15 Signs He Wants To Be Friends With Benefits

Relationships aren't for everyone. Truthfully, there are many people out there who just don't want to deal with everything that goes into them. However, they're still human and they have needs. Which means they need someone to keep them warm at night and meet all their bedroom needs. So the concept of being friends with benefits was invented. Basically, people who are just friends with benefits have all the naughty benefits of having a significant other without all of the commitment, effort, and feelings. One other way of putting it is that these people basically just use each other to get lucky and nothing else. And as long as both parties know this is the case, it's perfectly fine. The one thing that can be a bit of a struggle with these cases, however, is that sometimes it's hard to tell if a guy wants to be friends with benefits or if they want something more. You may think they want to date you when in reality, they just want to be friends with benefits. If you're having a hard time figuring it out, this will help. Here are 15 signs that he only wants to be FWB with you.

15 He Mainly Talks About One Thing

If he has a habit of bringing up certain topics and even talking about certain things he wants to try in the bedroom, chances are he's doing this to test if you would be willing to do those things. Most guys don't go around bringing up all these different intimate topics if they're actually trying to woo you and win your heart. Nope. If he's doing this then most likely, he's just trying to point out the fact that he likes having fun and not being in relationships. He'll do this a few times when you're together and if you start responding to these topics and discussing it with him, he'll be even more likely to bring up perhaps becoming friends with benefits. Either that or he's actually a super perverted guy who feels the need to talk about such personal matters out in the open with people he doesn't know too well. And if that's the case, you probably are not interested.

14 You Only Hang Out Late at Night

This is a super telltale sign of a guy only watching to be friends with benefits. If he only ever contacts you later than 11 p.m., then it's likely he just wants to get in your pants and that's it. Guys who actually want to date you are the ones who will be texting you good morning and catching up on your whole day. The ones who only want to be friends with benefits with you will only text you during the late hours of the night or when they really have nothing better to do. It's up to you to determine which way this guy is going with him reaching out. If you only ever go over there really late at night or during a time when his other plans got canceled, it's a sign he wants to be friends with benefits. You can even tell this is the case if he ends up getting all handsy right when you get there, too. Yup, that's super obvious.

13 He Says He Hates Relationships

This is a pretty clear sign, yet some girls seem to miss it a lot. If the guy you've been talking to and even hooking up with only wants to be friends with benefits, he'll bring up the fact that he doesn't want a relationship or even dislikes them in general. This could be the way he talks about his ex and how he definitely isn't ready for anything like that again or the way he downright hates on other couples the two of you know. Either way, if he even hints at the fact that he isn't interested in being in a relationship anytime soon, yet he's still hanging out with you and even hooking up, he only wants to be friends with benefits and nothing more. Don't act like you have no clue what's going on by making excusing for him or justifying why he's saying those things. Take them as they are and know that he only wants to be friends with benefits.

12 He Doesn't Talk About Personal Stuff

If the two of you have been hanging out and hooking up and he still never talks about his personal life, his problems, or even his friends or family, then he just wants to be friends with benefits. A guy who actually wants a relationship with you is going to talk about himself all the time in order for you to get to know him better. So if your guy isn't talking about himself at all and you only end up talking about current events or mutual friends, then it's possible all he's looking for is a hookup buddy to satisfy his manly needs. Keep in mind that some guys are just very closed off at first and you have to dig in order to get them to open up. However, if you've ever brought up something personal and he's shot it down or changed the subject, he just wants to be friends with benefits. There are no ifs, ands or buts about it.

11 You Don't Hang Out in Public

This is a huge sign that he wants to keep your relationship strictly in the bedroom. If the two of you never actually go on dates or even walk around in public together at all, then he just wants to be friends with benefits. Normally, if a guy is trying to win you over and make you his, he'll want to take you all over town just to show you off and have experiences with you. So the fact that this guy is just keeping everything in the bedroom is a sure sign that he just wants all of the intimate benefits of a relationship and nothing else. If you two are just taking things slow and you're not ready to take things out in public, it can be a little confusing to tell. The best way to figure this part out is to talk about future dates. If he ignores you or shuts the conversation topic totally down, he just wants to be friends with benefits.

10 He Flirts In Front of You

If the two of you are hooking up in secret and when you go out with your friend group he flirts and mingles with other girls right in front of you, then he just wants to be friends with benefits. This is a very obvious sign that he only wants to hook up with you because if he actually was trying to get to know you better and potentially be your boyfriend, he wouldn't be trying to pick up other girls while you're right there next to him. Sure, it may not be the classiest thing for him to do, but if you're just friends with benefits then you clearly aren't exclusive. As long as the two of you have never made it seem like you were only sleeping with each other this is perfectly acceptable and a sign you two are just going about things as friends with benefits. If you thought you might be something more, then this is your answer.

9 You've Never Met His Friends

If you just met randomly at a bar or at school one day and ended up taking things in the bedroom on multiple occasions and now you're wondering where you fall on his relationship spectrum, this can help you figure it out. If he likes you and wants to potentially date you, he'd introduce you to his friends or at least talk about his friends with you. If he's done neither and it's been quite some time, then it's a sign he only wants to be friends with benefits. Guys hold their friends' opinions very highly and if he even thought about making you his girlfriend, he would've had you meet them in order to see what they thought. However, if you two are just hooking up then he really doesn't care what they have to say and that's why you haven't met them. Just remember that guys who actually do like you may just be embarrassed by their friends. So take this sign lightly.

