15 Signs You're Dating A Mama's Boy
Have you ever felt that weird feeling that something's wrong but you can't put your finger on it? Like something is not right between you and your boyfriend but for some reason, you end up convincing yourself it's just nothing. Or that you're being paranoid. And then that weird feeling visits you again and again. Well, that's probably because you should start paying attention. If you can't count the times you felt uncomfortable with your man, and that discomfort amplifies when his mom is in the picture, that's the glowing sign you've been looking for. That's the sign that says you've been dating a mama's boy this whole time. I'm not saying dating a mama's boy is wrong… but there are definitely some problems and complicated situations that come up. Still not sure? Here are 15 signs you should watch out for. And if you ended up discovering you're dating a mama's boy, good luck to you, girl.
15 He Needs To Ask His Mom Everything
If your jaw is starting to drop with this one, then I'm sorry to break it to you, baby girl, but you're dating a mama's boy. Not all men who can't decide until after the mom consultation are mama's boy. But the men who call their mom every now and then to ask about even a minor situation, that's definitely a coward. A mama's boy. A man who cannot stand by his decisions. A man who sees commitment as something so big it needs a mom, even when it means committing to a small decision. So if you're with this kind of guy, you have two choices: either you ask him what the hell is wrong with making a decision on his own, or you leave. No, you don't want t to choose the third option, which is to ask why he needs his mom's opinion all the time. because mama's boys will give you lame answers and you'll hate it.
14 He Thinks He Has No Problems
This is probably one of the biggest problems women have to deal with when they're dating a mama's boys. We have to put up with a man who doesn't care about the world at all. Or at least act like it. We have to deal with a man who acts like the universe is on his side all the time and there's no need to worry about anything. Truth is, mama's boys don't really worry about anything. At all. Because he gets his mom to make all his choices and he talks to her about literally everything in his life. He acts like he has no problem because he doesn't. His mom is there to deal with all his problems, to find solutions. So all you have to do is stay with this guy and pretend the world is on your side. That's the easiest job there is, what else can you ask for? Or you can leave. Go outside, slam the door, and leave. Because who wants to be with a man who acts like he has no problems to deal with at all?
13 He Never Ignores Her Phone Calls
It's almost like guys have a handbook called How To Annoy Girlfriends: The Complete Guide and this is chapter one. This is one of the most effective ways to annoy a woman, to piss her off, to make her leave you. I mean, why would any man want his girl to constantly chat with his mom? Why?! And why would a man keep answering his mom's calls in the first place? There's only one answer to that. He's a mama's boy. When it comes to positive aspects with his mom, there's no such thing as “why ” there's only “why not?” So if your guy does this constantly, asking you to call his mom and answer her calls, that's your queue. It can also be a queue to tell your guy you won't answer the call this time or queue to ask why the hell should he always take calls from his mom in the first place. Sounds insane but if you leave it going on and on and on, you'll be in big trouble.
12 He Lets His Mom Decorate His Place
If you just visited his place and noticed how wonderfully decorated it is, don't ask. Just act like everything's cool, you find it nice, you're okay with it. Period. If you notice his apartment changes the interior design too often for a guy and even for a typical girl, start asking. You do not want to be with a man who can't decide how he wants his home to be. A man who finds everything made by mom the best thing in the world. You're the girlfriend here, don't you get the right to decorate his apartment too? Are you not allowed to make changes here and there, and make his place feel like home to you too? For a mama's boy, chances are, he won't understand you if you bring this up to him. Go and try to confront him about this and he'll probably say, “why, what's wrong with my mom doing the decorating? It's nice.” Yes, it is. That is, it's nice when you're five years old!
11 His Mom Is Super Nosey
Have you ever been in a relationship with a guy and his mom just can't stop sticking her nose in the wrong places? She can't stop asking about you and her son and she can't stop commenting on everything, even when her opinion is definitely not necessary. Well, he is probably a mama's boy. Like, we're 95% sure that he is. And if you two are done then go and be very happy about it. Sure, he may be a really wonderful man. He may be super close to being your knight and shining armor or your king. But well, a nosey mom, that can literally ruin a relationship. I'm not saying if you're with that kind of man you have to break up immediately, but you might want to put that into consideration. Because believe it or not, there's no such thing as being used to a nosey mom. Her nosiness will always, ALWAYS bug you, especially if you've never been used to it.
10 He Can't Stop Praising Her
He. Just. Can't. Stop. This guy acts like his mom is completely perfect -- pretty much the definition of perfect. He keeps talking about her positive traits over and over and over again and you feel like you're in fifth grade with that weird teacher who can't move past Chapter 8 of the lessons. We all have that kind of teacher, right? Also, almost all of us have or will meet at least one person who acts exactly like this. And if you happen to be dating this kind of guy… Well, what can I say? The guy must be charming or kind or both. But the mom-praising thing, you have to think if you're actually ready to deal with that. If you're willing to hear your guy acclaim his mom even in his sleep. And you? Well, you're not his mom so he's probably not really feeling the praise you thing.
9 His Mom Is His Emergency Contact
We always have our moms on speed dial, right? We always consider her as the emergency contact. Yup. Oh no, that would be way back when we were in kindergarten. When we're adults, our speed dial is usually a trusted friend or partner or sibling. It's rarely our mom. However, for mama's boys, it's always the mom. Childhood, puberty, adulthood… he'll probably call his mom before he finally decides to retire. If mom is still alive when that time arrives. The point is if your man calls his mother on all emergencies, even the minor ones that are not really considered emergencies, you are clearly with a mama's boy. Don't expect him to outgrow the mom-as-emergency-contact stunt because it's not a stunt - it's his life. His mom is his life, his world, his everything. And there's nothing wrong with that. But you, my friend. You're just his… oh, I don't know. We'll figure that one out some other time.
