15 Signs You're A Bad Girlfriend

Sorry ladies but you're not always right in the relationship. I know mind-blowing isn't it? As we all know, women enjoy being the right one in the relationship and love getting their point across about why they're right about that certain situation. We also know how much guys can't stand it when their girlfriend or wife can't stop arguing and debating why they're in the wrong. This is a huge topic in discussion we all know about. Is the girl right? Or is she just overreacting? Is the guy really in the wrong? Or is he right and his girlfriend is overreacting or “crazy” in guys' terms? Well like we said before, girls aren't always right about the situation and it all comes down to because they're a bad girlfriend.

Face the truth ladies, you're not always going to be right and sometimes it's because you're not girlfriend material. There may be some things or habits you just need to tweak in order for the relationship to get better. So in other words, it's not him, it's you.

So what are some signs that say you're being a bad girlfriend? We gathered 15 signs that you might recognize and use to your advantage to possibly change that about you to better your relationship with your boyfriend.

15 Being too Flirty

Obviously this is a big red flag in relationships. When your partner is too flirty and that's their personality, it might become a problem in the long-run. However, it seems like it's easier for the girl to get away with flirting than a guy because she's seen as more “innocent” as opposed to him, considering the whole male reputation of being cheaters. If you're being really friendly with other guys and think you're just doing that-being really friendly-then you need to start thinking about your boyfriend and not just yourself. He's probably too shy to confront you that it bothers him when you're being too friendly or flirty and doesn't want to upset you so he rather keep it to himself. But if you know your personality (and you should) and you know you're known as being really outgoing and flirty with everyone, then perhaps try to tone it down if you care about your relationship.

14 You Always Want To Spend Time with Him

It's not really healthy spending all of your time in the relationship because you're an individual and need to be content with being by yourself most of the time. So when you notice you always want to spend time with your boyfriend, be aware that you might be hurting your relationship and not doing him a favor. Sometimes he might get free time and decide to spend that time with his friends or do one of his favorite hobbies. But you start getting all upset because you feel like he rejected you by “preferring” to do something else with that time other than spend it with you. That's not a good thing because he's allowed to utilize his time however he wishes as an individual and so are you. Just because he finally gets free time, doesn't mean he has to spend it with you. You're not the only option he has in his life as harsh as that sounds. Understand that there are other things he has going on besides his job and you and he'll love you for that. He doesn't mean to reject you so don't take it personally.

13 You Always Find Yourself Upset

If the relationship is always stressing you out, it's probably because you're just overall moody and it's not about your boyfriend. It's important to distinguish when you're upset about something he actually did and when you're just upset over nothing. You find yourself more upset than happy when it comes to your boyfriend. Most likely, he didn't do anything because why would you stay in a relationship you're not happy in? As a result, he's always down, too, because energy is contagious. If he sees you upset every time he's with you, he's going to also get a little distressed. This is a sign you're being a bad girlfriend because you're ruining your relationship by always being sad and bringing your boyfriend along with you on the sad train. That's not fair to him. Perhaps you need to look more within yourself to see why you're so moody. Cheer up a little and watch your relationship become healthier as a result of you having a better attitude.

12 Being Demanding

Girls tend to have that bad reputation of being too demanding. After all, the male side is the provider as society has taught us all so it only makes sense why she gets to demand what she wants. But it shouldn't be like this. If you notice you ask for a lot, from attention to material things, then you might have a problem. If you're lucky, your boyfriend is probably a passive one and doesn't mind giving you what you demand for. If you're not so lucky, your boyfriend will stand up and tell you enough is enough. Either way, if you notice this is something you do a lot, then it's time to quit. It doesn't make sense for one person to receive more than the other when this is a partnership. Both people should be giving and receiving but women have this bad rep of being demanding and asking for a lot more than men. As the provider, guys can get a little irritated when she's simply taking advantage of him.

11 Lying

Being a liar is generally a bad trait to have. Everyone does it from time to time. But sometimes girls tend to lie just to be sneaky and have it their way. Obviously that's not cool. You're being selfish and not to mention rude. Liars always get caught and when he catches you lying, he starts to feel insecure about trusting you. Then you get upset about him not being able to trust you. So whose fault is it? You shouldn't have lied in the first place just because you wanted it your way. It also makes it seem like you're taking your boyfriend for granted, especially if he happens to be more delicate than other guys. No one likes to feel like they're being taken for granted by their partner and it's usually girls who go through this so why do it to your boyfriend if you don't like it yourself?

10 Puts Friends Over Him

If you have that great group of friends that you can rely on then good for you. They were there before your boyfriend was. But if you happen to prioritize your boyfriend second to your friends then you're not being a good girlfriend to him. In example, if you prefer to talk about the drama going on with your friends than be present with your man, then you're being such a bad girlfriend! It just shows him where your interests stand and that you care more about the drama than your relationship with him. That is a big turn off for men. Besides, you wouldn't want him to put his friends before you. So don't do what you wouldn't want to be done to you. It's just rude when you're spending time with your significant other as a way to vent all your feelings and thoughts that have nothing to do with the relationship.

9 Having a Short Temper

If you get mad pretty easily, then most likely you're being a bad girlfriend because you probably jump to conclusions too fast for no reason. You're not really giving the relationship or him a chance to explain himself. Instead, you get upset really easily as soon as he does something because you thought he did it to hurt your feelings. Most likely, he's not trying to hurt your feelings. He either did or said it without any thought of it upsetting you. Instead of taking the time to see where he was coming from, your stubbornness got the best of you. You made up your mind that you have the right to be angry, and this usually chases him away. So having a short-temper can be a sign of being a bad girlfriend. This is what scares most guys away; when you get mad easily so he prefers to keep everything to himself which isn't healthy in a relationship.

