15 Signs You Should Run Before He Ghosts You

Unfortunately, not every relationship leads to you walking down the aisle. Some relationships aren't meant to last, and some men, frankly, aren't worth your time. Yes, obviously you're interested and maybe even doing all the right things. You may have seriously saw this guy being part of your future and maybe even had the classic daydream about your kids, dog, and house with the white picket fence. But hun, I hate to break it to you - you got to wake up and see the warning signs. It's time you realized this relationship is going nowhere. Yes, I know he's totally hot, you're having fun and getting some action. It's better than nothing at all, right? He's charming, smooth, and so confident. It all feels right, doesn't it? But you know deep down, it doesn't. Face the missing facts.

Guys can be so confusing, act all mysterious and send you mixed signals. It's all part of their macho bravado, but you are worth so much more, and you need to stop falling for it. One day, you'll find the one who's deserving of you, who you can give your heart to, and the feelings will be reciprocated. It will be clear and uncomplicated. But for now, it's time to face the cold hard truth. Any moment now, he's going to ghost you. Wouldn't you love to be able to realize it before you're the one being ditched? Play the player! Here's 15 signs you should run ASAP before he ghosts you.

15 He Only Calls You When It's 'Half Past Five'

So if this relationship is real, tell me why it doesn't ever see the light? Think about it. When is he contacting you? If every time he contacts you, and you notice the sun starting to set, it may be time to reconsider this relationship. A real relationship with promise involves dates that happen all times of the day, morning, noon and night. Because if this guy truly has feelings for you, he will want to be seen with you! He will be proud to show you off and be seen as a couple.

Now, here's the other big red flag. Do most of your dates revolve around alcohol? Yes, a little social drinking never hurt anyone, but come on, is it really necessary to be consuming alcohol every time you're together? He's just trying to loosen you up to get in your pants. So, if he starts shelling out the big bucks, buying you every fancy cocktail on the menu you, I'm sorry hun, he's not spoiling you. You can be sure there's really only one thing on his mind. If this was going to work out, you would be getting to really know each other, and sometimes even without the help of bubbly. And why are your all dates happening after dark? Likely, every date is sadly just a bootycall and/ or he doesn't want to be seen with you. Because if he did want to be seen with you, that would mean you guys are on your way to being a real couple, with commitment and everything. Wow, who could imagine such a thing?

14 His Texts Are Brief And Include The Winking And Devil Emojis

Guys are usually direct thinkers. They want what they want and usually get straight to the point. This falls over into the way they communicate with you as well. I realize most men really aren't into having in depth text conversations. They really just cant be bothered, while we girls gossip, babble and sometimes practically write novels to each other through texts. But take another look at those texts from him. So we've established they're not going to get very deep, but come on, if the guy barely puts the effort into texting you a sentence, then how much effort is he putting into your relationship? And if his texts mostly involve emojis, especially the winking and devil ones, you have to figure what's really on his mind. Yes, men think with their nether regions, but again, real relationships go beyond meeting his physical needs.

If he really wants to get to know you, he'll stop the emoji games, pick up the phone, get his head out of his crotch, and have a real conversation with you to get to know you - yes, the old school ones like we used to have that involve speaking out loud with sounds coming out of your mouth. And he will enjoy the conversation and so will you. Oh wait, you're having an omg moment - did he even add your number in his phone?!

13 Your Dates Are On His Terms

When are your dates? Are they usually on his schedule? Does he consider that you might be an actual busy person with your own schedule? Uh, huh! Stop letting this sh*t slide. It's not a good look. If it's grandma's 70th birthday tomorrow, but he just has to see you because he like totally misses you so much and will totally make it up to you some other time - well, he's just being an arrogant a-hole who's only thinking about what will work for him. If he's taking you back to his place every time, he really only wants one thing from you. Why doesn't he want to see your place? Because he's really not into this relationship and doesn't care to get to know you. He doesn't want to take the time to have a look inside your world because he's too involved in his own.