8 You Don't Hear From Him For Days

This is really common in a relationship that is only sex-based and that's why it's a huge sign that he only wants to be friends with benefits. When you're actually in a relationship or when a guy wants to be in a relationship with you eventually, they'll keep in touch every single day because they want to know about your life and how things are going for you. Guys who only want to be friends with benefits don't really care and will only contact you when they want you to come over and sleep with them. It may sound a little harsh, but that's how friends with benefits relationships are. If you go more than a day or two without hearing from him, then chances are he only sees your relationship as something to be kept in the bedroom and it means nothing more. However, guys who still only want to be friends with benefits can still text you every day just to keep the line of communication open. So watch out.

7 You Hook Up Every Time You Hang Out

If you've ended up sleeping with them every single time you went to hang out, then this is definitely a friends with benefits relationship. Real relationships have so much more to them than just being intimate when you get in the same room. If he actually wants to be an item for real, he'll want to go to the movies, take you to dinner, and even just have a relaxing night watching movies at home without even doing the naughty at all. This means that if you go over there late at night and only end up being intimate before leaving, he really only wants to be friends with benefits. This is a super obvious sign that sometimes gets overlooked if you put too much value on what it means to a guy. Just because he wants to get you naked doesn't mean he wants you in a relationship. He just means he wants to see you naked. Period.

6 He Doesn't Ask About Your Life

If you're over at his place or he's over at yours a lot, you're bound to have a few conversations. That's only natural, right? However, if he only ever asks about things that have nothing to do with your life or he just never asks about personal things, then he may just want to be friends with benefits. This shows that he really doesn't care to get to know you any more than on a surface level. He does this so he doesn't risk developing feelings for you by getting to know you more. It's a way of distancing the two of you so you only remain friends with benefits and nothing more. We all know that when someone starts asking about your deepest desires and goals in life, they want to have a future with you. So by keeping all of those questions unanswered, he's basically telling you he only wants things on a physical level.

5 He Doesn't Stick Around After Hooking Up

If he comes over to your place late at night and all you two do is chat for a little bit and then end up hooking up before he leaves, then you are totally FWB, whether or not you actually realize it. When a guy only comes over to hit it before leaving your place, he's sending a clear message that doing that is all he wants out of seeing you. No guy who actually cares about you is going to just sleep with you and leave right away. Those actions are only done by a guy who is trying to make it clear that all he wants to do is hook up with you and having nothing else to do with a relationship. This is also true if he wants you to leave shortly after you hooked up at his place. When he's shooing you out really quickly, he's telling you he only wants to be friends with benefits. Well, he's not telling you in so many words, but he's proving this with his actions.

4 He Mentions Going Out With Other People

Some people who are just FWB do talk about their lives sometimes. But if he tells you about his day or a night out with the guys and mentions how he ended up hooking up or even going out with another girl, then he only wants to be friends with benefits. This really only means that he is attracted to you physically and he is still looking for the girl that he wants to really be with. Some girls may take this in the wrong way by assuming this means the guy is no longer interested when in reality, he may just be trying to get the point across to you that he only wants to be friends with benefits and that's it. The point is, if he's talking about other girls around you, then he doesn't see you as someone he's in a relationship with in any way at all.

3 His Compliments Are Related To One Thing

A guy who is trying to get you in bed is going to compliment you in some way. The thing to remember here is that if all of his compliments are strictly based on something intimate, then he may only want to be friends with benefits. When a guy actually likes you and wants to be in a real relationship, he's going to tell you how much he appreciates your interests or intelligence, along with your physical appearance. But when a guy only wants to be friends with benefits with you, he's going to tell you how sexy you are and how great you are in bed and that's about as far as his compliments will go. He doesn't want to make you think that he wants anything more and maybe he doesn't even like anything else. Friends with benefits relationships don't really require that he likes anything else about you than your physical attributes.

2 You're A Secret

If he's kept you from his friends and asked you not to say anything to your friends, he probably just wants to keep things on a physical level and nothing more. Normally, when a guy is looking for something more than just a hookup, he'll be boasting about this amazing girl he's met and he'll try to tell everyone about you. But if he just wants someone to get him off and please him in the bedroom, he'll more than likely keep it to himself in case he ends up meeting someone he may want to make their girlfriend. Bottom line is if he's keeping your hookups a secret, he probably only wants to be friends with benefits. Don't let him keeping you a secret become something romantic to you and tricks you into feeling that he wants you more than he really does. Remember that if he wants more, he'd be showing you off.

1 He Says So

This is ultimately the only way to know for sure that a guy only wants to be friends with benefits: he will tell you straight up that this is the only thing that he wants here. If you've been beating yourself up over the fact that you can't tell how he's feeling about you and you really are having a hard time deciding what all of these signs mean, then just ask him. He may try to avoid answering this question, but that will say all that you need because an aversion to answering this is basically a yes. But usually, if a guy is only looking for a hookup he'll make it known before you two really get into things because he won't really want to hurt you. Most guys are genuinely good people who don't really want the drama that comes with a girl who thinks she means more to him than she really does. So if you're not sure, then go ahead and ask. Chances are he's going to tell you the truth.