15 Things To Remember When You're Worried About Being Forever Single

The thing about being single, especially for people who are not used to being single for long, is that they think it's going to be forever. Maybe you will be single forever, or maybe you won't. If you have a crappy attitude then yeah, maybe you will be single forever, because nobody wants to be with someone who has a crappy attitude. But if you're a caring, loving woman who knows how to take care of herself and her partner, then trust me and trust the universe you live in when we say you will not be single forever. Sometimes, you just gotta wait a little bit longer. And in case you've been waiting so long, we're here to comfort you. To remind you that you are loved and you're an amazing person. Just remember these things and keep in mind that patience goes a long way. Here are 15 things to remember when you're worried about being forever single.

15 It Takes Time To Find A Good Guy

Don't you agree? Don't you think it's tiring to be with one man after the other only to find out that all these men you're dating are not good enough for you? Or maybe they're pretty much good enough in the beginning but when things are getting comfortable, they unleash their true colors and it's annoying. We're not exactly dating machines here. We're actually trying to find a partner who is worthy of our love and care and who can love and care for us for a lifetime. We're not just playing games here. So if you're not fond of jumping from one guy to another and what you want is to find someone who you know you can stay with forever, you need to be extra patient. You need to know that it takes time to find a good guy, which means it takes a long time to stay single in order to be with the man of your dreams.

14 You Are Beautiful And Amazing

Yes, of course, we know that there are moments when you don't feel precious and beautiful. We know there are times when you don't want to look in the mirror. We probably all have those kinds of days. So this is a friendly reminder that you are beautiful and amazing. You are one of a kind. And if you have a beautiful attitude, then that's a huge plus. Don't think you will be single forever. We know it's been a while since you had a man hold your hand and since someone stared at you and it electrified your entire body. It's understandable to feel bad or at least kind of bad. But always remember that there's someone out there looking for someone like you. It's really just a matter of time. Make every moment count and show the world how precious and beautiful you are, inside and out, with or without a partner in life.

13 This Is A Chance For More Self-Love

Sometimes, it's best to look at your life this way. The long months of being single aren't supposed to make you feel sad and lonely. More often than not, this time has a secret message and you need to know what that message is. And for most people who have been single for long, that secret message is to learn self-love. Being single for months is the universe's way of telling you that you need to learn how to love yourself more. There's no such thing as too much self-love, you know. Every day, we do things that may increase or diminish our love for ourselves. And we need to acknowledge that. We also need to acknowledge the need to love ourselves more every single day. And there's no other better opportunity to do this than during the time when we're single. Instead of moping about how unlovable you are (which is totally untrue, by the way), spend more time with yourself and experience the things you've never experienced before.

12 There's Someone Out There Looking For Someone Like You

Please know that no matter how worried you are, remember that someone out there is looking for you. Or at least, for someone like you. Which may be you. You totally get the point. We know that it's not easy to keep this in mind. We know it's easier to be negative than it is to stay positive. But please remember how pretty you are. And how kind you are. And how amazing you are. Because these are all true. And there's really no reason to feel bad about being single. You never know what's going to happen to you and where your life will take you, right? This is not about living a fairytale. We're not saying that you should spend your life sitting and waiting for prince charming to knock open your door. But keeping the idea that someone is searching for a person like you? You might want to consider that.

11 You Are Enough

Yes, you are. You don't have to make major changes in your life. You don't have to go big all the time. There's nothing wrong with simplicity and going small. If you feel like making a change, do it for yourself, not with the hopes that someone else will notice it and notice you, too. If you want to do anything out of this world, or maybe do some exploring outside of your comfort zone, then do it for yourself. It's not a good choice to do things you're uncomfortable of because you're so desperate to be with someone. This can crush you. You will just be disappointed because you feel like you've exerted so much effort already and yet, no one is still being attracted to you. Can you imagine how painful that could be? So believe that you are enough and that you are worthy of love. You may not believe it right now but it's honestly the truth.

10 Chasing Someone Isn't A Good Idea

If we have to repeat this over and over and over again, we totally will. We know how easy it is to fall for this because you feel so alone that you end up chasing people. No. Just no. Don't you let yourself fall down this hole because then there's no light at the end of it. You will be stuck in dark relationship and you won't be happy because you forced it. The thing about life is that most people think we need someone to make us feel extra special. Maybe this is right, but this doesn't mean we can't feel special if we're single. Of course, we can. So instead of spending your time chasing people around, hoping they would realize you're amazing, pour all your time into learning how to love yourself more. We know this doesn't sound easy (and it's definitely not), but believe it or not, self-love is way better than chasing others.

9 You Are Worthy Of Love

Are you worthy of love? Don't worry, we totally know that you are. We also know how many times you've asked yourself this. Believe it or not, it's super easy to doubt your worth. Not only whether or not you're worthy of love but your worth in general. The truth is that even Hollywood stars doubt their self-esteem and abilities and their lives in general. Then think about us ordinary human living an ordinary life in an ordinary world. If celebs feel this way, then, of course, we do, too. We will definitely doubt ourselves in more ways than one. But keep in mind that no matter how doubtful you are of yourself, it won't change the fact that you are worthy of love. Even if you forget it. Which we're sure you do. We want to remind you that you shouldn't worry if you're worthy of love because you definitely are.