8 Being a Debbie Downer

It's one thing to be an introvert and not always wanting to go out and do things but it's another to not be in the mood to do anything. It's rather selfish if you think about it. You're being a pretty bad girlfriend by not thinking about your boyfriend and what he wants to do or what he thinks. If you're not feeling it, and you always let it impact your relationship, then that's not being a good girlfriend. He might catch himself doing things on his own most of the time because you didn't want to participate such as going to a wedding alone, going to a friend's or family gathering on his own, going out for another activity by himself, etc. That doesn't sound like fun or fair for your boyfriend. If you think about it, why be in a relationship if you're not really going to be a part of it? Another sign you're being a Debbie downer is when you both do go out and it seems like you're the one who always ruins the energy. That's not a lot of fun. No one wants to be stuck with a Debbie downer.

7 Controlling Everything

Guys hate it when she starts to feel like she can control everything including what he should do, how he should do it, what you guys should do, etc. Being controlling is another bad reputation that girls have. If you happen to always get your way, it's probably because you're controlling the whole relationship. If you notice you do things you don't really want to do but it's okay because it makes him happy, then you're not being a controlling girlfriend. On the other hand, if you do happen to get your way all the time then it's time to evaluate your controlling ways. Poor guy is probably stuck doing things he doesn't want to do but he does them for you or worse, he's scared you'll throw a hissy fit. So it's best to get even and not have one be more controlling than the other.

6  Too Clingy

One of the things guys won't stand is a clingy girlfriend. If you happen to always check up on him, then you're acting like a clingy girlfriend, meaning, you're being a bad one. There's not always going to be time for you and him and you should understand that as his girlfriend. When guys say they need their space, it's usually because the girlfriend is being too clingy so he needs room to breathe. They despise it when she's all up on his business such as checking his social media, asking to see his phone, asking for every detail about his day, etc. It's not that he doesn't want to tell you, it's that he wants you to trust him and see him as an individual, meaning, he has the right to keep things to himself. Although communication is key to a healthy relationship, that's not to say you need to know every single thing about your boyfriend's life.

5 Stubborn

Girls can be outrageously stubborn, hence, always thinking they are right. Being stubborn in general is not a good trait to have because you're missing out on a lot of other insight. But because you're too stuck in your own head, you don't have the chance to hear out the other side. One of the most important parts in a relationship is communication which includes listening to your partner, not just speaking. So if you're not willing to listen to what he has to say, then your relationship is doomed. If you find yourself being too hard headed whenever you're having a conversation with your boyfriend then you're not being a good girlfriend. In general, girls like to get somewhere when they're arguing over something which is why they started arguing in the first place. But newsflash, being stubborn isn't going to get you anywhere. So you need to listen to the other side, meaning your boyfriend, to come to a solution.

4 Acting Possessive or Jealous

Probably the number one thing girls are used to being called but because it's kind of true-girls can be jealous, it's just a matter of how they handle it. Being jealous sometimes means it's a good thing because it means that person wants you. Majority of the time though, it's something no one likes in a partner, especially if they can't handle it in a mature manner. So if you know you tend to act out your jealous feelings and not keep them inside until the right time to discuss them, then you're probably looked at as a bad girlfriend. You're showing that you're not secure with your relationship and you don't trust him which can upset him. He's probably a great boyfriend and does his best to make you happy but because you can't control your jealous ways, you end up sabotaging your relationship. Rather than wasting time being possessive over your boyfriend for no reason, you should be appreciating every moment with him by trusting him.

3 Too Needy

One of the most attractive things for a guy in a girl is when she's independent. When she's often asking him to do certain things for her, she's being needy and dependent on him. Guys really hate it when they feel like they have to do everything in the relationship. It's even worse when he's not getting anything in return. The best thing to do if you happen to be a needy type of girlfriend is not get in a relationship until you're ready and independent. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to have a house and be 100% financially stable to have a boyfriend, but you should know how to take care of your own things. Of course, it's nice to have your boyfriend do you favors but because it's a nice gesture not because he has to. If you notice you're always asking him to do things for you, then you're not being such a good girlfriend.

2 Using Him

Usually girls feel like using guys when they're feeling insecure about themselves. Even if they don't want to admit it, that's the root of it all. In addition, usually the guy she ends up using might be rich, he might be extremely nice and generous, or he might have some connections that she could use for her career. Whatever the reason is, a lot of girls do this and use their innocence to look like they are in no way using him. If you happen to fall under this category, then you're not being such a good girlfriend and you're probably aware of that already. Sometimes it's just the girl taking advantage of him always being available for her and always willing to do anything for her. It can get ugly in the long-run when she decides to leave him because she was never into him anyways. He ends up being hurt after everything he did for her. She was only with him for the benefits. If this sounds like you, then you should think about leaving the relationship before you really hurt him.

1 Being Selfish

If you think about it, most of the items on this list are about being selfish. Ultimately, if you only think about yourself and your feelings, you're a bad girlfriend. By being demanding, moody, or a liar, you're being inconsiderate and not thinking about your boyfriend's feelings. That's obviously a sign of being a bad significant other. No one want to be with someone who doesn't make them feel loved or appreciated. When you're being inconsiderate of your boyfriend, it shows him you only care about your own self and makes him feel like he adds no value to the relationship so why be a part of it. There's no reason why he should be dating someone who's not going to consider him. Being a bad girlfriend can overall cost your relationship so it's better to check yourself and see if you need to tweak some things in order to better your relationship.