15 Reasons Why He'll Put Up With Your BS
You and your BFFs love to talk about boy problems but sometimes you're actually the one to blame. Sorry not sorry - the truth hurts but it can be totally necessary. You may be a perfectly lovely person but when it comes to your current relationship, you treat your boyfriend super badly and you're not a dream girlfriend at all. Or anything even close to it. You may even wonder why your boyfriend puts up with you and why he seems to be totally okay with staying in this relationship even though things clearly aren't going anywhere good. Guys are complicated creatures (and so are we, of course) but not so complicated that you can't figure out what's really going on. Here are 15 reasons he'll put up with your b.s. That doesn't excuse your bad behavior, of course. But you already knew that. Hopefully, once you figure out why your BF is sticking around, you can change your ways… . or you'll be crying into a pint of rocky road.
15 You're Having A Rough Time
You're not always a saint when you're having a rough time. How can you possibly be? When you're super exhausted or not sleeping well (or both, since hey, those two things seem to go together pretty well) or dealing with an emotional or health issue, you may not always be the nicest person. And you're definitely not going to be super nice to your boyfriend. You want to be, of course, and you feel horrible about how you're treating him, but you expect him to always be around so you don't think twice about not putting in the same amount of effort that you did before. Your boyfriend will put up with your total bs behavior because he knows that this isn't the real you and that you're really struggling right now. But you probably want to nip this in the bud before you cause a real problem between the two of you.
14 You're Stressed To The Max
It can be really hard to be nice to people when you're stressed. You have a super short fuse, you get mad at the drop of a hat, and almost anything can honestly piss you off. Your BF is totally included on your list, unfortunately. You don't mean to treat him this way and you don't want to but it just keeps happening and it's like a monster has taken over your body and you just can't stop it. You can't help but snap at him when he asks what take-out you want for dinner or what you want to do Saturday night. He knows that you're super stressed these days, whether from a personal issue or maybe things are nuts at work, and so he's going to put up with you. But once the situation is resolved, he's not going to put up with it, that's for sure. So be careful about this. Not that you should be treating him badly just because you're stressed anyway…
13 You Just Got Back Together
Maybe you're not being super sweet towards your boyfriend because the two of you were broken up for a while and you just got back together. You might still resent him for something that he did that caused the breakup in the first place, or you might not be super sure that you two should have gotten back together at all. He could completely understand this and be willing to give you some time and space to figure your feelings and thoughts out. The only problem with this is that if you're already being a total jerk toward him, then you probably went your separate ways for a reason and you probably should think about splitting up once and for all. Like for real this time. Your problems are still there, even if you kissed and made up and swore you would never be apart ever again. And like the other reasons here, just because you're being mean to him for a good reason doesn't mean that you're in the right.
12 You're Mad At Him
You can also be pretty pissed off at your boyfriend even if you've stayed together this whole time but he honestly made a massive mistake that almost caused you two to breakup. He knows that he did something wrong and he's paid his dues and apologized and proved to you that he means it. You believe him… well, kind of. You're still pretty mad at him and so you just keep treating him badly no matter how much you want things to go back to normal as fast as possible. You two are in a really rough spot and so sure, he'll put up with your bs since he's still essentially in the doghouse (such a strange term but hey, it works). But once a legitimate amount of time passes, he's going to get pretty sick and tired of being treated like this, so you only have a short window of time for him to accept your bs (not that he really should in the first place).
11 He Truly Loves You
When a guy really loves you, he'll pretty much put up with anything, for better or for worse. This is the kind of situation when all his friends and family members are totally confused about why he's still with you. They're going to tell him to dump you and get out as soon as possible and they're going to wonder why he accepts this awful treatment. And he'll say, hey, he can't help it. He's super in love with you and he just can't turn those feelings off. And what's more, he doesn't want to. So yeah, no matter how badly you treat him or how much he wishes that he could just tell you that it's time to end things, he's not going to. It's also possible that he's always been in bad relationships and he's always been treated pretty badly so he figures that this is just what happens and that this is what love actually is. If that's the case, that's kind of sad. Actually, that's really, really sad. You should definitely be the one to realize that you should end things if you can't stop being mean to this guy.
10 He Thinks You'll Change
You know how sometimes you wish that guys would change? Or you want to change part of your current BF's personality? Or you want to change the fact that he won't truly commit to you or something like that? Yeah, well, guys want to change you, too, and sometimes they let you treat them like crap because they think that you're going to change. Your boyfriend might have no idea why you're suddenly treating him a total enemy but hey, he's going to stick around because he's wondering if you're going to change. And he's really hoping that's what's going to happen. No guy would ever think that they should stay in a relationship that's no longer any fun at all. But they would definitely stay if they think that things will improve. Because hey, if you love someone, you love them, and you never want to believe that anything bad is going to happen. You want to be together forever and that's just the way that it is.
9 You're His First Girlfriend
When you're a guy's first girlfriend, you have to tread carefully. If you treat this guy really horribly, he's going to put up with your bs as long as you let him essentially because hey, he doesn't know any better. He's so honestly happy to be with someone and to even be able to call a girl his girlfriend that he's just not even thinking about whether or not this is a good relationship for him. You may not think that's a good thing… and you would absolutely be right. But you may have no idea that you're even treating him badly at all and so at the end of the day, this is a really toxic relationship and it's not a great situation for either one of you. But at least now you know why he's sticking around even though you're not being nice to him on a regular basis. This is also a good answer for when people wonder why he hasn't dumped you yet.
