15 Married Men Whisper Confessions

We all have our dirty little secrets, and for some people, that doesn't change once they get married. In fact, sometimes they develop a whole bunch of other dirty secrets that they keep from their partner, at the risk of ruining everything.

Marriage sometimes gets a bad rap for being outdated and not realistic, especially in an era where cheating is so easy and available. But ultimately, it comes down to wanting to share your love and life with another person forever. Whether you need a piece of paper and a ceremony to say that is up to you. Unfortunately for a lot of these Whisper users, marriage did not exactly go as planned, or they've sabotaged it themselves. Some of these husbands are real jerks - and they were probably that way before they ever got married! Others actually sound like decent people. From cheating to settling to wishing you could change the person you married, a lot of these confessions might ruin your idea about what married life is, but don't worry, there are still a few good ones out there, and we've included some of those too! Do any of these confessions shock you, or do you have one to add yourself? Let us know!

15 The Settler

No one likes to feel like they've settled for anything, whether it be a job, a home, or a relationship, but it's human nature to wonder and think that the grass is greener on the other side. That's the case for this husband, who has been unhappily married for seven years it seems. I'm not sure why he thinks he settled for his wife, but it's a pretty lousy thing to think you'd be happier with her best friend! You don't know what her best friend is like in a dating capacity, you only know what she's like around your wife! Maybe she's whiny or needy or judgmental, or a myriad of other annoying qualities.

I just feel bad for the wife here. No one wants to be thought of as a consolation prize, especially not by the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with. I hope she dumps him before he can do anything to her and finds someone who appreciates her for who she is!

14 The Silent Type

Okay, but why? To not even want to talk to your wife - this person you've committed to spending the rest of your life with - is a pretty clear sign that you're not happy in your marriage and should end it now. I've read confessions about not wanting to sleep with or be around a wife, but to not even want to talk to her seems pretty extreme. Does she have an annoying voice? Does she only nag? Does she only talk in questions like this?

Whatever it is, this Whisper user sounds pretty cowardly to hide from his wife or pretend to be asleep to avoid interaction. But you know what? Maybe he's doing his wife a favor! Maybe he's just terrible (which is what he sounds like), and he's saving her from having to deal with his jerk self! In that case, keep up the good work, you man baby!

13 The Fashion Critic

If you've ever watched any wedding show (basically half the lineup on TLC), you know one of the best parts is critiquing the bride-to-be's dress choice. With inflated ruffles, yards of beadwork, and a fervent love of rhinestones for extra sparkle, some of those things can be downright ugly (but no less expensive)! This confession is funnier than the others on this list, and at least he admits that his bride was beautiful! It's just that her dress choice… er, not so much.

Hey, everyone has their own personal tastes and style, and maybe he just wanted something a little different. Maybe he's more of a minimalist and she's a maximalist (or vice versa). Plus, a wedding is only one day, and aside from the photos to remind you afterwards, I'm sure this husband will get past the ugly wedding dress and enjoy being married to a woman who looks beautiful no matter what she wears.

12 The Surprise Reveal

The worst thing about this Whisper confession isn't even the cheating (shocking, I know), but the fact that the writer doesn't even seem sorry about it. It's a game to him, something he can laugh about because he's fooling her. She's probably telling him to go see her brother for some guy time, so he's away from her sister, and then those two are busy getting it on while she's none the wiser! Maybe I'm reading too much into this, and the writer is actually remorseful for his misdeeds, but I kind of doubt it. He knows that since his wife suspects her sister of being one half of the adulterous pair, he'll be able to get away with his real affair for much longer. It's just a complete betrayal, especially if he never disclosed his sexuality to her beforehand (and it doesn't sound like he did). Wrong sibling? More like wrong husband!

11 The Nostalgic

Wait, wait, wait. Female friends, or ex-girlfriends? Why does this dude have photos of his naked female friends if they weren't hooking up? I seriously hope they were hooking up, otherwise this sounds pretty creepy to me! There's just something that feels ickier about a guy holding onto nudes from exes rather than going online to find naked strangers to look at. The familiarity of it just feels invasive, which is probably why this confessor hasn't told his wife!

Also, I wonder if his friends (or girlfriends, or whatever) know that not only does he still have their photos, but that he looks at them regularly! Sorry, but that reads like a grade-A creep to me! This confession is more harmless compared to some of the others on this list, but that's only if his wife doesn't feel the need to go snooping - and then this guy may ONLY have pictures to comfort himself with.

10 The Closeted Guy

This is a sad Whisper confession, because the writer isn't able to fully enjoy his happiness with his partner. It is interesting that he was able to commit to a marriage, but has not been able to come out to his parents. I would hope he had a supportive group of friends to help celebrate their union!

Look, it's 2016, people, and love is love is love. It's a rare enough thing to find, so if it's discovered between two consenting adults, who cares about their gender or sexuality? I hope this Whisper user is able to still be happy without this cloud hanging over his head, and that he can move past this secret by opening up to his parents - perhaps they'll be more accepting than he expects! Also, these parents sound pretty clueless about the whole thing, if they think his husband is his roommate! I mean, come on, how involved in your son's life are you?

9 The “Nice Guy”

A good rule of thumb: never trust anyone who refers to themselves as a “nice guy” - they're usually anything but. This is a confessor who doesn't seem embarrassed or ashamed of his antics, and I just can't deal with someone who's proud of being a cheating a$$hole.

He sounds like a bit of a sociopath, a guy who gets off on manipulating others, which is clearly what he's doing to his wife and anyone who thinks he's a good person. The logical thing to do if you've been cheating on your wife for years is to leave her, but of course this “nice guy”then becomes the bad guy for ending the marriage and risks exposing himself as the real jerk he is! I feel bad for his poor wife, who clearly has no idea, and I hope he stumbles and fails to cover his tracks so she can get out while the getting's good.

