15 Things To Look For In The Love Of Your Life

Love is messy. Love is complicated. Love is sometimes just a downright pain in the you know what. But that's exactly what makes it so wonderful, perfect, and difficult to find. True love comes but once in our lives if we're lucky, but the question forever remains, how do you know if it's a fleeting love or the kind that last through trial and error for forever and a day?

We all have our special someone bumping around in the world out there somewhere. That someone who will challenge you, make you laugh, and piss you off; that one person in the world who makes you feel like no matter what happens, every little thing is going to be alright.

So, don't be blindsided by false infatuation and don't allow that special someone to slip through your fingers. Keep your chin up and your eyes open and it will find you when you least expect it.

15 Fall in love with someone who you think “I'm so in love with you it's stupid” every day.

And they make your heart skip a beat when you see them smile after a long day. It's the only thing you need to make you forget that anything was ever wrong in the world. The moment their lips meet yours, the butterflies begin dancing in your stomach, and no matter how long you've been together, you genuinely miss them when you're apart. Whether it's for two hours, two days, or two weeks it's far too long and it feels like forever either way.

It's these little moments that you look forward to any time that you're away. You see the sparkle in their eyes, the curve of their lips when they smile, and those subtle little dimples that send you wild. Every single time you glance their way, you just want to run and jump on them, and kiss their cute little face all over the place and say over and over and over again how stupidly in love with them you are.

14 Fall in love with someone who keeps things interesting, intimate, and romantic in the bedroom.

I don't care who you are or what kind of relationship that you're in; in one way or another, intimacy is a huge part of said relationship. I mean think about it, without the physical intimacy between two partners, two best friends, two partners in crime… well, then that's all you really are to each other, is just best friends. Intimacy (or a physical relationship in some sense of the word) is the defining factor between two types of relationships: friends and, well, more than friends.

That being said… intimacy is and should be a huge, exciting, interesting, and satisfying part of every relationship. So look for that someone that has the perfect balance between making your toes curl and your heart skip a beat while making your palms sweat and your breathe catch. Romance is just as important as seduction and vice versa and here will be someone one day that the physical spark never fades and you literally want to jump each others bones every second of every day.

13 Fall in love with someone who your infatuation with never fades.

Someone who makes you feel like no matter what the hell is going on in the world, that everything will be okay as long as you're together. Your world could be crumbling, shattering, in front of your eyes… and yet, when they're there beside you, suddenly, all of your worry fades.

The one person in the world that you can bicker with but it never really leads to a legitimate, raging fight because you both know it's really not even that deep. Instead, you actually talk to each other about everything with no real hesitation because you realize that they're your best friend; if you can't talk to them, then who the hell can you talk to? You can literally never stay mad at each other, and your world is stable only when they're around. You look at them with new eyes every day and love them so much more with every single glance their way.

12 Fall in love with someone who you actively go out of your way to lovingly annoy.

When you first got together, you would do everything that you possibly could to try not to annoy each other. Granted, that definitely didn't last long. Once you discovered the boundaries of your relationship with one another, it became nothing but pure fun to actively try to piss each other off… in the most loving way possible.

That's just part of how you have fun together. When you spend as much time with someone as the two of you do, you have to keep life fun and entertaining any way that you can. So, you poke fun, you annoying the hell out of each other, you give each other sh*t for absolutely anything and everything. It's not abusive, because you never intend to actually hurt each other's feelings in any way, shape or form. It's endearing and part of how you show your love and affection for one another and neither of you would have it any other way.

11 Fall in love with someone who is your everything.

They're it for you; you know it and so do they. There's just something about them, who they make you, and who you are together that just fits all too well together. You're both better for being together than you ever were apart. Not in the sense that you're not both still your own individual, because you absolutely have still remained yourself to the core. However, you're better versions of yourself when you're there, hand-in-hand.

They're not afraid to express their feelings for you because they want you to know how much they adore you. You're see everything more clearly with them and your relationship never overshadows the individuals you still both are. They're the one you think about when everything goes to sh*t, you've just had the best day of your life, or the day was just another day and you need someone to brighten it up. They're it.

10 Fall for someone who wants to know your favorite color and how you like your coffee.

That person in the world who can make you laugh until you cry and always put a smile on your face. Fall in love with someone who knows you (and wants to know you) better than anyone else in the world. They actually care about the little things, like what your favorite breakfast is, and then they'll make it for you on a lazy Sunday morning. They want to know where you came from and what made you the person they adore so much today.

They want to feel like they're not only a part of your present and your future, but they're a part of your past as well. The person that, regardless of how long you've known them, you flirt hopelessly with each other always trying to heighten the affection. You flirt like fifth graders on the playground, chasing each other around the kitchen until someone catches the other and you end in a heap of limbs and kisses on the floor.

9 Fall in love with someone who you don't fight with…

You bicker, b!+*h, whine, and moan to no end to each other but you never fight. It's actually kind of amazing that you've literally never had a fight considering the two of you are some of the feistiest people that you know and you actually get enjoyment out of intentionally bugging each other more often than not.

But the weirdest thing… you're actually entirely okay with spending the rest of your lives having the same “heated discussions” that really never have a conclusive resolution. (He never puts the toilet seat down, she always has makeup on the towel, no one ever waits to do laundry, etc.)

You have this way of communicating that is ridiculously on point. You've gone from, “Oh, Baby that kind of hurt my feelings,” to “Sh*t, Babe. That actually really f*cking pissed me off and here's why.” You're even using much more colorful language.

