14 Must-Know Lesbian Dating Rules to Impress a Girl on a First Date

You meet an attractive girl, and you asked her out. You made the first step, but now what? If you want a good date, follow these lesbian dating rules.

Asking another woman out isn't easy. Since you're a woman, you know exactly how they think which puts even more pressure on you. But you shouldn't be freaking out. Instead, use this to your advantage, especially if you follow these lesbian dating rules.

Whether you met her online, the bar, or on the street, you made the brave move in asking her out. Good for you. It takes a lot of courage to do it. Naturally, like anyone, you don't want to screw it up, you really like her.

But how do you know what to do? What things should you avoid saying? Do you make a move on the first date? I know you have these questions going on in your head.

Lesbian dating rules you need to follow

But listen, you don't need to overthink it. All you need are some simple yet effective lesbian dating rules to navigate the dating world. No one said dating was going to be easy. Now that you have these rules, it won't feel like you're so alone in the whole ordeal.

If your past relationships didn't work out so well then I wouldn't use them as a guide unless you're trying to avoid the things you've done in the past. So, let's get you caught up on the lesbian dating rules that'll actually help you out on your date or budding relationship. It's time to get the ladies.

#1 What do you want? So, you asked this girl on a date, but what do you want from this? Before dating, know what you're looking for. Are you wanting something serious? Casual? Not sure? You need to be honest with yourself, so you can be honest with her. Don't play games.

#2 Girls can be fuckbois too. I know you're thinking if she's a girl, it must mean that she's not going to act like a fuckboi. Being a girl doesn't mean shit. Fuckbois can be femme, butch, or a chapstick lesbian. They literally come in all shapes and sizes. So, if you feel that she's playing games with you, that's because she is.

#3 Stay away from friends of friends. If you're only interested in casual dating and hooking up with different women, then my advice to you would be to stay away from your friend's friend. Have you ever heard of the phrase, “don't shit where you eat”? This scene could get messy if it doesn't go as planned, and usually it never goes as planned.

#4 Focus on her. Don't take her to a place where all your friends are going to be. Take her someplace where the two of you can sit together and really get to know each other. She'll have time to meet your friends if it goes well. Limit the distractions as much as you can.

#5 Stay away from the “ex” talk. I know you've had bad experiences. We've all had bad experiences, but it doesn't mean you need to share it. At least, not now. Don't bombard her with stories about your exes, save that for your third date.

The first date is all about getting to know her and vice versa. She doesn't need to know you're crazy right away.

#6 Don't aim to get laid. You find her attractive. We all know this or else you wouldn't be asking her out. But your goal, unless you made it clear you want something casual and sex-based, shouldn't be to get laid on the date. If you wanted that, text your booty call. If you really like her, get to know her. The sex will come.

#7 Keep your alcohol to a limit. If your first dates consist of you getting wasted and wondering why they never call you back, well, I found out why. Have a drink, have two drinks, but you shouldn't be wasted, throwing up in the bathroom. No one wants to be a babysitter for their date.

#8 Keep your cellphone out of sight. If you're on a date with her, don't put your cellphone on the table. That will only cause distractions. Put your cellphone away. You're the one who asked her out, right? So, you need to show her that you're interested. If you're not, then why even go on a date? Keep the cellphone out of sight, she'll be impressed.

#9 Keep it light. This isn't the time for you to talk about deep things and try to get into her head. When you start dating someone, you're feeling the waters, seeing who they are on a basic level. If you want to really get to know them, well, that will take years. No joke, it takes years.

#10 Listen! As a woman, you're naturally a better listener than men, but sometimes we slip up. When you're on a date, make sure you're listening to what she's saying. She'll tell you small details about herself, it's your job to keep your ears open. Repeat these details back to her during a story, she'll be impressed that you listened.

#11 Know when to end the date. The purpose of the date isn't to spend hours and hours together until you're both exhausted. You want to leave a good impression, an impression that has them coming back for more. So, keep the date short.

Do activities like dinner, coffee, or for a walk by the beach. Don't do a day-long activity. Remember, she doesn't know you.

#12 Aim low. I know you want this date to work out amazingly and for her to fall in love with you, slow down. This is the first date. You're not getting married, she's not going to want to meet your family or move in with you. Oh, and don't think she's your girlfriend. Just breathe.

#13 Text her after you split. When the date is over and you want to see her again, text her. You don't need to wait two days to text her. Make sure you show you're interested in seeing her again. Who knows, you may start a never ending conversation via text which is always a good thing.

#14 Didn't go well? Next! There's no point being bummed out if your date didn't go well with her. We all have bad dates, and you won't click with every girl you meet. Don't let this discourage you. Shake it off and move onto the next chick.

No one said the dating world was easy. When it comes to the lesbian one, it's a little bit different. But if you follow these lesbian dating rules, you'll rock it.