" man is fairly serious and highly organized. He sometimes comes off as cold and detached (and maybe he really is). This type of man is never late and seems to take things seriously, maybe a little too much. He usually reaches for the check. He is very focused on his career and seems to have little time for fun or women.

Here's where you might run into issues: These type of men are super-focused. We're not talking just any working man kind-of-focused; we're talking their careers are everything to them. Not only do they seem to have no time or interest in fun, they prioritize their careers. That means over friends, family, or anything, their careers mean the most. It's nice to have a focused and employed man, but it's hard to deal with coming second to a career. Not all business men are like this, however. But do beware of the over-the-top type.

8 The Brooding Type

Have you ever been on a date with a man that seems to have something negative to say about everything? This is the brooding-pessimistic type. Not only is this man always complaining about something, he is always casually bringing up the rough times he's been through. Honestly, who wants to be with someone who is constantly being negative all the time. His mood will have such a bad effect on yours that you will find yourself stooping down to his level. We love a communicator, so this may seem like a step up from the norm. But, in fact, this is a step over the line. This type is always exploiting personal trials to make you feel bad for him.

Here's what's wrong with that: You're being manipulated. Nobody wants to feel like they have to like someone or do something just because the other person is brooding and pessimistic.

7 The "I Can't Handle Baggage" Type

Not all of you will ever recognize this type of man. But for some us that have more complicated pasts (or even currents), you know this type. It goes like this: he is attracted to you, you have a fun time, but then comes the time that you start sharing more personal information. Of course, you are evolved and a healthy individual, so you are relatively okay with sharing a bit. You answer his questions in an honest, non-dramatic, very matter-of-fact way. But the reaction you get says that you have made the man across from you uncomfortable. Sometimes they just don't know what to say (who does?). Maybe you change the subject and the night continues. Unfortunately, you rarely (if ever) hear from him again. It is at the moment when he starts becoming distant after sharing personal information, that you know you have caught yourself a "can't handle baggage type."

Here's what's wrong with that: Aside from being depressing, it is very disturbing that another person can be made so uncomfortable by someone else's baggage. And let's just say it… We all have some baggage. So why is it so hard to accept it in another person? This man lacks the emotional capacity to deal with serious things and can not handle a serious relationship with you.

6 The Heavy Partier Type

This guy is a mix of other types of guys on this list. This type is always down for a good time (and you like that at first). But after a while, you start to notice just how much he enjoys it and you find you can't keep up with his ways. He is a lot of fun and you enjoy hanging out with him. But after a few dates, you start to realize that he always wants to go out after. He's always out partying with his friends and doesn't seem to have fun unless he's partying. This man talks, breathes, and lives for a good night on the town--and is out most nights of the week.

Here's what wrong with that: This man's world revolved around partying. It might not effect his work yet, but it certainly could. His priorities aren't straight and he cannot be confronted about his insistent partying.

5 The "I Just Want Some A$$" Type

This is an obvious type of man to meet, especially in your twenties. It is not always easy to spot this man--making him one of the most dangerous. He might put in a lot of effort to talk to you or get your attention so you think that he might actually be interested in you. So how do you tell if he just wants some ass? At the end of your first date he kisses you. But is it a forceful kiss? Is he getting handsy before you give a signal to? The "I just want a$$ type" will not wait for you to give a signal; he'll just go for it. And let's be honest… Sometimes that's all we want also, so it's okay. But if you're ever stuck wondering if he just wants your, go off of the first kiss. If you stop him, see his reaction, see if he's upset. And lastly, you could just ask… But beware of lying.

Here's what's wrong with this type: If you ever find yourself interested in a man of this type, it can be extremely hard to get him to settle down. He is motivated purely by the chase and lacks emotionality. Your best bet would be to wait on being intimate with him and force him to get to know you a bit first.

4 The "Can't Take Anything Seriously" Type

Nothing get's in the way of this man having fun and relaxing. He lives a stress-free life and does not recognize real challenges in the world. It doesn't matter how serious the occasion or topic, he will find a way to change the subject and lighten the mood. Everything seems to be a joke to him. He'd rather lie about something than admit that it is a serious thing. You cannot talk to him about challenges at work for fear of responses like, "You should just quit," followed by laughter. Or maybe he'll just tell you to "lighten up" or "stop stressing" over big things in your life.

Here's what's wrong with that: Not everything is a walk in the park. You can't solve every problem by "not stressing over it" or "lightening up". The type of man is hard to talk to about serious things, making it almost impossible to form a deeper connection.

3 The "I Peaked In High School" Type

Basically this guy is stuck in high school and does not believe life will be any better than when it was in high school. Mr. I-Used-To-Be-Cool guy. This guy ha not done much with his life since high school. He still talks about his "glory days", wears his old high school's shirts, and fails to recognize the world as bigger than the thousand students he graduated with. This man likely still lives in the town that he graduated in, and most definitely still hangs out with the same people from high school.

Here's what's wrong with him: The world is way bigger-- and better-- than just high school, and he fails to recognize that. There comes a time when we all grow up and move on, but this man lacks the capability to leave things behind. He is not focused on the future and thinks he has already lived his life to capacity.

2 The "Always In A Relationship" Type

We're not talking, "I go on a lot of dates." We're talking, "I'm always in a committed relationship," type. If a relationship doesn't work out for this type it is never long before he is in a new relationship. It can be hard to tell if your date is this type of guy if you just met him; so be sure to ask about his dating history. Due to his overwhelming number of serious relationships, he seems in a hurry to commit and/or find "the one" to settle down with. He usually is a good guy, so you might catch yourself liking him when it's too late and he's seeing someone else again.

Here's what's wrong with that: This type jumps into relationships very quickly. He seems to be in a hurry to settle down (for whatever reason), and so he is always seeing someone seriously. This type never learns to be single and never has time to think about himself. He almost needs to be dating someone to feel comfortable.

1 The "Life Of The Party" Type

This type is used to the attention being on them-- and you can tell. He is always a fun time, pleasant to be around, and you can tell that he probably has a lot of friends. Men like this are constantly focused on being the "fun guy" (which has got to be exhausting, right?). It is very important to them that people like them. These types are not shy and feel most comfortable when attention is on them. They can come across as self-centered because they are so used to the attention. He is likely a leader and not afraid of making decisions for the group.

Here's a problem with that: This is the type of guy that doesn't know how to share the attention. They are used to, and surely sometimes have to be the life of the party. They usually talk a lot and always have something about themselves to add in. Dating these types can be extremely exhausting because you constantly have to focus on them and feed their ego.