When men care about you, they value your input, your feelings and your time. They will prioritize you and when planning dates, will take into account what will work for not only you, but the people in your life who matter. Because you matter to him, this relationship is important to him, and he doesn't want to screw it up. So if he's screwing around with your heart, scheduling your dates around when it's convenient to him without even inquiring about your schedule, it's time to cut him loose.

12 He Encourages Open Relationships

You're sitting at Starbucks, sipping your unicorn frappuccinos, and he starts mentioning this awesomely cool idea he had. And he's not sure if you'll be into it, but he tells you just to trust him and says something along the lines of, "why not be a little bit more adventurous?" Life is too serious, he just wants to have more fun with you. The more the merrier, right? Yes, maybe for chill hangouts over coffee, but not for relationships!

If he's even breathed the word, "party of three", do yourself a favor and get the heck out now! Again, if a man cares about you, he would never imagine in a million years anyone else in bed with you. He wouldn't be fine about it or even encourage it. If he wants to share the bed and live out his fantasies, that's great and all, but you're not going to be a part of it. If a man is truly into you, he will want you all for himself. Men are naturally territorial, and they enjoy taking stake over their ahem, assets. If he was falling for you, he would stop being a ridiculously, immature 12 year old and take the relationship seriously. He may not delete all the pics of his Hollywood crushes from his cell or computer, but you can't win 'em all. So if he's encouraging you to relax, mix things up, and be more "open" while  inviting others to join the party, this relationship is going - you guessed it - nowhere.

11 He Avoids 'The Talk" 

Ahhh, the talk. If he's not only avoiding eye contact with you when you attempt "the talk", but tries to avoid it entirely, this guy doesn't have it together. Relationships are complicated, and many elements need to come organically together for it to work, including the right timing. However, if he doesn't even attempt to have the all important conversation with you about where your relationship is going, you and him are probably not going to work out. A lot of times men are afraid of commitment because they're afraid of growing up, settling down and really starting their lives. Until they get over this hump, and grow the f' up, they like to keep their options open. I mean, maybe this guy really doesn't have his life together and is genuinely not ready to make you his girlfriend? But shouldn't he at least care to try or express it? Which starts with being open to this end all, be all conversation, the talk.

If a man is in it for the long haul, he will be excited to have the talk with you and officially make you his girlfriend. Heck, he should be asking you in the first place! It's adorable when men get vulnerable and put their feelings out there. He will be absolutely psyched to take these next steps with you. He wants a future with you, which starts with becoming an official couple. So if he gets that look of terror in his eyes, when you bring up the talk, gets all fidgety, or handsy for that matter - yea, oust him, babe!

10 He Says He Doesn't Have Social Media Accounts

It's unavoidable, we live in a social world, and a lot of our lives are played out digitally on our screens. In this day and age, if you don't have an online presence, it kind of like you don't even exist. And that goes for your relationship too. If it doesn't exist on a digital plane, something fishy might be going on like he's not actually as into you as you thought he was. So, if you ask him if he's on Facebook and he says, no? Whoah, red flag. This guy is definitely hiding something. There's no way he just doesn't have social media at all. Maybe you should run because he's got a very shady past going on. Because you don't really know someone until you've looked them up online and uncovered all their dark skeletons and dorky old pictures. And, let's face it. At our core, we're all just egotistical basic b*tches posting every mundane tidbit about our lives for all the world to see. And if this guy was into you, he would be posting at least some moments of your relationship for all the world to see on social media! Some couples take this way too far, and its downright disgusting, just broadcasting their affection for each other constantly. But you should at least show up in his feed, and there should be pics of you alone and you guys as a couple on his accounts. So yes, unfortunately hun, in this day and age, in order for it to be official, you have to be Facebook official, or your relationship is facing an existential crisis. And for that matter, if you guys haven't tried face swap yet, or taken a ridiculously unnecessary pics with doggy ears, then it's time to say buh - bye to this socially challenged loser.