8 The Bad Lover

This Whisper confession is bad for a couple reasons. One, the cheating, obviously, and two, the fact that this couple is having crappy sex so the husband can hide his infidelity. Plus, I feel like maybe he's overestimating his performance and that she probably wouldn't notice much of a difference.

Cheating is crummy in any form, whether or not there's a physical element involved, but then to take such pains to hide it is proof of what a terrible person this confessor is. He's so willing to hide his extramarital affair that he's happy to risk his marriage in more ways than one. I'd like to know why he began cheating in the first place, because if it was from lack of bedroom action, this certainly isn't going to help matters! On the upside, if his wife ever does wise up to his misdeeds - or just leaves him for her own reasons - at least she won't have to put up with his sub-par performance between the sheets!

7 The Happy Hubby

A happy marriage Whisper confession - although no less scandalous! I'm not sure if this exactly qualifies as an open relationship, but the fetish it describes is actually a pretty common one. Known as 'cuckolding' for men, or 'cuckqueaning' for women, this practice is when one partner enjoys watching the other get it on with someone else. It requires a lot of trust and open communication, but it seems to work for this couple!

Like open marriages (and traditional ones), jealousy and insecurity are still real issues, and so these setups can't work unless both parties are fully into it and open about their feelings. I'm really glad these two have found something that works for them, and that alleviates any seven-year-itchiness in a stable and loving way. So while this definitely isn't everyone's cup of tea, if it works for you both (and I really mean BOTH), then go for it!

6 The One-Sider

It's a pretty common myth that marriage is a shortcut to a sexless existence. Spending all that time with someone, learning their annoying quirks, getting up close and personal with their bathroom habits - all of it can suck some of the romance out of a relationship. However, this guy is clearly not taking his fair share of the blame for their shoddy sex life. He says his wife is at fault, but what about him? Is he doing anything to spice things up or make her feel sexy so she'll want to put the moves on him? If all this husband is doing is complaining about his wife without making any effort himself (besides asking her to do the dirty), then their stale sex life is just as much his fault as it is hers! Seems to me like his quest to find a side piece is immature and downright disrespectful. Don't be a coward and look for a chick to have on the side - talk to your wife about what's missing!

5 The Personal Trainer

I'd like to know what this Whisper writer means when he says his wife has completely let herself go. Has she gained weight or just stopped dressing up for him? Maybe she feels more comfortable being married, and so doesn't have the desire (or the time) to jump through whatever hoops she made for herself before they settled down?

There are a LOT of Whisper confessions from men complaining about their wives not having sex with them, which really read more like a request for some side action from other users than an actual confession. If she doesn't feel sexy, she won't want to have sex. If you haven't made her feel sexy, she won't want to have sex. This guy seems to me like he's judging his wife for her shortcomings instead of letting her know he's into her no matter what. Sex and relationships are a two-way street, buddy, so it's not only her who has to get back on track!

4 The Stressed Out Guy

So, you're pretty much a total d-bag! I get it - weddings are stressful. You have to deal with who to invite, how many people to invite, where to have it, what to serve, when to have it, what to wear, who'll be involved in the wedding party, and a lot of it comes down to the sheer cost of everything, but listen: a wedding is not a marriage.

Why would this guy want to risk his entire future with his fiancée because he's stressed out over some party? Clearly, there are a lot more issues at play here than just the wedding! And to do it with the bridesmaid - they're both in the wrong. I'm assuming she's somehow close to the bride because she has a spot in the wedding party, so honey, you suck as a friend! Perhaps those two should get together and save the bride the inevitable grief that'll come when she finds out what a sleazeball she married!

3 The Secret Surgery

Here's some really solid life advice: if you're in a relationship and you haven't discussed basic things about the future like houses, jobs, and kids, you probably shouldn't be getting married. Chances are, your opinion on these things won't change, and it's only fair to your partner if you're clear on that from the get-go. If you hate the idea of having kids because you want to have money and nice things all to yourself, then don't tell your partner you might want kids “one day”. It's giving them hope when you've already made up your mind.

The fact that this confessor didn't just lie about not wanting kids, but actually went to the trouble of having surgery to prevent it is a major red flag. Also, Whisper writer, not sure if you know this but the procedure IS reversible, so you're not quite out of the woods yet!

2 The Thrill Seeker

Why is this person even married? Seriously, dude, why would you do this to your wife? Are you cheating with multiple people or just a few woman whom you rotate? Ugh, this guy is one of the reasons so many people are insecure in their relationships, because jerks like this exist to screw up the idea of what marriage is meant to be. Clearly, this Whisper writer is a selfish man-child, who's willing to risk everything to get his cheap thrills. Hey, buddy, ever heard about rock climbing, skydiving, or race car driving? Give those a shot - just as thrilling and with an increased chance of you ending up in the hospital! Win-win!

Cheating just for the thrill is disrespectful not only to the marriage, but also to the women he's cheating on his wife with. There are no feelings - these women could be anyone. They're just tools to fuel his adrenaline rush.

1 The Lucky Man

This is just sweet, and such a necessary confession if you're feeling jaded after reading the ones earlier in this list. You may not think this even qualifies as a confession, but it really is, since the cliché for men is to be unhappy with being tied down and having to give up their bachelor lifestyle. Instead, this guy credits his wife as being the greatest thing to ever happen to him, and their children as making him the happiest man alive. Excuse me while I burst into a series of “Awws” and cry on my laptop!

It is a truly sweet and honest confession to hear from a husband and father who doesn't want to be anything but that, because it helps restore our faith in marriage, relationships, and men as a whole. I hope this husband tells his wife how much she means to him, and I hope she feels the same. Happily ever after is possible, people!