8 You've Been Together Forever
You know how long-term couples can fight and fight and fight and yet they never seem to even think about breaking up? They've been together for so long and they're so ingrained in each other's lives that splitting up just doesn't seem like even a remote possibility. That might be happening to you right now and that might be why your boyfriend is putting up with your total and utter bs. You may not even have a single clue as to why you're being so mean to him. You might just be used to treating him this way, or you might just have been with him for so long that you two have gotten into a rhythm and you're used to arguing and being less than super nice to each other. So yeah, while he's putting up with your crap, that doesn't mean that you're not putting up with his crap as well. So that's really a match made in hell when you think about it. And you should probably ask yourself why either one of you is staying put.
7 He Wants A Girlfriend
Sometimes we get into relationships because we don't want to be the only single one in our friend group and we're so tired of our families constantly asking us why we're on our own. But just like we want a boyfriend, sometimes guys just want a girlfriend. So they will definitely put up with any bs that you throw their way because hey, at least they have a GF and at least they can show you off to everyone that you know. You may be thinking that this isn't a good idea… and yeah, you would be right. You would absolutely be right. You might want to stop being such a brat and ask yourself why because it's possible that you're treating him like this because you know that he doesn't really love you for you and that he's essentially using you to fill the girlfriend role in his world. And if that's the case, then no one would blame you… but that still doesn't mean that this is a good way to behave.
6 He Doesn't Even Notice
This may sound kind of strange… but when you think about it, it makes a whole lot of sense. People can be pretty obvious and if you've been with your boyfriend for a long time, then he might have no clue that your behavior is anything less than ordinary. Because, well, for him it's pretty normal and within the context of your relationship, it's super normal too. He's gotten so used to the way that you behave around him and the things that you say to him and everything else, he doesn't see it as the problem that it really is. So he might just have no clue that this is an issue and that the two of you need to figure out why this is happening and whether or not you should stay together. This might be why his friends and family are wondering why you're still together and why his response is to be super confused that they're even asking him that.
5 He's Giving You Another Chance
On the other hand, maybe your boyfriend is super mad at you for the way that you have been treating him and he's told you that he's giving you another chance. Basically, this is a make-it-or-break-it kind of situation. He's not super sure about you as a long-term girlfriend and he might not even truly believe that you're going to be nicer to him and actually be a normal human being. But hey, he loves you enough to give you another chance. So you should definitely take this pretty seriously and think about whether or not this is something that is worth saving. This is the time for you to dig deep and figure out why you've been acting this way because chances are, you're not super proud of yourself and you don't normally behave in this awful manner. Well, hopefully, you don't, at least, because it kind of sucks.
4 You Just Reconciled
Maybe the two of you have literally just gotten back together after a break or a breakup (even though, as every loyal Friends fan knows, there is literally no such thing as a break). Maybe you're both still arguing on a regular basis because your real problems are still there and there's really no covering them up or trying your very best to ignore them. It's possible that your boyfriend is allowing you to act this way because he's trying to figure out whether or not you guys did the right thing in terms of getting back together. He might not even be taking you seriously because his head might be in the clouds right now and he might be so laser focused on figuring out if he should truly dump you for real this time. Sure, this kind of sucks and it's definitely not fun to think about, but it might be time to think about the consequences of your actions. Just saying…
3 He's A Big Joker
It's definitely no secret that some guys are just big jokers. They don't take very much in life super seriously (or untying, really). So if your boyfriend is basically a comedian, then it's totally possible that he doesn't think you're being that mean to him at all. He might laugh at you on a regular basis or think that you're joking around even when you're not at all. This might work out because hey, if he's not getting offended by your witchy behavior, then no harm done, right? But at the same time, do you really want to be acting this way? Aren't you kind of embarrassed and ashamed of yourself? Did your parents raise you to treat other people this way? Probably not… You might want to check yourself and get a personality change before you actually end up hurting your boyfriend because one day, he might realize that you really are being a jerk.
2 It's A Toxic Relationship
If you're already in a toxic relationship, then your boyfriend will have absolutely no problem putting up with your bs. That makes sense, right? Things are already so bad and so messed up that any extra stress, drama, conflict or tension just seems like part of the whole deal. When you think about that, that's pretty horrible and you might have a bigger problem on your hands than just how badly you're treating the person that you supposedly care about more than anyone else in the world. Think about whether or not you really want to be in a relationship that is classified as toxic. The truth is you probably don't want to be and that could even be why you're acting this way. Since you probably don't want to be such a witch and you probably consider yourself a pretty good person, in general, it just might be time to really carefully examine what's going on in your love life.
1 He's The Worst
At the end of the day, you can only be treated badly if you accept it and let it happen. So if your boyfriend is honestly and truly putting up with your bs and never seems to even care, then guess what? He's pretty much the worst person ever. He's either crazy insecure and doesn't believe that he deserves to be treated well by anyone, let alone his very own girlfriend, or he's just a mean person and doesn't know what normal human decency is either. That definitely doesn't excuse your behaviour because hey, you've definitely been pretty horrible to him. But it does explain why he hasn't dumped you yet or even told you off for acting this way. This honestly means that the two of you don't have a legit love story and that you should both go your separate ways as soon as humanly possible. Until you can be in the right relationship for you, you're probably going to treat someone really badly. But when it's right and real, there won't be any bs at all, and that's what you want.