9 He Brings You To The Shadiest Most Random Restaurants

So I hate to break it you hun, but there's a reason why your dates are at all these weird, random restaurants, and "off the beaten path" locales. Your man is hiding something- you! If he doesn't take you to a nice, classy, or trendy restaurant, let alone a decent one you've heard of, he doesn't want to be seen with you. Men will take you to places on purpose that they know they will never be spotted by a friend or anyone in their social circle. You should be feeling all warm and tingly with butterflies, not freaked out, like where the f' am I?

Courting when done right is an art form, and men not only enjoy but also take pride in planning dates for you two to go on. This chivalrous responsibility usually falls on the guy, but it's one of those traditions from yesteryear that's still honored and totally cool, if you ask me. He should want to impress you by taking you to the hottest spot in town. And also ask you your opinion too of where you want to go, and places you want to try. Again, these are things he should want to do to please you. Not purposefully taking you to the most sketchy, ghetto eateries on the other side of town, away from civilization. If he has the audacity to do this, get out now.

8 His Job Is An Alternate Universe

Do you even know what he does? Unfortunately, in today's society you are basically defined by what you do for a living. I hate to burst your bubble, but if you don't truly know what he does and where he does it, you really don't know him. And the reason is probably that he doesn't want you to get to know him. No hun, he's not some cool, international spy. He's being mysterious on purpose because he's not sharing that huge part of his life with you. He may not want to completely let you in to his world because he doesn't want to fully commit to you. On the other hand, it is possible that he is ashamed of what he does and where he works because he truly doesn't have his life together. However, if he cared about you, he would be honest about this part of his life with you. He would eventually take you to his office and introduce you to his coworkers to put his amazing girlfriend on display. And when you stop by his desk, you may even see pictures hung up of you two.  Aww, I know right? This is how relationships are supposed to be. You two revealing your lives and yourselves to each other slowly (or maybe not so slowly), eventually allowing each other completely in. A beautiful thing.

7 He Goes MIA For Long Periods Of Time

Yes, sometimes relationships involve playing mind games with each other. Who will be the first to text? How long should I wait to text him back? You don't want to seem too eager and desperate by responding right away, but you don't want to wait too long either, giving the impression of complete lack of interest. Oh, it's exhausting. But in a twisted way, it's also kind of fun, these psychological little games we play. The cat and mouse chase defines some important aspects of your relationship, like who's wearing the pants. But when men don't really care about you, they take these games to another level. There's a threshold for an acceptable period of time in which you should expect a response. If he goes totally MIA and is like missing off the face of the earth, this isn't cool. He's purposefully hiding because he's not being faithful, or simply doesn't care enough about you to respond in a timely, thoughtful manner. Now, think about what happens when he does finally respond, and you two finally get together. Does he go totally overboard in the other direction and all of a sudden exclaims how he really "missed" you? Mind games, but not the innocent kind, my friend. He's saying that to deflect your focus from why it took so long for him to get back with you and is pretending to be so into you. He knows this is how he will win you over yet again, and get you back in the bedroom…

6 Too Many Netflix and Chill Sessions

It's honestly kind of laughable how "Netflix and Chill" has become such a part of our vernaculars and is now basically synonymous with getting together to hook up. I for one enjoy an actual Netflix sesh from time to time. Netflix has some awesome stuff these days. "13 reasons why", anyone? But seriously, we've all been there, and you know when he wants to "Netflix and Chill" what he really wants. Can we ever just actually get through the movie? And just when you think there's hope, that maybe, just maybe, you actually are being totally cute and coupley watching a movie together, his hands start to wander… Yep, next thing you're pressing pause and doing the, ahem, chilling part.

Again, relationships that are going somewhere happen outside of the bedroom, and off the couch. You're not teenagers anymore. This goes along with courting. If a man is interested in you beyond something physical, he will be having actual dates with you - you know in the outside world?