8 He Always Takes Her Side
If you've never been with a mama's boy then you probably wouldn't want to after reading this article. We're not saying mama's boys are the worst kind of human species, but seriously, this part is annoying. We fight with our mom countless times a year, so there's no question that we also get in trouble with our partner's mother. That's pretty normal. What's not so normal is when your man always (and I mean always) takes his mother's side. There is no way his mom is right all the time. No one is because no one's perfect. But he won't see that. He won't see right or wrong. The only thing he'll see is his mom wearing a crown and cape. (Fine. You win, Queen Mom.) If that sounds fine with you, then by all means, go for a mama's boy. But don't come home crying and say we didn't warn you.
7 He Carries Her Photo In His Wallet
That's our mama's boy! He always keeps a photo of his mom on his bedside table or in his wallet or on his desk at work. In fact, his home and office are pretty much sanctuaries of his mom, decorated with photos from childhood to yesterday. Don't you think this is cute? A man whose house and office are both basically covered with photos of his mom and him? He must love her so much, don't you think? Maybe he loves her. But does this make him cute? Nope. Definitely not. I'd personally rather go for a man who has no taste in decorating or has no idea about sentimental value, than a man who keeps a photo of his mom close to him wherever he goes. There's nothing wrong here, folks. But it's just not cute. It's not. And there's no argument on that. So who's raiding her partner's wallet tonight and put up a debate with him on whether he's a mama's boy or not?!
6 He Compares Your Cooking To Her's
I don't even cook and I find this super annoying. I mean, if you don't like my cooking (the very little cooking that I can do), can you at least just say you don't like it and comment on why it doesn't taste good? It's not really polite to keep complimenting your mom's cooking while eating your girlfriend's recipe. Even if it's an "out of the box and into the microwave" type of recipe. This is really just super annoying, guys. We already get it. Your mom is a good cook. No, she's a great cook! The best cook in the world. But telling your girlfriend that over and over and over again? Geez, just stop if you want to keep your relationship going. Because believe it or not, this is one of the best ways to push a girl away. You can't keep telling her that your mom is better than her. That's just weird and creepy and not super nice.
5 He Lets Her Shop For Him
I bet we all let our moms shop for us every once in a while. I mean, nothing can beat the free stuff only moms dare to give… like a pair of outdated jeans or a blender or coffee maker even though we already have one. Moms are these sweet creatures, people. But when your boyfriend's mom does all the shopping, well, then that's a totally different story. That's called being too lazy to do your own shopping, or too immature to actually think of shopping. Not all mama's boys are immature, but let's not deny it, many of them are. And this is one of the clearest, most obvious signs you can have to know whether or not you're dating a mama's boy. If his mom shops for him all the time and if she does the grocery shopping and takes notes of what's in her son's cupboard and fridge, he sure is a mama's boy. And it's going to be a problem later on if not right now, so you might as well come to terms with it sooner rather than later.
4 She Wins Every Fight
Whether you're the one fighting with her, or it's your boyfriend, or you're fighting with your BF about his relationship with his mom, the bottom line is always the same: the mother wins. This happens over and over again, and you can't get your man to sit and talk like adults about this mom always in the picture issue, then it's confirmed. He doesn't want to talk about it because he doesn't see it as an issue in the first place. He thinks that the mother is supposed to always win, period. Well, she's not. Moms are super amazing people but they're not perfect. If their kids are old enough to be in a serious, adult relationship, a good mom will know the importance of backing off, even just a little. But if your guy is a mama's boy, well, sorry but you have to face facts here. She's not going to step back, no matter how much you might want her to.
3 He Wants You To Make Her Happy
I personally hate it when I meet a guy like this. You know, the one who is so obsessed with pleasing his mom that he ends up wanting you to do the same. Um, no. He ends up encouraging you, almost forcing you to make his mom happy at all times. What is it with mothers that we need to please them all the time? Will they give us a house or an all-expense paid trip to Iceland? There's a fine line between making your mom feel loved and special and wanting to please her all the time. It's just not fun, okay? So to all the men out there, please stop. Because acting like your mother is the maker of this universe and therefore, we should all make her happy, that's not cute. In any way. In fact, it's the opposite of cute. It makes girls feel weird, because who is the real woman in your life here? Your mom or your partner?
2 They Bond 24/7
Ah, the man who spends his whole life with his mom and his mom alone. Fine, maybe not his whole life but you get the point. There's nothing wrong with spending time with the mother. We actually have to do this at least a couple of times a year -- give a full week or two to our mothers. Because there's no turning back when she's gone and you'll definitely regret not giving time for her. But (there's a big but here) please, please, don't be in a relationship if you're not ready to spend time with your girl. Do not date anyone unless you're willing to lessen your mother-son bonding moments because your girlfriend won't be very happy if she realizes that you're willing to spend more time with your mom than her. Who does that? Especially when they're an adult? No. Just no. Keep in mind that while spending time with your mom is great, spending time with your partner is equally great too.
1 He Shares Intimate Details With Her
Okay, this is just gross. I mean, even us women don't share all our stories of intimacy with our moms. Just imagine when men do this. Or not. Don't think about it. It's not a pretty picture. This is not an easy sign to take notice of, but when your boyfriend starts to share how he told his mom what happened last Friday night, or how his mom reacted when she knew what happened to the bed post, and all these awkward-sounding stories, you better start asking for more details, girl. Because there is no way a mother would know what happens on Friday night unless she's actually there. And there's also no way she'll know the story behind broken furniture after a wild night. Unless she got the full story from her storyteller son. So how much do you think your partner's mom knows? Are you with the type of man who broadcasts intimate stories? I hope not. If you are, he's truly a mama's boy, and it's not a super attractive thing.