8 Some People Actually Want To Be Single

Nope, we're not lying. Some people really do want to be single. So why don't they stay single? Well, a lot of reasons. Maybe they're not strong enough and they feel like they can't live life on their own. Maybe super attractive men are always lining up. Maybe a combination of both. Or maybe a weird mix-up of other factors that we don't even know. What's important to know is that if there are people who want to be in a relationship so bad, there are also people who are stuck in a relationship they're not 100% happy in and they want to end it. And they want to stay single for a long time, maybe to learn more about life on their own. Those unhappy people think that you're super lucky because you're single. They idolize people like you who can stay single so you might as well enjoy this time in your life.

7 You Shouldn't Be Bitter

Single is cool. Being bitter and single just doesn't. So unless you're willing to walk down the street wearing a witchy look on your face, then don't be bitter. Most single women don't want to seem this way and they want to seem happy and look their best. That's probably what you want too, right? If you're single because your ex cheated on you, then sure, it makes sense that you can't look happy all the time. But after you cried and fell apart and picked up the pieces, it's time to move on. Walk away from that jerk and realize that you're worthy of so much more. Show the world that you are beautiful without him because of course, you are. Show him you are not going to feel bitter forever and make sure that you actually believe it. Remember this the next time that you're feeling down about your single life.

6 This Won't Last Forever

As we mentioned, patience can go a long way. And this works even in love, in case you're doubting that. It's always better to wait for years for a great man than to spend a year being in a screwed-up relationship because you're not happy at all. Because you forced yourself to be in that relationship. Because you wanted to show the world that you're taken and happy. Well, behind closed doors, we're pretty sure that you're not. Been there, done that, and we're telling you that it's not a pretty place to be. So screw the chasing game and learn how you can improve your patience. Learn how to love yourself more. And maybe learn a new makeup technique or so or how to hack a small space to make it look big. Just enjoy your life. And know that your single life won't last forever. You will find the right guy before you know it.

5 Your Life Isn't Over

Oh for the love of frozen pizza and tacos, stop thinking that life is over only because you're single for over three months now. It's just three months. And if you've been single for a year, well, it's just a year. You have many more years in front of you. Life is not over. Life, just like last year and the year before, is still full of exciting experiences and amazing opportunities and many other things that you probably don't even think about or notice. Allow yourself to explore and grow and learn. Allow yourself to experience because that's what life is all about. No one will penalize you for having experiences while single. That's insane. Go out and have fun. Meet new people and catch up with long lost friends and live. Because you weren't born to find a Prince Charming. You were born to live an amazing life and that's exactly what you should be doing.

4 You Don't Need Someone To Make You Happy

You probably already know this deep down but here's the truth: you don't need someone to make you happy. You can be happy or sad or ecstatic whenever the heck you want to. And you can feel it even when you're single. In fact, this is one of the many advantages of being single. You can do whatever you want, wear whatever you want, and feel however you want without the need to get someone's approval. It's all about you: your feelings and your experiences. And besides, even if you're single, you're not exactly alone. You do know that, right? You got your family and your friends who are all willing to camp out in the living room and rescue you in case you feel like you're drowning in tears. Or boredom. And best of it all, you have yourself. So it's time to stop moping and it's time to start actually living.

3 You Don't Need Someone To Make You Feel Valid

Nope. This is all you. You are in control of how you want to feel. If you feel like you're not worthy and not lovable then that's exactly how it's going to be. But if you want to reclaim your beauty and if you want to feel okay again, then you definitely can. You don't need a man to make you feel that. This may sound like you're selfish or self-centered or whatever else, but you're not. You're just an ordinary person and you need to love yourself more. You really don't need someone to make you feel valid. You already are, regardless of your relationship status. If you feel worthy, that has nothing to do with whether you have a boyfriend or are currently single. It's all about how you allow yourself to feel. But you need to be reminded about this because it's going to make your single life a million times easier to live.

2 Relationships Can Be Stressful

Have you ever actually thought about this? Seriously, have you ever thought about all the stress that can result from a relationship? Or have you forgotten it because all you can think of is how lucky those ladies are because they have someone to hold their hands while walking down the street or someone who will buy them presents even when it's not their birthday? Oh please… those things sound great but it doesn't mean relationships are great all the time. Just think about how you need someone's approval almost all the time before you do something. Or the fact that you need to introduce him to all your friends or else he would feel like you're hiding something. These are super annoying. And if that's not enough, remember the times when you have to cancel personal plans because your man is feeling awful and he needs you? So you have to cancel your girls' night out. Ugh. The worst.

1 You're Good Enough

If there is one thing that you should remember the most when you're single, this is it. You're amazing and you're good enough. You don't need to spend extra time in the gym or log some hours at a spa or salon. You already look awesome. You're also the best because you're loving, caring and everything else. If men don't see that, then they're seriously missing out, and that's something that you need to remember. You don't need someone to make you feel amazing and you definitely don't need someone to make you feel like you are good enough. You just already are. It's a matter of looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing yourself, not your relationship status (or, well, lack of one). Who cares if you're single? You're still who you are, whether you're single or taken. So call your best friends and go have some fun!