8 Fall in love with someone who makes you undeniably as happy as you deserve to be.

Why don't we stop stating the obvious here. You deserve to be so damn happy it's unbelievable and there is no one in this world that can take that away from you. If you find someone that is everything that you could possibly want in a human being, who makes you everything that you want yourself to be present and future, and the physical is good then it doesn't matter who they are, how old (legal), race, background, gender, preference, etc, etc, etc. then you better hold onto them and never ever let them go.

No one in this world has the right to tell you who you can or can't love and don't you dare give up the chance at real love by listening to the judgments of anyone else. You are amazing. You deserve to be happy. And you deserve to make the love of your life just as happy.

7 Fall in love with someone who makes it easy to fall (and stay) in love.

Being in love should be one of the easiest things we're ever going to do in our lives. If it's not easy, it's not right. That might sound overly simplified to the max but let's be real why don't we. Everyone tries to make it seem like being in love and staying in love with someone is actually supposed to be one of the most challenging things you'll ever do in your life. Call me crazy, but that doesn't seem like how true love should really be. Everything that we'll ever do in our lives is going to be overly difficult and a pain in the you know what, I actually think that love should be one of the few things that isn't difficult for any reason.

Obviously, everything in life will have its ups and downs but when you meet that someone who it feels different with, then that person should be your safe haven from the rest of the difficulties in the world.

6 Fall in love with someone who is your best friend above all else.

You can't imagine life without them and you know that even aside from your physical relationship, they are your number one above all else. The Bonnie to your Clyde. Your ride or die. Your lover, your homie, your closest friend. You can go out all night and hit every single bar in a twenty block radius, end up back at the apartment with one (or both) of you throwing up every shred of food and alcohol in your system OR you can spend the night on some Netflix and chill type thing in your PJ's and slippers and still have just as much fun. You're comfortable with each other to no end and have very few reservations at this point in time.

You always want to strive to be the best you possible for both you and them. But you can be your weird a$$ self without holding back and so can they… and you end up loving each other even more for it.

5 Fall in love with someone who knows exactly how to fix a horrible day.

They can tell the moment you walk through the door that you've just had a hell of a damn day all around. They don't bug you or dare to even ask you any questions. They greet you at the door with a kiss, an uncorked bottle of your favorite wine with a crazy straw in it, and pre-ordered Chinese food on its way. You literally couldn't picture anything any more romantic. They even made a point to light a couple tea light candles and set them next to your next bottle of wine.

Your relationship has developed from Netflix and chill to VHS and f**k. They get right to the point, they don't waste any of your time, and everything they do makes your day a thousand times better. By the time you're entirely awful day finally comes to a close, you're well fed, sufficiently wine drunk, and recently laid. You literally couldn't be better. You found a keeper.

4 Fall in love with someone who you're always either laughing with or laughing at.

The hilarity is never ending. If you're not cracking jokes and laughing your butts off with each other, then you are definitely busting each other's balls and laughing at each other… and you know what? You literally cannot even be mad at it! You both get your sh*ts and giggles by making fun of each other's cooking skills, their quirky little movements, and the way they snore just slightly when they're drunk.

You keep each other laughing all day, every day. They can literally make you smile more often than anyone you've ever met and you feel like a major cheeseball when you walk around smiling like an overly in love fool.

So much of the joy in life and love is laughter. Fall in love with someone who makes every day of your life one full of joy, laughter, and freedom of just being able to be as happy as you deserve.

3 Fall for the person who makes you realize why trying to love anyone else was so difficult.

Find the person in the world that it "feels different" with. Not the “feels different” that you've felt all of those times before that makes us think that every new relationship is going to be a forever thing… But the person that it doesn't feel anything like those past loves with because it's really nothing like that at all. It's better in every single way imaginable.

It doesn't get worse and there's no catastrophic thing that you feel like you are waiting for to send everything up in flames. You're not going into this love with an expiration date even slightly in mind. You're actually for once in your lifetime of relationships, only looking forward to the possibility of a future with this person in the most optimistic way possible which is an entirely new concept for you. Everything has suddenly changed and it literally could not be more perfect.

2 Fall in love with someone who makes you lose literally all of your inhibitions.

With the slightest graze of their fingertips against your skin, your head becomes clouded and suddenly nothing else matters in the entire world. You melt in the palm of their hands as the rest of the world around you just simply melts away. You are each other's greatest strength and greatest weakness all wrapped into one. You inspire and confide in each other while poking fun and taking care of each other.

Not to mention, things like “Babe, I just clogged the toilet” and “Hey, grab the toy are often a part of the same conversations. There are very few boundaries left between the two of you and yet, somehow, you still manage to keep the spark alive, even if you know each other all too well in the sloppiest and messiest of states. You've seen, taken care of, and loved each other at your absolutely worst of worst and the best of your best and everything in between.

1 Fall in love with someone who makes you excited, your blood boil, and your heart sing all at the same time.

Falling in love can be one of the messiest, most painful, and yet most exhilarating, and rewarding things that we will ever experience in our lifetime. It makes us feel and act on emotions that are entirely illogical and yet make it seem like there is really no other sensible way.

It weakens us and strengthens us all at the same time. It drives us crazier than we ever thought we'd feel and brings us down to a level of sanity that makes us feel nearly insane.

Falling in love is about balance and confusion. It's not always supposed to make sense. In fact, it rarely ever does. But every single moment of it, no matter how much you may be pissing each other off, is so incredibly worth it. You couldn't imagine spending every moment of every day loving, thinking about, bickering with, getting down and dirty with, and spending the nitty gritty of every second of your life with.