5 Breakfast In Bed? Not So Much

After sex, it is important to take note of your man's behavior. Does he get anxious and all of a sudden needs to be somewhere else? Getting out of bed with you, throwing his pants back on and totally bailing? Not cool, dear. He's making these excuses because, again, he's cheating or doesn't want to stay to give you the impression that he's really in this relationship. He just leaves you wanting more. Okay, so not every guy is all lovey dovey, wanting to cuddle and spoon you all night. Some do like their space after sex. However, this is doesn't mean he needs so much space that he needs to automatically jet out the door!

Again, guys do a lot to show their affection for girls they are infatuated with. After being intimate, men can sometimes fall into protective mode, embracing you, letting you know that you are his and he is yours. It's about his claiming what's his, which in this case is you. And no, it's not necessarily that you're his property, but he's valuing the treasure that you are to him. And yes, when guys are head over heels, they sometimes even tiptoe out of bed before you, and get all sexy with some pots and pans in the kitchen. Which, you know, you deserve.

4 Constantly Talks Over You

Men have big egos, especially the confident, smooth talking ones. We already established that. They love to hear the sound of their own voice, and relish in all their manhood accomplishments. Yet, some are more type A: controling, freakish, asserting their dominance by talking over you, and making decisions for you (ordering for you on the menu, anyone?). It really comes down to different personality types. But at the end of the day, it should be obvious that he is doing this because he cares about you and maybe is trying to impress you. He orders for you, just to make sure everything is perfect. Which is a good thing. And yes, honestly, it can be hard for guys to listen to us. Our high pitched, sometimes whiny voices? They like to drown us out. But some guys take this way too far, and it's pretty clear that they really don't care about you at all. If he is just not listening to you, off in his own bubble, and when he talks, completely talks over you, there is a reason. Unfortunately, he is not taking you or this relationship seriously.

3 He Calls You By Pet Names Too Soon

Ok, this one is honestly a little creepy. Some weirdos from the male sex, as part of their conquest of you, start calling you by all these seemingly innocent pet names. It's kind of like they don't care about your name, or even remember it for that matter?! Its pretty douchey behavior. And when it's way too early, there's something sketchy going on. "Baby", "sugar", "sweet pea", "doll", "boo", and "hun" are all warning signs. Pet names develop through a natural progression from your relationship. You and your significant other won't always call each other by your first names, so you make up cute endearing nicknames for each other. But if you two just met and he is calling you by these names, it's kind of like he's just grouping you in with all his other b*tches, and he doesn't actually care about you. You're just another girl he is sleeping with unfortunately. So you know what to do… Get your booty out of there!

2 Ditches You Last Minute

So this one goes back to the mind games we previously addressed. In relationships, you don't want to seem too accessible, clingy and desperate. You still want to seem to have your own life outside of the relationship and your own hobbies. And that is honestly even more attractive to guys - when you are not always so available because you have your own life going on. He will value that about you, and consequently value you as well, wanting you that much more. People want to have what seems to be worth having. That being said, it's one thing to have your own lives, but when he shows up late to your dates, purposefully making excuses and ditching you last minute, he's being a total sketch face. Come on, he's not always helping little old ladies across the street, or rescuing cats from trees, he is two - timing you. Because unfortunately, to him you are just a temporary thing, like a summer fling, or even an accessory. He is not valuing you or your time, and that just can't be condoned.

1 You Haven't Met His Friends

The time when you get to meet your man's friends and family is one of the most beautiful sacred parts of a new relationship. And this important step should be treated with sensitivity and respect. This is when your relationship is no longer just about you two, and you start letting each other into one another's intimate circle. However, when you two have been dating for like 6 months, and you still haven't met any of his buddies, or family, he is probably leaving you out on purpose. He doesn't want to share these people or these parts of his life with you because that would mean you guys are getting more serious. He is keeping it casual because, yep, here we go again, he's afraid of commitment or just keeping you as a side dish. Ugh, and you're deserving of so much more! So when you do finally get to meet the 'rents and bros, and it's the right time and the right relationship, it will be worth the wait, trust me. Best case scenario, you gain new friends and another family, expanding your world forever.